My road to recovery

Good day from South Africa to all the Fapstronaughts, I am a 21 year old Male who currently learnt that is suffering from the Death Grip syndrome.

I started Masturbating at the age 13, and back then I could masturbate by only using my imagination, but as time went on it became harder and harder to reach climax, so I started to watch porn to reach my goal.

When I got to 15 years, which was the first time I had sex, I did not reach the climax, and the girl ended up saying we should stop because she could not take it anymore. At first I thought maybe it was because of the condom and I did not even stop my masturbating habit.


All these 3 years until 2014 I have been having sex with no success of an orgasm and in my mind I thought it was because of Condoms, and I ended up hating them, so from 2014 I also got into another relationship with another girl which was a virgin, so on our first time we did not use condoms, and in my experience it took about an hour to reach climax, and from there onwards everytime I had sex with anyone it took exactly around that time(I have dated multiple girls but I have never had multiple sex partners at once, I only have unprotected sex with a trusted partner).

This Elongated period of Ejaculation took a toll on some of my relationships because most of my partners would end up saying they've had enough and we should stop, but on 2014 I experienced an orgasm for the first time.

So we carried on dating with this girl up until october 2015, and the whole 2016 I was still recovering from that breakup, so I had no sexual partners at all, therefore I resorted to isolating myself and porn.

it is now 2017, and I have been talking with this other girl, she is 24 and I'm 21 and we decided to start our relationship exactly at the 1st of January 2017.

On March I rented a Guesthouse for 3 days so we could spend some time together, and our first attempt things went horrible, I could not climax nor feel any sensation on my penis, but the erection was strong, and she also complained about some sharp pain on her cervix(Mainly caused by thrusting deep). So I gave her a breather and tried again, still no success and she ended up crying, so I felt bad and I suggested we should stop, and that was 1 condom gone to waste.


Second time was also not so different from the first time, so she started thinking maybe she was the problem, but I assured her that it wasn't, but this time I managed to Ejaculate WITH a condom!!! first time in my life!!! and it felt great!!, so she got less worried.

And as the days went on with us having sex 3 times per day, I noticed how the sensation rapidly came back to the penis, and on our last night having sex I think I only lasted about 30-45 Minutes!! and I did feel a very nice sensation all the way!!

I am no specialist in these things, but I know for sure that I am still suffering from this Syndrome because the first 2 days when she gave me oral sex I felt absolutely nothing, but I think on Night 3 my senses were restored,but sadly she did not give me oral sex so I currently do not know how it feels.

But as far as my experience goes, I also think having sex alone also helps "reminding" the penis how to recognize the sensation that vaginal sex brings, if someone thinks otherwise please come forward and help me throughout this.

By the way we will be renting the guesthouse again next month on the second week for the whole 5 days, and I joined this community to help me get through my porn addiction for good and so I can not masturbate until the day I get to be with her, and most importantly, quit porn and Masturbation for Good!!

 

Thanks for the kind welcome, After I read up on this diagnosis I decided to limit the number of times I masturbate, I realized I have been doing so many things wrong, like not using lubricant, masturbating every day of the week, and sometimes twice per day.


So I started by decreasing the number of times I masturbate to once per week, with lubricant ofcourse, and also try various tactics of light touches so I can regain sensation, the improvement is very small for now noticeable