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My views about sex are changing

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Third_Eye, Sep 13, 2017.

  1. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    A while back, I used to not be interested in the idea of sex. I used to also get annoyed when people talk about how good it feels to them. Today, all of a sudden, I'm actually interested in sex [when the time is right]. I don't know if it's because of the reboot (even though I'm only on my first day out of numerous reboot attempts), or it's the fact that my pineal gland is opening, and cleansing me from all of that negative energy I've given myself about sex. Any thoughts?
     
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  2. I think that it's better to have a positive view rather than a negative view.
     
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  3. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    I know exactly what you mean, I too had no interest in sex for years and it led to a hell of a lot of confusion, I had no sense of attraction to any woman I ever met so I wondered if I was gay, then I realised I felt this way about everyone and got even more confused by it. I'm now nearly halfway through a reboot and honestly I still dont feel consistent sexual attraction but when it does hit, it hits hard. I'm hoping I can emerge from this with a sex drive strong enough to make me give enough of a shit about meeting women, at the minute I crave a solution to my loneliness but at the same time dont have the drive to fix it.
     
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  4. It's probably just a natural part of you growing up. Most people your age aren't that interested in sex, until one day they are. It's not something to overthink. It sounds perfectly normal and expected, to me.
     
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  5. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    I guess it must be that. :/
     
  6. Why the slashy face? It's not a bad thing
     
  7. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    I know. But sometimes I feel unsure of myself. I wonder if it's really because I'm growing up, or because I was just negative about sex all along. I'm not doubting you, though, I'm just saying.
     
  8. Does it matter either way, though? I don't see any benefit to overthinking this, personally.
     
  9. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    I know. But sometimes I just think to myself "should I join an asexual dating site when I'm older, or should I just life and see what happens." But you're right. I shouldn't surround myself with stress and negativity over over thinking about that.
     
  10. Yeah, that's definitely not worth worrying about right now. You have a long way until that needs to be a concern, and you are going to change a whole lot before then. Honestly, it's sad to me that you're even here. And I don't mean that in a rude way, I just think you're far too young to have even be concerning yourself with sex so much. Go out and live life and have fun being a kid with no responsibilities while you still can. That stage of life is over far too quickly. You'll have plenty of time to think about sex and dating and marriage and kids and all that stuff in a few years. That's just my opinion.
     
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  11. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    Well, I appreciate your advice :)

    And also, I'll just live my life to the fullest, and see what happens. And I actually do have some very important responsibilities, that I'm not gonna mention, that I need to get done before I'm 18 or before I'm a grown man.

    Thanks, anyways! :)
     
  12. I didn't mean to negatively imply that you don't have any responsibilities, so hopefully you understand that. It's just not the same once you're an adult, living on your own with a job and a mortgage and bills to pay and such. Enjoy the freedom and don't worry about the future so much, that's my advice :)
     
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  13. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    I just know for a fact, that I'll be just fine in the future. Bills and mortgages I won't have to worry about, I would say why, but I know you're not interested in that kind of stuff. I'll just live life, and what happens, happens. Thanks for the advice :)
     
  14. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    I know. :(
    I've been a masturbation addict since I was 7 :(
    But I don't wanna go off topic
     
  15. Well I'm glad you're getting things figured out now! I wish you all the best. <3
     
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  16. Third_Eye

    Third_Eye Guest

    And I wish the same to you, also :D
     
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  17. Got to Overcome

    Got to Overcome Fapstronaut

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    I don't know the specifics of your situation, but I think there's a tendency for people to equate porn with real-life sex. I'd say that this is especially true of people who have gotten heavily involved with porn while having had relatively few real-life sexual encounters.

    The problem with this of course, is the way we feel about ourselves after watching porn. Unfortunately, I'd never be able to recall the number of times I've watched porn, but I do recall the number of times I've felt good about myself after doing so. I'm able to recall this because I've never once felt good about watching it. Sex, on the other hand, has almost always left me feeling good. The only exceptions are a couple of one night stands I had in my younger days.

    The point is that sex definitely shouldn't be written off based on the way porn has caused one to feel. There are virtually no similarities between watching porn and having sex with a person you care about. I'd therefore advise anyone who's developed a negative attitude towards sex due to excessive porn consumption to keep an open mind about real-life sexual encounters with someone who is important to you.
     
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