My Top Tips for leaving PMO behind

Great post dude. There's many posts on here giving advice on how to succeed but yours I think is the most succint. Thanks for the advice and massive congrats on your success

 

very useful advice

 

This is an excellent post, how do I post a journal? Also yes mediation really does help. I do mediation once a day for 20 minutes most successful people mediate. So If you want to achieve massive success just repeat what your idol is doing and you will achieve it. I will do whatever it takes to quit. I need all the help I can get. I'm not addict, but I want to kick this habit out of my life.

 

Fantastic post. As noted in another thread I am going to use the basic template to help with my life in general (even outside of nofap).

 

Yes just improve in all areas of your life. This habit will even be in your future trust me.

 

@NoBrainer you are awesome man! You really gave me the push I needed.. you gave me the chills too! Thank you.

This particular part from your generous advice hit me hard:

"

• For every urge you face, you give yourself a choice. Do you give in, or do you outlast the urge? No urge is uncontrollable. No matter how shitty how situation is at the time, you can always make the right decision to walk away and stay clean.

"
I want to share a bit about my story..
Recently, I finished reading a life-changing book called The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey; I'm not here to discuss how to made every single aspect of my life better, but I highly suggest everyone reads it..
Anyway, the biggest lesson I learned from the book is the first habit: Be Proactive. In short, this habit tells me that I, and only I, am the one in full control of my own life. I embraced this habit indeed, and I applied it to my life. I even recently was rewarded the title 'Mr. Proactive' in a club society I'm in..

Nonetheless, my predicament is in my hypocrisy. Although I am "Mr. Proactive", I was never able to truly control my PMO issues. Once, I decided I wanted to quit, so I started a daily counter. I reached day 10, things were going great.. but in the back of my mind, I knew that I'd relapse. I admit that I convinced myself that it is inevitable..
By day 12, I relapsed. It sucked. 12 days was my record.

Last night I decided (again) that I really wanted to quit. I did some search on the Net and found NoFap, so I joined (you can read my thread here: http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.ph...deserve-her-hi-im-new-here.49150/#post-345574). Up until I read your post, I was very hyped and ready to quit, but I still had the fear of (or submission to) relapsing in the back of my head.. but when I read your post, it hit me hard! "Relapse is a choice", and proactivity is all about choice.

Thanks man.. hit me back

 

This is a great post, you mentioned many things that I already do before reading the post. but to be fair, I have not yet come across a better post regarding theses issues in the forums .
keep it up man !

 

Excellent advice!

If I may add add another tiny but IMHO very important recommendation:

Urinate frequently. Avoid as much as possible a non-empty bladder.​

 

great advice

 

Good constructive advice. Just ended up making myself a small workbook to fill out based on the first post in this thread. Thanks NoBrainer!

 

I could really use this. Thanks!

 

This has been a very helpful and encouraging post, since a few hours ago I relapsed for the 3rd time since my start of NoFap. Thank you so much for this and I'll be sure to take note of the points and apply them.

 

This is some great advice.

 

Great Info! Thanks

 

these tips r gold for me , i see a lot of potential in me and in order to fulfilll my dreams i have to leave this shit ,n get a better at life ,there is always a chance to improv ein life , who gives a fuck if we fail once or twice
we can still better our self ...wohhooooo

 

It's been a while my friend.
After that night when I discovered NoFap and read through some inspiring posts as well as yours, I thought I had enough strength and inspiration to quit PMO for good, so I started afresh. I went for another 12 days or so and then relapsed again. Then I started snowballing; PMOing three times a week or so. Then I decided to quit again so I took another look at the forums, created my own resolve and hanged it on my wall, and I managed to stop for another 10 days, but then it happened again :/

This is when I realized I was just being too lazy and that I can never truly quit if I don't get engaged with the NoFap community. So here I am.
I am going to start my own journal and I shall update it regularly. I really want to be done with this crappy habit. I'd appreciate it if you'd visit my journal sometimes.

By the way, I was shocked to read your story. I mean it is really impressive that you're streak has reached this far, 419 days. But to hear that a strong streaker like you had such a rough history is indeed shocking to me. Especially that you actually relapsed after 50 days.
You see, I learned from some friends that in order to start or quit a habit you need to start or stop doing it for at least 21 days.. so having reached 50 days, it seemed surprising to me that you relapsed back then. What do you think was the reason? Didn't you "habitualize" no PMO life back then?

 

I'm on day 13 and reading this really helps. I will embrace the flatline as you suggest rather than FEED the beast !