I used to just rephrase the question as a new question back or argument back, like a lawyer. It's a shut out argument. For example - "sex isn't important in a relationship, why do you think sex is so important? That's stupid. (more rant, including things like men are tired, they work hard, blah blah blah) Spending time is important." "you don't get to tell me sex isn't important anymore. You choose to have sex alone instead of with me, so don't make me feel bad for wanting to have sex with you. Clearly sex is important.. And you thought so too. You just didn't think it was important With me." My last gaslight. He stopped cutting chicken and just stood there.