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  1. coldbrew123

    coldbrew123 Fapstronaut

    Hello everyone!

    I have a long history with PMO that has expressed itself in various ways throughout my life. I'm also married, my wife doesn't know about the way this struggle saturates my life. She thinks the last time I saw P was years ago. I'm afraid to tell her because she already deals with depression/anxiety and alcoholism and I want to be a rock for her. I'm honestly just afraid she'll hate me for how I've hurt her if she knew. I'm also afraid it would crush her spirit. I've wanted to find others to confess to and bring along side me for years now but have been afraid they would force me to confess to her as well so now I finally found this website. I am asking you all to be the person for me, with me.

    A core desire that I find myself trying (in vain) to fulfill with PMO is just feeling desirable. I don't get much of that from my wife, and so I found myself trying to get it from PMO, secretly going to places like hooters. The final straw was a couple of times that I actually went to a strip club alone. It's so unlike me that it was what made me realize my desires were just out of control. And now I'm just sick of the lies to myself and to my partner.

    It all started with PMO and now here I am. I think we have a beautiful ability to train our own appetites, which is what rebooting is all about I think. I want to reclaim a healthy sexuality. I want to be the person I have been made to be, and to be a fiercely loyal husband. I want to reclaim the joy to be had in finding my fulfillment of all those core desires in my purpose with God. Will you come along side me?
  2. Timeon

    Timeon Fapstronaut

    Thanks for sharing. I hear ya. We are all in the same boat. I did the same with my wife. The thing is, she was also addicted to PMO. And that added to fuel to the fire. From a biblical perspective, that is not what God's design for marriage is.
    As the apostle Paul says in Romans 7:15 "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do."

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