Navigating Life's Challenges: My Journey and Reflections.


میں لجپالاں دے لڑ لگیاں، مرے توں غم پرے رہندے
مری آساں، امیداں دے بوٹے ہمیشہ ہرے رہندے


خیالِ یار وچ میں مست رہندا ہاں دن راتیں
مرے دل وچ سجن وسدا، مرے دیدے ٹھرے رہندے


دعاواں رَل کرو سہیؤں، میرا مرشد نہ رس جاوے
جنہاں دے مرشد رس جاندے، اوہ جیوندے جی مرے رہندے


ایہہ پینڈا عشق دا اوکھا، ایہہ ٹُرنے نال مکدا نئیں
اوہ منزل نوں نئیں پا سکدے، جیہڑے بیٹھے گھرے رہندے


کدی وی لوڑ نئیں پیندی مینوں، در در تے جاون دی
میں لجپالاں دا منگتا ہاں، مرے پلے بھرے رہندے


نیازی! مینوں غم کَہ دا؟ میرا ہے پیر لاثانی
کسے دے رہن جو بن کے، قسم رب دی! کھرے رہندے
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Travelling​
Travelling and living on my own, in a hostel, has taught me alot about myself, alot of insecurities are getting neutralised as I am to do stuff myself.

○ I learned how to talk to myself.

○ How to not think about 'subjects' that are at a time gap away and about which I don't know much that hiw it'd be like for me.

○ I am to stay Mentally at peace. I am not to take stress of some factors I am responsible for and some not even responsible for but to take care for.

○ Mental peace is the biggest objective to meet to help me achieve other Objective.

○ Measurement. Everything has to be measured and taken care of by myself. ●How much hours I am sleeping a Day? ●How much I need to rest? ●How much I am eating? ●How much Exerxise I am doing and what I am not? ●How much time I can give to my study and how much I am giving? How much time I am supposed to spend based on my university's deadlines. ●How long I have been trying for something and how It should be sum up. ● If I need A, B, C or D? Etc., where am I standing?

○ Confidence and numbing vulnerabilities that should not be there. And the best way to deal with our vulnerabilities (I found) is to experience it. I see people, if they are easy at it, i should not make it stress for myself too. And i alao see people, i note how they do when they are outside somewhere. It is a world of Vulnerabilities-as Brene Brown talked in her TED talk! I makes sense to feel it and also to go through it -the way of wholehearted people.

○ I should practice to just prepare for what is currently needed.
-Study
-Health
-Finance
-Mental Growth-Peace
-Skills

● I should place my complete trust in Allah Almighty, for He loves those who rely upon Him.

○ Therefore, Worry as less i can. How knew I'd visit another city and would live here managing it all myself. That I shall be travelling, observing people and notice the Behavioural changes when living with roommates and without them?
Acknowledge the truth!
 

Independent​

Mindset Shift: From Digital Dependency to Real-Life Engagement​


"From the day I found refuge in digital world to the day I'm finding my place back in the Real world." -by making real-life really meaningful and livable.

Digital World is a Trap of Illusion – ​

Understand that excessive screen time creates a false sense of achievement, while real success comes from action in the physical world.

Attention is Power—Reclaim It – ​

Your ability to focus is your greatest asset. Don’t let digital distractions drain your mental energy and weaken your willpower.

Identity Exists Beyond the Screen – ​

Who you are is not defined by your online presence but by what you do, build, and contribute in real life.

Discomfort is Growth – ​

Facing real-world challenges, social interactions, and responsibilities may feel harder than scrolling, but this is where true strength is built.

Dopamine Detox for Mental Clarity – ​

Reduce unnecessary digital stimulation to reset your brain’s reward system, making real-life activities more engaging and fulfilling.

Shift from Consumer to Creator –​

Instead of consuming endless content, invest your time in creating, whether it’s writing, working, learning, or crafting something valuable.

Physical Engagement Breeds Mental Strength – ​

Move, build, and act. Exercise, go outside, interact, and physically engage with your surroundings to develop resilience.

Replace Virtual Validation with Real Achievements – ​

Seek fulfillment in tangible accomplishments—learning a new skill, solving real problems, and making an impact.

Your Mind Becomes What You Feed It – ​

Reduce digital noise and expose yourself to books, deep thinking, and meaningful conversations to reshape your mindset.



| "In a nutshell, we can say that, 'There is not a single "Option/Thing" that if we do can resolve the issue for us, but we can surely say that, If we reduce our pleasures from A to B and From B to C extent (much less than A and B), then this shall lead us towards a way where we can slowly neutralise the Problem." |

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In Urdu we say "عقلمند کے لئے اشارہ کافی ہے".

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And, No need to say Thanks :)

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Tue, 25 March

Being alone in a hostel room. Being out of city and walking alone in the street of this city alone. No signals in the hostel. Buying food from shop and feeling the silence of this hour of Night -the Sehri time- and loud sirens from the Masjid giving feelings of war time. Shops open at this hour of night. It is month of (رمصان) Ramadan. Waking up for the whole night because of Urges, makimg notes on what I am learning about Recovery and myself.
If this is not aesthetic then what is?

I had flashed of inappropriate things, somehow i manages to cope it.
I went outside for tea as well. I saw women outside there and it was a good thing that they were comfortable being out at this time of night (unlike my in my city) -for Buying Shehri. They were also wearing Dupatta because they were buying sehri :)
They were looking so cute standing together there...
How to say?

I shall also visit a place in this city today.
 
I Navigated life's challenges to reflect that, we live in a 'bitter' world... bitter truths.
Where what we worry about is not to be worried that much and what we doesn't is something to do that way.
Where what we see is not reality and what we doesn't is the reality.
Where we do alot of mistakes. We forget more often.
Where people in our surroundings are the reason of our miseries, even though they themselves share the same world, problems, mind and heart.
Where nothing can change unless we don't go with right option -prior that is strange ambiguity and helpless struggle.
Where, What i expect from people, i don't do the same way myself.
At some places we are the strongest and at another we are the symbol of helplessness.
Where we can't help ourselves even if we are living in the most advanced era.
Where the price of independence is death -as it is for a believer.
Where there is nothing as it seems to be.
 

Behind Strong Temptations Lies a Heightened Awareness​

Date: 26-March-2025
Point # 1 of Why the struggle is much intense from this video.

Reflection:​


"The closer you get to Allah, the harder Shaytan tries to pull you away. When you become more spiritually aware, you feel Allah’s presence more—but you also notice Satan’s tricks more clearly. He makes sin look tempting, easy, even satisfying. But it’s all a trap.

This struggle doesn’t mean your faith is weak-it means your heart is alive. The stronger your connection to Allah, the more Shaytan fights to break it. Don’t give up. The battle is tough because what’s at stake (your soul) is priceless."

Reminder:

- Awareness is a weapon. Use it to discern truth from illusion.​

- Struggle is a sign. It means you are alive in faith, not complacent.​

- Allah’s mercy is nearer than Satan’s temptations. Turn to it, again and again.​


Action:​

Today, I will pause at moments of temptation to ask: Is this drawing me closer to Allah or pulling me away?
اللہ اکبر
استغفراللہ
یا اللہ مدد
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Inspired by [Video: "Why Lust is the Greatest Test for Allah's Chosen | Hidden Struggles of Righteous Muslims/ Link of video ]

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Really it's true... today when i was coming back home after Taravi prayer I saw a woman who was also going back home after Taravih... and I got so much attracted to her that I felt like watching her again. But... I didn't. I came back home. I know i need to think less. This video was very helpful as of Spirituality is really involved in all of this!
 
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A portion talks about a misconception that working for long hours equals success but actually that makes us burned out and hampers the potential to out perform.

And I think yes, it is a Fundamental or Secret sort of power to give ourselves A Pause. To stop a process, activity and go on with other matters of the Day/Routine. This is the Concept of Ramadan. And this is the thing that helps us avoid a Relapse as well.

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And after four years, I happened to watch a movie. The last time I saw one was during the 2021 Ramadan, before I went with my mother for her treatment.

I just asked ChatGPT to suggest a movie based on all it knows about me, and it suggested The Pursuit of Happyness.

And it gave me a lot of perception about why marriages go late, how this world works, how we find ourselves in tensions of time and money, etc. And that struggle is a necessary part of life. What actually hurts is the love and presence/absence of beloved ones -whilst all that we call Life...

There is something else beyond just lust and temptations -though they affect us- but life is a whole package. We have got to see the bigger, complete picture of life.

We must preserve and pass on the experiences and insights we gain during our struggles in this world -about time, health, finance, habits, and societal challenges- to the juniors or our next generations so they can move a step ahead of us and make a difference.

I have witnessed this firsthand. My mother taught me English even though she was not good at it herself. In fact, she used to dislike it. But knowing its importance in the Indo-Pak region, she made sure I learned it -so it could make a difference.

This helped me save a lot of time. It will also help me save a lot of energy and effort, as research is actively being conducted and translated in English.

Likewise is the matter of This addictive habbit -PMO. We should inform those who need to be informed about it in a responsible, professional and Cautious manner.

Long Live.
 
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[Temporary Navigation] - Acceptance To Peace​

I prayed for betterment. And know what, i got it not by having any physical or practical change but by means of accepting What I am to accept and what to not in this is world of delusion. *Damn world of Delusion.

First a sense of Self confidence (That pushes away that sort of insecurities and dilemma),
then, True realisation (the way we think is not the way this world and people are etc).
Pretending to be Confident (Body Language and mindset -Fake it till u make it). This Video helped (Psychology)
Then, an article suggested by some google website, about what kills happiness -during a day- it is to try to change What Can't be changed.

As if the ocean I am in is not to be controlled just sailed. Where we have control over not even a single wave. Where we dont know which is taking us where.
like, If i am unbale to read a boring paper why I force myself to make it happen then and there? Why NOT I accept it? What if i just place my head over the laptop and let myself get a power nap, Wake up and see where the water can take me to. *Ive done it twice today and I am feeling peace. Know, how it sounds like? It is like, I slept woke up, went outside the room, outside hostel, was feeling the taste of peanut, got a peanut biscuit -I eat them a lot- then, opened my laptop and started to write this here. And I can also remember the act of praying, where I never worried or got anxious of If I'd be able to offer the next one or leaving for the Masjid instead, I just felt it and went outside, as the time was there.
Right now If I want I can open and read more -the boring stuff, world name as work because it brings a change somewhere, if you are chosen for it... If u r chosen for it.

If I cant help but to think, let it be there - accept and just see it... like, we are already helpless creatures.
And this act that resonates with MODESTY is the one that I could practice by not taking this damn world Seriously. By not blindly taking stress and taking people seriously instead intellectually making some room to Exist, think and explore with the best of our senses.

enough...enough...
this is how being in another city, in a restricted area, boring labs, psycho officers and psycho women officers I am learning to live -One woman who is even the senior of my lab officer stopped my lab procedures giving useless remarks and wasted my 8 hours just like a day before my lab officer did, Like...
enough...
enough...

اَلْقَلْبُ شَجٍ وَّالْھَمُّ شُجُوْں
My heart is wounded and full of sorrow;
دِل زَارچُناں جاں زیر چُنُوں
my soul is weary and burdened.
پت اپنی بپت میں کاسے کہوں
Whom can I tell my suffering to, in this pain of mine?
مرا کون ہے تیرے سوا جانا
Who do I have besides you, my beloved ﷺ?

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Lessons and Journal


Lessons
There are different aspects of life, and a part of our life is “emotions that we feel.” When we show courage and cheerfulness to talk -that sort of communication, courage I’d say -what happens is that our brain gets relief from those emotional dilemmas and voids, the sticky anxieties that lie outside work life but are necessary to be addressed (undigested queries, unsolved matters), which are mostly temporary upsets, as in my case. So, communication is the key -just talk to people. We talk to people, and it helps.



I get nervous and depressed over small things very easily and passively, maybe because I don’t talk and become the kind of cheerful person I’d like to be. Today, as I went out to take tea and met some university students, their humor and questions made me talk to them, and I forgot what I was worrying about; even my mind became clear about how I could go and manage that issue. A step further, I talked about it with my roommates, and it turned out they were concerned about the same thing. By discussing it together, we resolved it quickly.


Therefore, talking helps a lot. It makes no difference to always stay reserved and not participate in any way. This is kind of what’s happening nowadays.

I am at a stage where the only way that makes sense to me is to accept what happens around. Where resistance makes no sense. This world is very wide. This heart is at times impatient, where its demands, wishes and worries makes no sense from the point of view of Reality and truth.

If I can change myself its enough for me. If I can resist and question my bad self that destroys me, its enough. I am nothing... my ego needs to understand that even what I ask for myself is not supposed to be produced and struggled for. I am much insignificant for all of this.
I need to understand what is to be.
I can lose, I can fail, I can be deprived of, I can be damaged and incomplete in what I think is important.
I should learn to stay modest as well. If I dont have the point now, let it be this way, don't keep pushing it, I am to not be a dictator over myself, I am to behave justly.
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