My mind wants a substitute!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Ghost79, Jul 21, 2019.

  1. Ghost79

    Ghost79 Fapstronaut

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    Whenever I try to starve myself from porn, my mind is giving me stronger sexual fantasies and making me do perverted acts that can get me into trouble!
    Like secretly taking pictures with of women's legs or trying to catch looking a woman with skirt standing up from her chair.

    Am I alone in this? Anyone got advice for me?
     
  2. Pjco

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    Hi. I hope you are still on this forum.
    I’m a little in the same boat. I don’t try and take pictures, but certainly finding it difficult to not glance at legs/ fantasise about underwear, look at women’s behinds as they walk past me etc. It’s certainly not something I’m proud of, and would like to know if you (or anyone else) have worked on strategies about changing this behaviour. Abstaining from PMO itself seems rather easy in contrast to these sites and turn ons in everyday life.
     
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  3. blotter

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    in both the east and in the bible they recommend seeing women as moms/sisters.

    People like to trip out on the idea of infinite universes and the infinite 'yous' appearing in them, but not as many are so eager to take to another logical step in this line of thought. For this thinking to hold up it would necessitate that all beings have been your mother at one point. And this is what is taught in the east.

    Whether that is accurate is sort of irrelevant if youre using this concept to train yourself out of a negative behavior. And if you do apply it I trust that it will work. It helps remove the reactive tunnel vision you described over time, by giving ourselves a wider lense to look through. Obviously you can not do this with someone if you develop feelings for them.

    Give it a shot for a bit! Fair warning you might find women becoming more attracted to you when this veil of want and lust is removed
     
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  4. I guess all you can do is tell your mind to fuck off and show it who's boss.
     
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  5. Rex salazar

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    Mr
    You have given the best and sweetest answer I have ever heard on any site I love you sir thank you for giving me my purpose
     
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  6. Pjco

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    I will work on that thought notion of sister/mother strategy. Thank you for that.
     
  7. Ghost79

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    Yes since I have allowed myself to masturbate no more then twice a week, mine perversity has reduced alot! It is when I try to go on a total NoFap that I am starting to have a voyeur kind of acts which can get me into trouble. But since I have allowed myself a limited amount of faps, I have not felt the need to take secretly photos of women but I still stare sometimes at one that I find attractive.
     

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