MY TOP 10 TIPS FOR QUITTING (CHRISTIAN)

These are my top 10 tips. I hope they are helpful.

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   10. Fight frustration that others cause. We can argue with others for hours or for seconds. We can be upset with others for hours or for seconds. We can pray consistently that God will help us decrease in anger, help us to stop arguing, and help us to focus on other things instead of being upset with others.
   
   Fight frustrations that we cause ourselves. Some of us choose to live our life in a way that causes us pain. Then when the pain blasts us, we fall. The key is to realize that we must stop making choices that cause us intense pain. Because otherwise, it is hard to quit.
   
   Key point: We are at our greatest temptation point when our frustration make us feel like we are justified to fall. But these points are the crossroads to where we can find joy, power, and freedom when we pass the test.
   
   9. We need to be able to survive a bad day. No matter how hard we try to live right, bad days will happen. It is wise to pray to be tough, fight through it and believe that tomorrow will be better. When bad days happen get into your activities list and get active. It really helps.
   
   8. Plan and prepare for war. Have a journal and fill it with tips and articles about how to quit. Every day, add a bit more. Every day, study the key tips for you. Every day, do what you need to do to renew your mind and habits. It works.

7. Increase your faith. Read the Case for Christ (Strobel). This book gives a mountain of evidence that Christianity is real. Read the Bible (faith cometh by hearing the Word of God). Believe every verse in the Bible as written.

6. Triggers: Have a concrete plan for every trigger you have. It is vital to be instant and aggressive in turning. It is vital to develop habits of being totally prepared for the things that trigger you. Renew your effort every day.

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   5. Have a long term focus. Addictions fun/thrill is short term and it leads to depression. Be determined to have a great life, a great year and a great month. Michael Jordan got championships because his only focus was on championships. Think about a great year, then a great month, then a great week. Pray about it 5 times every day.
   
   I am long term focused in everything except... I need to stop being stupid.
   
   4. Prayer: This is a complicated one because prayer does work when we start trying to fight to obey the Bible. You can read the article “praying with power” for more info on this. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/pray-with-power.320467/
   
   3. Activities: We are told repeatedly to have a list of activities to try. Try things, stick with them for a few days. Keep trying new things. At some point you will like some of these activities.
   
   2. Positive addictions: A positive addiction is an activity that you now love, do often, and are excited about. You try jogging, piano, guitar, writing, chess, prayer, and now love it so much that you do it for hours. It has changed from being a distraction idea into something you crave.
   
   I have become obsessed with sports. This was by design. Now I watch a lot less risky TV.
   
   1. Fight temptation with the top Bible verses for quitting.
2. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/the-1-way-to-fight-temptation.323359/
3. Whip out that list of verses and go over them, repeat, repeat, repeat. It is impossible to say these verses too often. It is hard for satan to continue to tempt you for long when you quote them (but he will try again). When he tries again whip out your verses again. He really does not like that game at all.
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   He only beat Adam and Eve because they did not use this technique. Jesus used this technique and satan did not beat Him.
   
   Write your own top 10 skills. Then be obsessed with them and live them. You can do it.
   
   I wrote this article based in part by some of the material from STA. Their link is https://stoptheaddictions.com/home-page/sex-porn-freedom/sex-porn-freedom-in-30-days-day-9/

 

A desire for normal pleasure leads to a focus on pleasure that is short-term and one that controls and enslaves us. A desire for the Holy Spirit's self-control leads to a type of pleasure that is clean and long-term.

We increase self-control by decreasing bad things and increasing good things. One example of that is to cut out a risky TV show and replace it with a cleaner show. Another idea is to set up an hour of a new way of thinking. One hour in the day where you have the most temptation. We plan a new way of life for that hour.

Our long-term goal is to never give tempting thoughts even a split second of time. But our short-term goal is to fight to make this happen for that hour. We praise God consistently in that hour. We plan what we will think about. We are a positive thinker no matter what. We focus on a quitting P Bible verse. We focus on pure thoughts in that hour.

Then lastly and most importantly, we increase self-control by thinking before we act. But... not thinking for 1 minute or even 1 hour. This means thinking for 10 hours. While you are thinking you should read every Bible verse on the top 60 list for quitting P twice. You read your top 5 reasons to quit twice. Self-control is taking time to read about 5 articles from NoFap before we decide to act.

You may have noticed... I am really not recommending that you do any thinking while you are thinking. So let's change it to Self-control is fighting to get your mind straight before you act. Fighting for 10 hours to get your head right before you act. Self-control is reading before you act. Aggressively reading things that will encourage me to think long-term, to think the way Jesus would, and to think about feeding the right fire.

Self-control is not reactionary. We are taking our addiction to war. When we take our addiction to war... we can win. And when we make these actions habits, we will win.

 

LEARN FROM ADAM AND EVE
I was a newby loan officer. People would call our office and I would tell them our mortgage rate. But then they would thank me and not set up an appointment. But then one day another loan officer told me: After you tell them our rate, give them 5 benefits to doing the loan today. On my very next call that was what I did. I got the appointment. To succeed I needed to know exactly what to say.

Why did God show us how satan talked to Adam and Eve? One of the reasons was to show us that satan temps us just like he tempted them.

When we are tempted we need to know exactly what to say. Satan tells us what to think about, what to look at and what to do. And if our answer is a weak... no, or, I can't. We are going to lose. But when we are prepared we can win.

Every one of us has 3-5 specific reasons why we want to quit and why we should quit. Even more importantly we all have 5 benefits to quitting. Things like: Better relationships, being a better parent, improved finances when I get my self-control back, being able to do my job better, and most importantly having a great relationship with Jesus Christ again.

Here is what we didn't learn from Genesis, but we did learn it from Joseph. We learned how to do it right. A beautiful woman tried to seduce him. I guarantee you that he had 5 reasons why he wouldn't give in. And he was the wisest man in Egypt. He could likely list 10 benefits to himself if he did not give in.

Being completely prepared, he immediately fled the scene.

We can be completely prepared as well. We can write out 5 reasons on a note card of why we want to quit. We can write out 5 benefits to quitting. We can write out our goals for quitting.

Then when satan comes around and tempts us we read him a couple of lines from our card. When he doesn't give up – we start reading again.

Satan is brilliant and he is very mathematical. He is always calculating his odds of getting you into hell. When you fight back a little bit he drops you to his b list. Fight harder – c list, harder d list. When we fight back every time he drops us to the U list – the unlikely list. And people on the unlikely list get tempted way less. So my goal is to show him every single time what list he should have me on.

 

This is just my opinion, but I believe that God is very focused on prayers that are totally unselfish, that match up perfectly with the Bible.

Background: My wife makes about 15 pounds of candy and 15 pounds of cookies for the Christmas holidays. But I have only eaten 1 piece of candy so far. Why? It's healthier.

James 1:14-15
But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.

My desire is to be healthy. That is now my overwhelming desire.

It is harder, but it is similar with lust. Try this test. Say 100 times today: “My # 1 desire is to be free today.” When you are doing this exercise you will be surprised at how determined to quit you will be if severe temptation starts when you hit the 73rd time of saying it. Just repeating our goal over and over again starts to change us.

Pray, “Father, take away my spirit of lust, and make my desire freedom.” How many times should we pray that daily?

Pray, “Father, take away this sinful desire, and show me Your glory.” Read “The God Chasers.” Tommy Tenney fought to find the glory of God. And everyone can do the same exact thing.

Pray, “Father, “Help me to study Your Word when I am tempted.” It is a powerful thing to study Bible verses that pertain to your habit.

Pray, “Father, take away my spirit of lust, and make my desire purity.”

Pray, “Father, take away my spirit of lust, and make it my # 1 desire to do Your will.” This is from the Lord's prayer, “Not mine, but Your will be done.”

More tomorrow.

 

If we dedicate time every day to prayer things start to change. How fast they change is up to us. Have we stopped doing the things that lead to triggers? Have we started doing other things to replace the vacuum created by stopping the habit.

Have we put on the full armor of God. The first piece in our armor is the belt of truth. When we are tempted we study the Bible. Satan then tells us how great it will be to _____. He is lying and is trying to destroy our year, month, week and relationship with Jesus Christ. The Bible is telling us the truth. The truth that leads to a great life, and that is what leads to victory.

Next, we put on the breastplate of righteousness. Watch some Youtube video's on how to be righteous. Pray, “Father, take away this spirit of lust and show me how righteous living will help me.”

Next, we put on the gospel of peace. When we are frustrated and restless we tend to fall. When we fight to maintain peace in our minds, we can go to war and win. Pray: “Father, Take away my frustrations and give me Your Spirit of peace.”

Next, we hold up the shield of faith. I believe that the Bible way is always best. I believe that prayer starts to change us. I believe that God has a vital interest in my life and in your life.

Romans 6:16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.

We fight the evil one by faith. We fight against his temptation by studying the 60 Bible verses for quitting. Pray, “Father, take away my love of pleasure and increase my faith.” Pray over any of the verses that are important to you.

We put on the helmet of salvation. If you have never accepted Jesus you can do that today. Simply say, “Jesus, forgive me of my sins. Show me Your love and I will do Your will.”

If you are struggling remember. God wants people who believe, who have faith, who will fight forever to break free. No matter what, keep working and keep praying.

 

This post contains a list of clean TV shows and Christian ideas about quitting.

We do things that cause darkness in our lives. A wrong focus on money causes darkness. Smutty TV shows or movies bring darkness into our lives. And if the darkness gets too black we fall back to our main addiction and the destruction starts.

Someone commented to me about a recent article. He said, “I don't care about the destruction.” I have said those exact same words 1000 times. But that was the exact wrong thing to say even though I believed it. It was dead wrong because the destruction led to depression and the last thing I want is depression.

Don't say, “I don't care about the destruction.” God wants you to care about doing things His way. And His way leads to light and the beginning of joy in our lives. So take a line from the Lord's prayer and consider saying, “I care that Your will be done.” Say, “I want to live a stable life and I want to begin to have some self-control.”

One of the biggest keys to quitting addiction is to take an article and to apply it to your life. Maybe your issue is not a love of money or sinful TV. So you need to apply the article to your exact situation.

Think something like, if I don't forgive, darkness will enter my life (DWEML), if I stay angry, DWEML, if I don't connect with some good people, DWEML, If I don't focus on God's Word, DWEML. Take your top 2 issues and apply them to the article.

If you learn the skill of taking a good point about quitting and turning it into a great point for you. You will really make progress.

Today's prayer, “Father, take away my spirit of lust and show me what activities are pleasing to you.”

Lastly, some TV shows don't bring darkness into our lives. Here is a list of TV shows that Google says are Christian.

• The Chosen.
  
  
• Ties That Bind.
  
  
• Duck Dynasty.
  
  
• 7th Heaven.
  
  
• Sons Of Thunder.
  
  
• Tetelestai.
  
  
• The Bible.
  

Here is a list of shows on Netflix that momremade says are clean:

Highway to Heaven

• When Calls the Heart
  
  
• NCIS series (violence)
  
  
• Heartland
  
  
• Sweet Magnolias
  
  
• Land Girls
  
  
• Anne of Green Gables
  
  
• Anne With an “E”
  
  
• Gilmore Girls
  
  
• The Crown
  
  
• Fuller House
  
  
• Star Trek: The Next Generation
  
  
• Sister, Sister
  
  
• Crash Landing On You
  
  
• The Great British Baking Show
  
  
• Madam Secretary
  
  
• The West Wing
  
  
• Nailed It!
  
  
• Agents of Shield
  
  
• Pawn Stars
  
  
• Free Reign
  

Click here for the full article and even more clean options at the end of their article. https://momremade.com/100-best-clean-tv-shows-for-families-2020/#Clean_Shows_on_Amazon_Prime_2021

Clean TV is not a miracle cure for addiction. But risky TV leads to darkness and darkness leads to...

 

PRAYING THE LORD'S PRAYER

If we recite a prayer with no thought we will never get answers. Let's look at someone who got answers to copy how they did it.

David in Psalms 100 says to pray by entering into His gates with thanksgiving and into His courts with praise. Thanksgiving and praise in prayer teach us to focus on the good things we have. If I thank God for several good things that I have, it increases my contentment.

We can pray about that as well. Pray, “Father, take away my spirit of lust and help me to be content).” We will not need P at all if we are fully content.

After giving thanks we begin the great prayer.

Our Father, which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy Name.

Matthew Henry says that the phrase “Hallowed be thy Name” means that we Praise Jesus. We can pause at this point and praise Jesus for how He fills people and makes their lives better, or praise Him for what He did at the cross.

We have “All we need” with Jesus. When we pray sincerely, we start to understand that truth.

As we begin this great prayer our thoughts should be: How can we praise Him? What can we praise Him for?

This prayer is great and powerful. I will continue with this tomorrow.

 

THE BIBLE COMMANDS US TO HONOR THE SABBATH

Everyone with a severe habit is either not active enough or is too active.

When we are in the not active enough category we might want to spend the Sabbath going to church, reading the Bible, praying and then trying to push ourselves to try a hobby or two to try to fight addiction.

Pray: “Father, take away this spirit of lust and help me to be more active.”

When we are in the too active category we might want to spend the Sabbath going to church, reading the Bible, praying and then resting.

Pray: “Father, take away this spirit of lust and help me to be content.”

Things that we do in excess lead to trouble. In excess, things like gambling, drinking, gaming, searching the internet, working too much, or you fill in the blank ______, often lead back to addiction. Things in excess should be absolutely banned on the Lord's day. And we should be fully aware that things in excess on any day lead to extra temptation.

Pray, “Father, help me to be moderate in all things.” If you do things in excess it is really hard to pray this prayer too often.

Activities in excess often lead to exhaustion, depression and then addiction.

But, sometimes we have no choice but to work or study too much.

Pray: Father, take away my spirit of lust and give me a Spirit of toughness.”

Be aware of your activity level. Pray: “Father, help me to live in balance between doing too little and doing too much.”

 

Psalm 119:37
Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.

Turning instantly from looking at sinful things is a key to freedom. Turning instantly from thinking about anything that leads to addiction is vital. Turning instantly from negative emotions is a key to change.

Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of lust and help me to turn from worthless things.”

Secondly, negative emotions lead back to addiction. So we must identify what emotion leads us back to addiction and fight it aggressively.

Anger leads to addiction: Pray: Father, take away my spirit of anger and fill me with a Spirit of love.” I have prayed this prayer a zillion times. It really helped. Anger increases satans' control, and that leads to...

Pray: “Father, help me to repent instantly from anger.”

Thirdly, bitterness. Life has taken a left turn and we let bitterness take control. They said or did the wrong thing. If we choose to stay bitter we ruin our life. Staying bitter is the exact opposite of creating your own Garden of Eden. Fight bitterness as if it will steal your joy (it will).

Pray: “Father, help me to forgive and forget.”

Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of bitterness and fill me with Your love.”

Fourthly hopelessness. The Bible encourages us to always hope. The reason for this is because sometimes we can only see what we see. And when it is bad we lose hope. But Jesus sees you, in the future, when the Holy Spirit is fully in you. He sees the person who can take anything satan throws at them, and still is capable of doing His will.

Pray: “Father, help me to always hope.”

Finally, we look at the second half of the verse, “and give me life in your ways. Give me “life” means starting to live in God's joy, glory, presence, and love. If you want to see a sharp increase in these, pray this prayer often: “Father, show me Your ways and help me to do Your will.”



I have added 2 links that have a lot more on emotions.



https://stoptheaddictions.com/home-page/sex-porn-freedom/sex-porn-freedom-in-30-days-day-6/

https://thingsabove.us/9-common-emotional-situational-pornography-triggers/

 

Today, I have a stack of excuses a mile high as to why I can fall. 20 miles high really.
But I am giving up everything if I fall. And if I use my messed-up life as an excuse, I will have 1000 more excuses in the future to choose from.
God notices when you have 1000 reasons to fall and don't. He sees you when you are fighting hard.
If we understand that our mess plus Jesus equals a great life, then we will have a great life.

 

John 15 says: “[7] If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you. [8] Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.”

I like to think that abiding in Christ means spending a solid amount of time in prayer. But it likely is also talking about our thought life, what we watch, what we are talking about, and several others things we do that are not perfect.

Pray: “Father, take away my fantasies, and wrong thoughts and show me how to abide in You.”

Secondly, do Christs' words abide in me. The Bible says:

Ephesians 5:5 ESV
For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

These Words don't abide in me anywhere near enough. My priority is pleasure. Life stinks, so I have temptations to go worship at the altar of pleasure.

But I was always curious as to why Paul in the Bible sang and praised God when he was in jail. Maybe it was because Christ's Words did abide in him. Strongly, powerfully, and in a way that allowed the Holy Spirit to fill him up.

Lastly, just thinking about this verse (Ephesians 5:5) today gives me something to work on.

Pray: “Father, help me to not covet pleasure or money in excess.”

Please change the last half of this prayer to fit your situation.

In conclusion, my life is not going smoothly right now and I still have my joy. I guess the Bible was right again.

 

1. To quit an addiction we decide to do new activities and then we do them. They are not for fun, play, pleasure, or profit. It is wise to treat them like work or some great difficult goal.
   
   
2. Example: I decide my new activity is playing the piano. First I set a goal: 30 minutes per day. # 2 Decide exactly when you will do it: 6:30 PM. # 3 Say 10 times daily why you need to do this activity: “I need to play the piano so that I stop being a slave to ______.” # 4 Pray, “Father take away this spirit of lust, and show me how playing the piano will help me to do Your will someday.”
   
   
3. Spiritual goals should be # 1 in life. But after that, your activity goals should sometimes be the next most important. But what about family. It is a balance, a juggling game that you need to play until you get healthy. One solution to the family question is to work out with them. Do a hobby with them.
   
   
4. New activities are not great fun if you are really addicted. Addiction uses up all our fun and leaves us dark and empty. So keep this in mind. The exact same activities that you don't love in week one of quitting seem a lot better in week 4 after you have been clean for a month and are in a good place with God.
   
   
5. Someday, some of your new activities will become positive addictions. I lift weights every day. I play either the piano or bass guitar virtually every day. I write articles about addiction every day and I do many other things every day.
   
   
6. Secondly, I want to try to explain how life gets better after we quit. With addiction, we move from fun event (hopefully) to fun event. Trying to find answers, fun, thrills. With freedom plus Jesus, we start to find increasing joy, and answers. With addiction, we watch TV always searching frantically for thrills. With freedom plus Jesus, we start to enjoy clean TV and we start to find contentment. With addiction, there are no answers. With freedom plus Jesus, we start to find a purpose for living. With addiction, we are driven, driven, driven. A constant flurry of trying to find... I don't know what. With freedom plus Jesus, we can ask Jesus what He wants us to do. Then we are filled with His peace and we can do His will. With addiction, we sometimes struggle with family and people. With freedom plus Jesus, we learn how important it is to live in love.
   
   
7. Activities are key. They will change your life if you make it a priority to do them daily.

 

I started on day one at Nofap Christian. After a few weeks here I started posting there every day.

 

We transcend habits by rebuilding our foundation. We practice self-restraint with things like food and alcohol. We move to a higher level when we pray about valuing people above money in excess or any other non-Godly thing in excess. We practice forgiveness, humility, calmness, and refrain from extravagant luxury or excessive spending.

This difficult, but fascinating focus works well because with it, we start to become small and God starts to become big. Some of you are shocked by my faith in the Bible, in Jesus, and in the power of the Holy Spirit. But if you dedicate your life to doing what God wants you to do, you will be even more shocked by the results.

When we practice the above virtues we are transferring water from one vessel to another. We empty out our bad water and we replace it with the Holy Spirits' living water.

A dramatic example of this is when we go to war with our love of pleasure and replace it with the fear of the Lord. Proverbs 1 says that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom.”

Pray: “Father, take away my love of pleasure and help me to fear You.” If we pray this prayer sincerely and often enough, we will begin to transcend our habits.

If someone asked me: How can I quit this addiction really fast? I would say: Pick the five harshest verses you can find about what you are struggling with. Memorize them, and think about them all the time.

This works because we only fall when we think wrong. Right thinking is taking the traits in the first paragraph and outlining a plan about how to start doing them. Right thinking leads to right actions. Right actions are studying the Bible and praying. When we combine prayer with our plan, the net result is that our right actions transcend our habits.

 

We were created to love God and to love others. A focus on increasing in love for people (platonic) is a key for quitting. When we replace our unhealthy thoughts with love, we make progress. Love is doubly important because when we are weak with it, isolation increases and addiction thrives in isolation. But when we fight to increase in love we start to reverse the tendency to put “something” as more important than people or God.

To begin, we focus and pray about making love a priority.

Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of lust and fill me with a love for others.”

Love is patient. Pray: “Father, help me to be patient and help me to care about people.”

Love is kind. Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of lust and help me to increase in kindness.”

Love does not envy. Pray: Father, help me to be content with the pleasures that lead to joy. Help me to not envy pleasures that lead to destruction.”

It is impossible to pray: “Father, fill me with Your love,” too often. God is love. Increasing in love starts to force our bad stuff out. Praying about love is a powerful tool for fighting habits.

 

HABITS ARE HARD TO BREAK

Part of quitting this addiction is that this is what you do. Tomorrow I will write about what “to do” again, but today we will look at recovering from a fall and the Holy Spirit.

If we fall we need to understand repentance. Repentance is a sorrow for the wrong activity and a plan of how to change. Repentance is as often about what we did not do, as it is about what we did do. Example: life stinks, work stinks, and you want to fall. You come home and you are under severe temptation and you are at the crossroads.

Background: If you were under severe temptation in the last 24 hours, and you reacted by studying the top 60 verses on quitting for an hour, and still fell. Please post that that happened.

Even if you just took my top 10 tips for quitting, and went through most of them, I am guessing you probably made it. But now back to our example. What did you do?

WHAT I DO

I have sheets of notes on what I will do during times of severe temptation. The last time that I was severely tempted, I got out my notes. And just by starting my counterattack, my temptation level started to decrease. And the more I studied, the more I felt the Holy Spirit flowing into me. And it worked.

This system will work very often. But... some of you are completely addicted because your life right now ain't good. So you need to focus on the good flowing into you while you fight temptation with all you have. And you need to get more and more good flowing into you.

Pray: “Father, show me how to quit this habit.”

Develop your system to quit, with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Design your system to get the good flowing into you. And once the good has flowed into you enough, your life will be good.

 

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If we often choose the wrong alternate activities, we will fall. The weakest level of alternate activities are level 5 activities. Things like risky TV or movies, hanging with friends who lead you down the wrong path, gambling or drinking.

While these things are usually better than P, you will have a much higher chance to quit your habit if you choose level 1 and level 2 activities. Level 1 activities include Bible-study, prayer, reading Christian books, reading quitting addiction books, helping out at church, and telling a friend how Jesus is helping you. Also, try joining a church Bible study, sometimes they are great. These activities not only distract and help you through today, but they also strengthen you for tomorrow and all month.

Level 2 activities are things like exercising plus prayer, exercising outside of you home, team sports, group activities, hanging with friends who tend to help you instead of leading you down the wrong path.

Level 3 activities are learning a musical instrument, sports or non-computer games at home, hobbies at home.

This article is not meant to be a complete list of alternative activities. The point is, if you focus on level 1 and 2 activities, they help your future. The more you focus on higher level activities, the better your chances are for freedom. Always push to improve your activity by a level or two. It is a secret to success.

Lastly, treat your activities list as your work. You are working towards having a future of freedom and joy. The pay is 10 times the pay you will get at any other job. The rewards are huge. Believe, work, succeed.



LEARN FROM A 4 YEAR OLD

Yesterday my wife was around a 4 year old girl who said: “I am not allowed to see my dad anymore because he did something bad. But everybody has bad in their life and it is okay. We just have to decide to be happy. Sometimes when tears come, you just have to push them back.”

That 4 year old is going to do okay. Most of us have something bad, then we fall. Self-pity may be one of satan's top 10 tricks. Self-pity is a habit that will keep you falling for as long as you allow it to control you.

If this is an issue, do an internet search on overcoming self-pity to get idea's on how to fight it.

Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of self-pity, and help me to decide to be happy.”

Pray: “Father, take away my spirit of self-pity, and fill me with Your toughness.”

If this issue controls you it will be impossible to pray these prayers too often.

Bad things happen and we allow ourselves to get “Dark.” We let Jesus light dim out and we allow satan a perfect opening. That was our habit. But our new habit is to attack with prayer and to search to find out what Jesus wants out of our situation. Our new habit is to fight back with the light of Jesus shining fully on us. An impossible rotten day, but still... a day where Jesus light can shine brighter than ever. If we fight to let it shine.