My way to overcome pre porn induced fetish

Some of you may know my story some may not so let me introduce it. This is gonna be long post so take your popcorns.

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I was always addicted and attracted to femdom and foot fetish since very early age of 5 or 6, it's obvious that i didn't even know what was porn or real sex or anything about sexuality, it was all pre porn induced i was just a innocent child back then. But there is something missing i was never attracted to breasts, ass... you now let's call it most attractive part of woman's body, never had arousal to have sex, never had erection for it and all that vanilla stuff was seems to me like disgusting thing to do. But i started to be aware around of age 15 that i had the problem and how can i handle relationship with girl like this, seems tough, right?

I was worried about that but anyway i have push that problem and i continue to PMO at my fetish's. When i was 17 years old i started nofap, i thought this will fix my problem, most popular hardmode nofap and in my opinion most effective. Here story about nofap for pre induced fetish(s).

During years of nofap i had some great streaks my biggest streak was 269 days on no PMO hardmode, now most of you think "You are healed man, that fetish's are in abyss now" if you think so you are wrong. All of that pre porn induced fetish are tough as hell.

I was doing regular everyday nofap hardmode for 2+ years (with maybe 20 or so relapses during that 2+ years). Guess what? My fetish's didn't disappear and i didn't gain erection, arousal or desire for regular vanilla sex, do you know why? Because my pathways in brain have never registered that penetration sex or that male can be dominant in sex. Because my rewarding system for sexual activity was all about femdom and foot fetish, that we need to change.

For big majority of you who had porn induced fetish i guess you started your vanilla and goes to more extreme things, so you will be for sure able to heal yourself and back to normal with nofap hardmode. For us with pre porn induced fetish things are different. As i said before we need to teach our brain of ability for regular or normal sex first, it needs to enter in our brain.
After 2+ years old nofap my fetish just fade a bit, my foot fetish got stronger and femdom got weaken, before nofap femdom was stronger, i guess it changed because it's more natural for me i guess.

Now how did i was able to get erection and arousal for vanilla sex? Most of you will not agree here with me, but it's brutal truth for us with pre porn fetish who don't have thing for vanilla, go and fap to vanilla until you are not satisfied and even want more of it.

-Watch vanilla porn.
-Change your fantasies from fetish to vanilla.
-When urges for fetish thing appear just change it to vanilla.
-MO to vanilla fantasies.
-Cut fetish and shake hand with it, you finished with that.

I m not doctor and i m not scientist but I did all of this for around 3 months, and i can tell you i have teach my brain to register breasts, ass, pussy as sexual object and to register regular sex as sex. Now i have solid erection for vanilla, long story short check it here: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?posts/3204119/

If you are persistent you will did this and success, but you need to believe 100% in yourself and that you are able to do this.

Let me give you some proof that it's possible to learn new sexual act and be able to have it as your preference:

-Brain power and law of attraction
-Automatic habit making (average man\woman needs 66 days to form habit)
-Orgasm reconditioning
-How you think, that's what you get, your life is as your thoughts are.
-If you can poison yourself with femdom,sissy etc... then you can poison yourself with vanilla.

Always remember to stay calm, don't despair, believe in yourself, write some affirmation on paper and read them for 21 days. If you believe you can do anything, really. Few months ago i was thinking i will be virgin forever that i can't have a balanced relationship, do you know why it changed? Because i was even thinking about suicide because all of this, i was cried much times because of this, i got depressed because of this... and i was ready to give my best to success, the point is i really started to believe i could do this and ignore the fact that i don't have erection and arousal for vanilla things, ignored the fact until my thoughts becomes my actions and my actions becomes my habits and arousal and erections is here now.

I can tell you this works and anyone who tries this can't regret, but you need to be persistent and believe in yourself as hell, for me this was way harder than nofap hardmode. After you gain arousal and erection for vanilla you can do nofap hardmode and enjoy.

Thank all of you who supported me, i m so happy that few days i cried because i did mission impossible, for me it was impossible only until i really start to believe i can do it.

If any of you want to know details how i overcome this you can always send me message, if someone needs to talk or need any help about this feel free to send me message.
Good luck and remember you are amazing!

 

So you never attraction towards regular sex, just on fetish things? Correct me if i misunderstand something.

 

Only way to overcome this is to believe in yourself as hell, to be persistent, to bring yourself positive affirmations, not to bring yourself down, to have good internal dialog, to give yourself a bit of false reality by believing, until that false reality becomes real. Power of brain is amazing.
I was trying to do this what i was myself suggesting two year ago and year ago and i didn't success because i given up and didn't believe enough back then.

@Thisworld i agree you should try this if you want, you need to learn your brain that from fighting does not come any sexual satisfaction, at first it will be hard but it is possible.

 

That's great, keep up good work mate!

 

You have nothing to lose man, believe me it will be tough, don't give up and good luck!