My Top Tips in Curing De-Sensitisation From Prone Masturbation!

1) Yes, i coated a small amount of lube on my penis, as well as inside the flesh light. My main problem after i learnt the conventional method is that I gripped too hard (death grip), and the flesh light definitely helped me get over it. If you can afford it, then I highly recommend you buy it to help you in your journey.

2) The correct method to use the flesh light (in our case) is to put it in between your bed and mattress, then you'll be able to get on your knee's and thrust into it. In my opinion, you should not use the flesh light until you learn the proper way to masturbate. You want to learn this first because in your life you won't always have access to a flesh light and it may tempt you to prone masturbate in the future. So learn the conventional method and then in 1 month, purchase the flesh light. Also, it will be close to impossible to cum in the flesh light after just one week because you are used to much higher pressures. You will most likely feel nothing and lose your erection, just like how you would in a vagina!

3) Sildenafil can be useful when you are first learning the conventional method (Week 1-3) and when you are first having sex (after learning the new method). I don't think you need it though to be honest and it won't really help with your addiction. The key is to stop masturbating for 7 days. This should do the trick for you. Also, once you learn the proper way, you won't want to prone, so the key is to learn the new method.

4) Drinking is fine, but understand that it can effect erection quality when you over do it. Just make sure you haven't drunk anything when you are practising. It is fine to drink after. Also, I was a student when i was learning, and i drank a lot. It wasn't really a problem, unless i was hungover.

 

Hi DeservedCriticism,

I appreciate you commenting on the post and questioning certain things (I always like to hear different perspectives).

My main aim with this post is to stop people doing prone masturbation, because what i suffered, led me to depression, anxiety, embarrassment and it really fucked up my relationships. The problem is, not everyone is strong enough to quit masturbation and porn permanently (like you are trying to)..it comes to the point where they eventually relapse, and how do they do it? By the prone way. In my opinion, it is important to first unlearn prone and learn the conventional method (which is what i have done). After learning this method, one of the main advantages I have found is that I no longer have any urge to prone masturbate ever again. Its fully behind me! Also, the conventional method can be helpful in the bedroom..I assume you want to pull out and cum on your girl?? How are these guys meant to do it, when they have limited experience in doing it?

But I do agree with you on masturbation and porn, in fact I am currently on day 14 NoFap and I don't want to go back either. The problem is that it is very difficult to learn the conventional method without porn (in the early stages). When learning, many will lose their erections very easily, even with porn!, because they are used to such a high pressure of stimulation (via prone) and their penis simply isn't getting enough stimulation (via the conventional method). It is therefore important to maximise arousal. Furthermore, I did list at the end, that once they learn the method, they should free themselves from masturbation and porn permanently or at least until they are happy with their sex life.

Regarding the website, healthy strokes has a similar aim to me..they are mainly trying to help people overcome prone and also help young people/teens learn about their bodies. Lets face it, every teen is going to masturbate, so why not at least be aware of the correct method and avoid any unhealthy habits. But whats your opinion, is your opinion and i'm not trying to change that.

It is interesting you haven't had sex yet to really see where your at. But, I hope all goes well when you do get to that point. Your right, the training will set you back a bit, but in my opinion it is worth it in the long run. Yes, you are correct in your message.. I came with a girl after 70 days, solely due to NoFap. But what happened next is that I eventually relapsed, and I only ever knew masturbation via the prone method. So I ended up having a marathon of prone masturbation. Then in my next sexual encounter, I returned to having ED and feeling nothing!. If only i'd had learnt the less damaging conventional method back then! Do you see what i'm saying

But look, I'm just glad you found some value in my article and that you are on the straight and narrow. All the best for you bro. Just don't ever do prone masturbation again. If you do happen to relapse, masturbate by the conventional method, with a light grip and slow speed.

 

Yes, that is correct, I did it for 10 years. Sexual relationships are now good bro, but it took time to improve. I experienced ED even when i had learnt the conventional method. You won't just become normal when you learn it, you need to give your body time to heal and time to adapt. You also need to get used to a light grip and a slow speed because it is likely that the masturbation style you learn is close to the death grip. If you keep using the death grip, nothing will change and you will have the same problems.

Condom's did bother me at the start tbh .. but most men I know say the same thing. I did have ED a few times with them, but this was when i first returned to sex after learning the new method. But this is normal, and after a few attempts, I was able to cum within 10-15 minutes.

 

I actually used a condom with the flesh light a few times, but I can't really say if it helped me or not. But don't get too caught up on the flesh light bro, the main reason for its use is to get use to a lighter, more realistic grip. It should only be used short term really.

To get to good sex it took me a good 6-8 months, but it shouldn't take as long as this. I only took this long because i was really enjoying the new method, then I had to tackle the death grip and I also had some psychological problems because of prone. Everyone is different though bro, but in general i'd say 4-6 months.

I don't get what you mean in the last question. It shouldn't be a problem, it seems very normal to me. and yeh Sex Ed really needs to be re-assessed, because we'd never have to deal with this BS if we were aware of this.

 

Where can i see this log? I can't seem to find it, just the one on the dead dick

 

The waves of ED is all part of the learning bro.. when you used to prone you effectively taught your penis that it doesn't need to stay hard to achieve orgasm. In fact with prone, only like 40% is required, so that is your default erections at the moment. To return back to getting hard erections you must only masturbate when you are hard. If you are like 50% then stop and wait for the opportunity to arise. When i tried lube, it was definitely easier, but yes, I did lose erections at times. As you become more familiar with the technique however, this should go away. Yes, I am circumcised to (unfortunately), so lube was a great help and definitely helped me during this learning period.

 

My advice is to first get rid of prone from your lifestyle. If you already know how to do it by hand, then good, it means you don't have to do the training. I'd suggest continuing hard mode, or possibly doing the death grip plan. But this depends on your current problems. Are you able to have successful sex now? that is ultimately what the aim is.

 

Hi Leto, welcome to the forum,

1) There is no specific time which is best.. As long as you are not overly tired, your good, so i'd avoid doing it when you first wake up and when it's late at night. The best time to do it is when you have a free house (some privacy without being disturbed), where you can focus on each sensation and when you feel like masturbating. Who care's if you have a bad day the next day, we got work to do lol, and it's 2 hours max to achieve ORGASM and thats only on the first time you first learn. It's not essential you go 30 days in a row anyway, just try to do it when you can. This is an irrelevant question tbh, just get it done bro

2) Well you'll know your erections have improved when you masturbate, they will be notably stronger. When you first learn, you'll lose your erections quite easily. This should be gone when you learn. Well if you haven't slept with anyone then its hard for me to sort of say, because we don't know the extent of the damage. My advice is to just learn the conventional way, work on a lighter, slower grip as you improve, do NoFap, try meet some girls and see what happens.

3) The fleshlight is not essential, but is a useful tool for guy's who are finding it difficult to loosen their grip. Some guy's end up with the death grip after learning the hand method, and the flesh light is a great way to help them get over it. Well it's not a disposable device, you can use it as many times as you want. But my personal advice is to throw it away after, so you can focus on real women.

 

Well yes, you could do that if you would like. But in reality, how likely are you to get to 90 days?.. If you have the discipline, then it's a great alternative plan. However, even after 90 days, masturbation by hand will still take time to get used to. Watching porn is not essential of course, but for myself as a heavy prone user, it helped ensure the erection was strong, which is very important. Be very thankful, you've only been doing it for a few years. You should easily reverse this and your plan should be effective.