My Name is Conni......

My name is Conni and I have a dilemma. I have been an escort for the last 10 years and have noticed a very sharp increase in young men (under 30) that cannot either get or maintain an erection to penetration and/or orgasm, regardless of the activity we are involved at the time. Most gentlemen over 50 have some degree of ED and that is normal but I have noticed it is damn near epidemic proportions in younger men recently. My apologies in advance if I offend anyone by posting here. I have the following to say:

Sex with a partner is a tandem event. I like what I do & I am damn good at it. Men as young as 25 that seek my services are having this problem, and trust me, it is not my appearance or my talents that are causing my dilemma. Their eyes are shut tight, they are obviously in another worId in which I do not reside and will not communicate to me what they need or desire. Many times I am left feeling like a receptical in which to just rub one out. I am no longer involved in the equation and I may as well not even be in the room anymore. As an escort, I understand my position as a receptical. Men like variety. There is no attachment. I get that. I wouldn't do what I do if I didn't understand my role in this. But lately, it doesn't matter if I give the best oral on the planet, when I turn my attention away from Mr Johnson for 2 seconds to grab a condom, he immediately disappears and I have to start all over again. More often that not, my tricks finish between my tits, as they rarely get hard enough for intercourse.

My mouth or my vagina will NEVER be as tight as your fist, nor can they move as fast as your fist. I cringe when I see gentlemen grabbing themselves so tightly and jerking so vigorously. It hurts to watch and I don't even own a penis. I can say without a doubt, younger men that have grown up with porn in one hand and their cock in the other, meaning since the onset of streaming porn to your cell phone, have the majority of PIED issues I encounter. Some of these young men have barely been on a date, much less spent any time with a real, breathing, human woman. The following analogy applies: watching a lot of NASCAR does not make you a better driver. Neither does watch a lot of porn make you a better lover. I am sorry to say that, but its reality. Get married and have a couple kids and it becomes even more of a reality. Your wife or girlfriend will never do the things you see in pornos. Add in performance anxiety, blood pressure and diabetic meds and you can see where this train wreck goes.

Women in your personal life assume the 'Its me' defensive posture. You don't know how to communicate 'Its not you' posture and some men eventually seek my services and/or most continue to watch porn....... and here we are. I get it. Your partner is not as hot as women you see in porn. She wont perform the same acts you see in porn. She doesn't want to fuck anymore. Shes too tired. Shes too fat to turn you on. First, take a gander at yourself in the mirror before you use those excuses. But, I digress. You have to WANT TO reboot or settle for a life of sex with your hand. End of story.

Regardless of your rationalization, it doesn't matter. If you continue down this road, in time even your hand wont get you off anymore.
Think about it. We are the only mammal that thinks of sex all day but never HAS any. You are an addict in the same group as those hooked on heroin or crack or gambling or over-eating. The next hit will be better, the next bet I make will win etc etc etc. Instead of wasting your money, your life or your health like the aforementioned addictions, you are wasting your sexuality. You should all be rock stars in bed til way after your 50s and shouldn't NEED blue pills or other vices (with the exception of other medical conditions) to get you there. You have to rewire your brain FIRST and your Johnson will follow.

I do not own a penis. I do not claim to know what it is like to have one either. But I have seen and interacted with many dicks over the years and I am sad. As a bystander to this developing epidemic, I encourage you all to look long and hard (pardon the pun) at what brought you to NOFAP in the first place. Don't give up. It is not an overnight fix. It takes TIME, lots of TIME. Listen to the wise men on this site giving you advice and be happy they are here to guide you. More importantly, be happy you had the wisdom to find NOFAP in the first place. You have at least acknowledged the problem. That step is half the battle. This site is a God-send! Stay the course & you will have a renewed and healthy sex life again.