My perfectionism is real, and it gets me everytime

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by rafaeloey, Jun 1, 2018.

  1. rafaeloey

    rafaeloey Fapstronaut

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    So I relapsed yesterday, and for the umpteenth time I believe it is because of my perfectionism. I caught myself staring at stranger's ass for a few seconds, and even though it was partly unintentional, the guilt rose and my evil mind started rationalizing that I had made a mistake, I had made my streak unclean, and if I don't jack it off today asap, the urge will be strong for the next couple days and it will haunt me until I masturbate. AND I FREAKIN' KNOW THAT THESE ARE COMPLETE LIES MY MIND MAKES AS EXCUSES TO RELAPSE. But I lost every time I tried to resist the urge. Damn OCD. Does anyone has an advice how to get rid of this?
     
  2. Fork2323

    Fork2323 Fapstronaut

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    Just simplify it and make your goal to only not masturbate and to not look at any porn. If you see an attractive women its ok. Some people do the 3 seconds rule. They let them look at a sexy girl for 3 seconds then look away, this lets them be ok. I dont follow that. As long as I did not M then i did nothing wrong. The lust of the mind may take years to drain away, but M can stop today. Just have your goal to do no no M. And let looking be ok.
     
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  3. arush1001

    arush1001 Fapstronaut

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    Just observe your mind and don't take action, let it shout. One day your mind will accept that masturbation is not an option anymore.
     
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  4. rafaeloey

    rafaeloey Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I have done that, I keep saying to myself that it's not perfection, it's about improvement. I tried to stick this to my belief and mind, but damn.... I keep failing. It's like my mind has set a rule that if I make mistake, relapse is a must as a punishment. And I tried to avoid mistakes, but it's impossible. I'll try harder. And anyway thank you so much for the advice bro, I gotta try that 3 seconds rule.
     
  5. rafaeloey

    rafaeloey Fapstronaut

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    To observe my mind and let it shout, got it. Thank you for the enlightenment. I relapsed again just now because of the same cause.
     
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  6. rafaeloey

    rafaeloey Fapstronaut

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    Bros, I relapsed again. Damn it stresses me out. I keep making mistakes and I keep putting pressure and not forgiving myself. I really wanna get rid of this OCD.
     

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