My problem with BDSM

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Loup Garou, Aug 10, 2018.

  1. Loup Garou

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    I started watching porn when I was 13, at the start I watched "ordinary" porn but passing the time I got bored and I discovered BDSM category, most of all Ballbusting. My problem is that after all this year watching this kind of porn, a simple nutshot causes me a boner and urges.
    I need to control this aspect of myself but i really don't know how to do. For example: I'm watching a movie and there's a ballbusting scene (even very simple), I get excited.
    I don't know really what to do because this thing is ruining my NoFap, I'm not too strong to stop these feelings.
     
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  2. Abetterbrain

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    There is not much you can do apart from trying to limit your exposure to it and remain strong to resist urges. I have the same thing with bondage. If I'm watching a film and see a woman bound and gagged (which is very common) it triggers me.
     
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  3. JouleTrader

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    Yup, same here (seeing a woman bound and gagged)
     
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  4. ALEX_88

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    it happens to me too with the ballbusting ... how is it going ??
     
  5. GaryMayor

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    Guys! You will see a lot of triggering things in your life and you don't need to masturbate every time. You need to control yourself and avoid thinking about it, imaging related stuff and so on. Weird things turn you on, because you watched them - when you stop watching it you will most likely return to a normal state. If you really cannot resist then simple just don't watch movies at all. You can life without movies, without social media and other stuff... It is always about defining your priorities.
     
  6. Abetterbrain

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    I've had this fetish since I was 3-4 years old. It's a part of me and I love it. Wouldn't want to get rid of it as its not problematic and is part of my healthy sex life.
     
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  7. ALEX_88

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    maybe I can not accept it .... how do you do it?
     
  8. GaryMayor

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    It is okay to like different things, totally agree, but not being able to resist when you see tied up girl (or whatever else) in the movie is just not good. How can you imagine healthy relationship, when you will have boner every time some girl is hurt in movie? At some point of my life I had almost only BDSM style sex, always. Now I can enjoy normal, vanilla sex and more kinky as well. I can see how beautiful can be sex with somebody you love, instead of next submissive chick. Really...
     
  9. Abetterbrain

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    As do I my friend. I have both vanilla and kinky sex.
     
  10. Abetterbrain

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    Wha
     
  11. Abetterbrain

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    Fucked that up sorry...

    What is it you cannot accept?
     
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  12. ALEX_88

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    The fact of having such strange fantasies ... hardly feasible, and that do not lead to a healthy sexuality
     
  13. Abetterbrain

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    I don't know where you are getting those ideas from. Studies show that couples who engage in sexual fantasies such as BDSM are happier and have better mental health.
     
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    [QUOTE = "Abetterbrain, post: 1656960, membro: 156969"] Le persone che sono nel sesso vizioso possono essere psicologicamente più sani di quelli che non lo sono, dice un nuovo studio. I ricercatori hanno scoperto che le persone coinvolte nel BDSM - schiavitù, disciplina, sadismo e masochismo - hanno ottenuto punteggi migliori su alcuni indicatori di salute mentale rispetto a quelli che non hanno portato il kink in camera da letto, ha riferito LiveScience.

    I agree with you ... but I'm afraid of having erections only with BDSM, it's already happened da Huff Post [/ QUOTE]
     
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    [QUOTE = "ALEX_88, post: 1658536, membro: 219561"] [QUOTE = "Abetterbrain, post: 1656960, membro: 156969"] Le persone che sono nel sesso vizioso possono essere psicologicamente più sani di quelli che non lo sono, dadi un nuovo studio. I Ricercatori Hanno Scoperto Che le PERSONE coinvolte nel BDSM - schiavitù, disciplina, sadismo e masochismo - Hanno ottenuto Punteggi Migliori do ALCUNI indicatori di salute mentale RISPETTO un Quelli che non Hanno Portato Il nodo in camera da letto Ti, ha riferito LiveScience.

    Sono d'accordo con te ... ma ho paura di avere erezioni solo con BDSM, è già successo
     
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    [QUOTE = "ALEX_88, post: 1658536, membro: 219561"] [QUOTE = "Abetterbrain, post: 1656960, membro: 156969"] Le persone che sono nel sesso vizioso possono essere psicologicamente più sani di quelli che non lo sono, dadi un nuovo studio. I Ricercatori Hanno Scoperto Che le PERSONE coinvolte nel BDSM - schiavitù, disciplina, sadismo e masochismo - Hanno ottenuto Punteggi Migliori do ALCUNI indicatori di salute mentale RISPETTO un Quelli che non Hanno Portato Il nodo in camera da letto Ti, ha riferito LiveScience.

    Sono d'accordo con te ... ma ho paura di avere erezioni solo con BDSM, è già successo da Huff Post [/ QUOTE] [/ QUOTE]
    Sono d'accordo con te ... ma ho paura di avere erezioni solo con BDSM, è già successo
     

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