My story + your advice

Hello everyone. Before I start, I need to tell you that I will be totally honest with you. I have no idea how to start but I am sure this will be helpful for those that are starting in this journey.

I'm 22 years old and the reason why I stopped watching porn, masturbating and orgasming is kind of funny. I was reading an article about sexual health or something similar and there was a specific section dedicated to morning woods. When I finished to read the entire section, I realised I couldn't recall the last time I had a morning wood. I felt as if there were something wrong with me. And that was the beginning of my journey. I started on the 15th of April. The pandemic was all over the world and I was spending all day in my house. It was pretty hard to start staying all day at home, but I did it anyways.

This is the first time I've attempted to stop watching porn. My porn addiction started when I was 15 years old. I think today is the day 107 without porn, masturbation and orgasm. No relapse. It feels good to achieve something like this. I can say I feel proud of myself.

I do not want to talk about urges that much, but it is something that needs to be clarified. Urges are your worst enemy. You already know that. I have no idea what I did to beat them. It's like I haven't even fought against urges because since I started, I knew that I wasn't going to masturbate. Urges where there, all the time, because our lifes are extremely exposed to naughty stuff. Youtube is full of thumbnails with hot girls, movies and series with sexual scenes, music with naughty lyrics, videogames with kinky animations, and the list can go on. You cannot scape from that. You have to accept it. They will always be there. But I haven't relapsed. Do you want to know how? Yeah, me too. I have no idea how did I manage to fight agains them. As I said before, the only thing I knew is that I was not going to masturbate nor wach porn. That's the only advice I have for you. There were some times in which I've seen a naked woman on the TV or in any social network, but that didn't make me go and relapse. No masturbation nor porn is the label my brain has attached. And I am sure I will keep it.

I guess you want to know about the good things I've experienced. I do not want to write that much about this but if you want, I can make another post for it. Since I started NoFap, I haven´t felt low. I am more confident and I consider myself pretty valuable. I am proud of myself. Of course, I used to have this feeling sometimes in my life, but it feels different now. Unfortunately, I haven't had the opportunity to meet anybody after starting NoFap due to the pandemic so there are some good things I am not aware of at the moment. Another good thing you should know is that my penis get hard with anything. I am in total control of my organ right now. I can think about something naughty and I get erect with ease. I feel happy for that.

The reason why I decided to create an account and write this is because I need a little help on something else. I am a virgin and I feel extremely bad because of that. In fact, not only a virgin. I haven't had intimacy with any girl in my entire life and I am 22 years old. I guess the fact that I am 22 years old puts a lot more of pressure on me. I feel as if I were missing something huge. I have no idea why all this happened. I haven't approached anyone and I do not like going out to parties or that kind of activities. I prefer more close friend activities. I only told one girl I was in love with her but she rejected me. I started NoFap because I was scared about my morning woods. Today, I stay on the joruney because I want to have sex, as simple as that. I know I have grown in many aspects of my life, I am proud of myself and I know I am a really good person. But being a virgin is something I can't stand.

Do you have any advice for me regarding this? I do not want to wait until the right one appears or something like that. The only thing I do not want to do is to hire an escort.

In conclusion, I am sure there are many things I've forgotten to mention, but this was the best I could. I will read and answer everyone of you. If you have reached this far, thank you so much. You have dedicated your precious time to read things about me, thanks again. Seriously, thanks. I appreciate it a lot.

 

You have a great point here. And yes... It does not matter to me being a virgin, but the social pressure under it.
Its been 107 days now and I am sure good things are about to happen.
Thank you so much for being part of the change and for the answer. It means a lot.

 

I've read a lot of comments like this in other posts but once they are talking to you it hits differently.
Thank you so much for your words. It gave me an unexpected boost.

 

Hello mate.
Don't you think you have missed something?
I mean, I would love to have intimacy with someone and it's been 22 years now. I do not want to wait more.
It bothers me a lot, I do not know how to fight against that.

Thank you for taking some time to answer me, it means a lot.

 

Hey mate. Sorry for late response. I haven't received any notifications from this and I totally forgot.
I'm aware a lot of people regreat of theirs young sexual experiences. I usually think about it.

But I don't know. I feel different now. Maybe is my high libido or something, but I really want to have an intimacy time with a girl.
I've been working on my self esteem for a while. I'm feeling pretty confident despite all the bad physical features I have. But sometimes I feel like nobody is going to show up if I don't try harder. All my friends have had girlfriends and everything. That makes me feel strange. I'm constantly feeling I am missing something important.

One of the worst things that sometimes happens is when I think that there is nobody out there for me. That usually hits me hard. But I guess that is related with self confidence.

I don't know mate. It is a huge weight I carry. I have no idea how to deal with it.

Thank you so much for your answer and sorry for my late response. I hope you are doing well.

 

What do you mean by that?

 

Thank you for clarifying this. I understand you better now.
I'm developing and finding what I want at the moment. Also, I'm trying to put aside the pressure.
But the sex hunger is there, anyways.

The good thing is I want something that is natural not fake as porn.
That's a good change.

Anyways, thank you mate for everything.
I appreciate it!

 

I totally agree with you on this. I've heard that a lot.
But I do not want to wait anymore. I'm not sure if there is a right one for me. I guess I preffer not to wait. That doesn't mean I will be having sex with an escort or any girl that shows up in my life. But at the same time, if I have the opportunity, I won't think too much.

Maybe I'm wrong. I have no idea to be honest.

Thanks mate for your words. It means a lot for me.

Take care!

 

I think that's even harder than no PMOing for me.
Thanks for the advise mate. It means a lot!