My plan to approach 100 females

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by pornfree4ever, Sep 7, 2018.

  1. pornfree4ever

    pornfree4ever Fapstronaut

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    Brief info about me:
    I am 31 years old who has never been on a date. I tried online dating and approached 10 girls years back but nothing worked. I decided to see escorts because I needed badly to get in touch with a female body. This has led me to discover that I have a PIED, so I started my NoFap (hard mode) journey more than 100 days ago.

    My plan:
    - I will approach 2 random females on my college campus every week.
    - If I failed to get a date after every 10 approaches (takes 5 weeks), I will reward myself with a date&sex with an escort.
    - If the total number of my approaches reached 100 (takes about 1 years), and I never got a date or a gf, I will quit approaching females for the rest of my life.

    Why I am doing this?
    Trying and failing 100 times is less worse than not trying at all. I want to have an answer to my 80 years old self if he asks: 'Why did not you even try?'.
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    Please let me know if you think you have a better plan than what I have laid out. I am simply playing the numbers game here.
     
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  2. FlyingPizza

    FlyingPizza Fapstronaut

    I would say the "reward" is too high for the effort and it could sabotage your attempts. If, at 10 failed attempts, you get to date and have sex with an escort, you could subconsciously try to be extra awkward just to fail so you have a justification for going to the escort, who will actually guarantee you sex, whereas a date will not.

    Is there something else you really want that could help you stay motivated?
     
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  3. sayonaraPMO

    sayonaraPMO Fapstronaut

    I agree with @FlyingPizza, the failure reward is unnecessary and damaging to your growth. Sex is about real intimacy, not something you pay for.

    As you know from doing 100 days hard-mode, masturbation and ejaculation are not actually needed in our lives. Focus on the dating and less on the sex. You can do it bro
     
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  4. pornfree4ever

    pornfree4ever Fapstronaut

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    The thing is I need to have sex periodically. If it is not from a normal girl, then let it be from a sex worker. I cannot try and fail mindlessly for months and months without sex. That would only hurt my self-esteem. My theory about this specific reward is to make me "less needy" by having I-don't-give-a-shit attitude. I don't want to "try too hard" to get into a girl's pants.
     
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  5. pornfree4ever

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    Honestly, the only reason I did the hard-mode reboot is to cure my ED. I plan to switch to easy mode (not using porn only) as soon as my PIED is cured.

    Yes, there is no real intimacy in having sex with an escort. But I think of escorts as an advanced form of sex robots. Imagine having sex with a sex robot from the year 2090. She would probably be very human like in terms of skin, breathing, talking etc. Fortunately, we have that future sex robot right now, we just call it 'escort'.
     
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  6. Karimtolstoi

    Karimtolstoi Fapstronaut

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    I totally disagree with your approach man. You don't have to approach 200 girls. Only focus your efforts on girls who will potentially like you : it means girls who share the same views, same style of life with you. If you don't like the way you live you have to improve it to get along with the women you find attractive.
    Also "rewarding yourself with escorts" will only create an additional problem because hoing out with prostitutes could be addictive.
     
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  7. this is what your mindset has to be about everything if you want to succed: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” by Henry Ford

    picking up people is easier than you think, even without experience. the other people haven't all figured it out as you think they had. girls are normal people, don't be afraid. think you are at the same level as them because you are! let's go, getting out of your comfort zone is always a great stuff :)
     
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  8. koolpal

    koolpal Fapstronaut

    You need a better plan.

    There's a bunch of PUA books out there, but I found these more realistic & scientific:
    • "Mate: Become the Man Women Want" [link]
    • "The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want" [link]
    Hope you find what you're looking for.
     
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  9. lovelyDay

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    For me sounds like a good plan bro! :)

    This is the essence: "Trying and failing 200 times is less worse than not trying at all. I want to have an answer to my 80 years old self if he asks: 'Why did not you even try?"

    Read some guides before you start like how to catch women for example (excellent) to increase Your chances.

    Also, feel free to give us "report", not when finish, but something like on a weekly level. It will be interested for us when reading, and motivational for you since you know that you have your "supporters" :)
     
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  10. pornfree4ever

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    I understand that this is what most guys end up doing; dating females from their social circles who think they might get along. I do not have females in my non-existent social circle to begin with. But even if I had, it would be awkward for me if I asked out a classmate/coworker and she said no. That is why I am choosing to approach random girls that I don't know, because I don't want to see their face again if they said no :oops:. My inspiration for this idea is some youtube videos I've watched of dudes picking up random chicks on college campuses lol.
     
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  11. pornfree4ever

    pornfree4ever Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the references. I think I am currently at a point in my life where I need to take action even if it is not perfect or highly successful. I watched many videos/lectures in the past about PUA but the information overload and the many ideas in PUA oftentimes give me anxiety and discourage me from taking actions.
     
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  12. pornfree4ever

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    Thanks :). Yeah, I've considered posting a log/report of my successes and rejections along the way. But now that you have mentioned it, tells me it is a good idea. The community here are nice and supportive.
     
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  13. koolpal

    koolpal Fapstronaut

    Yup, go for it dude! Take action & see how it goes! You can do it!
     
  14. torrace

    torrace Fapstronaut

    Good, do give it a try. But try a subtle approach, only ask them out if there are common interest.

    I wouldn't recommend it as it makes it seem like sex is the endgame to getting a girlfriend (which should never be the case).

    Please don't give up so easily. Sometimes it elimination by quantity doesn't work. You might need timing and luck.
     
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  15. Hitto

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    Why base your self esteem on things and people other than yourself that’s always a losing game and never leads to peace or fulfillment pleasure doesn’t always lead to happiness
     
  16. lovelyDay

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    Well if that helps him to share with us, then why not? :)
     
  17. lovelyDay

    lovelyDay Fapstronaut

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    So OP, any news/progress?
     
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  18. pornfree4ever

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    It is easier said than done, my friend. I believe I am good looking, but every time I get rejected I start doubting myself. Am I really good looking, or just delusional? Why did she reject me? did she think I was creepy? etc etc. Every time you get rejected you get one more evidence that you are undesirable to another female. It messes with your head.
     
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  19. pornfree4ever

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    I am keeping a personal excel sheet of my approaches and progress. I have approached 4 females so far over the past two weeks. Here are the results:

    1. She said yes for a coffee and pretended to enter her number into my phone. I found out later that she pressed on 'Cancel' instead of 'Done'!
    2. I asked her for a coffee, she said she is "busy".
    3. "I have a boyfriend".
    4. She said she is "talking to someone" but I managed to get her phone number. I texted her but no answer yet. Might be a fake number, I don't know.
     
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  20. pornfree4ever

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    Note: I edited and changed the total number in my original plan from 200 to 100. One hundred seems like a good enough sample size.
     
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