Need advice & encouragement to stop fantasizing

Hello @Exponential Power

Yes, fantasizing is like a double spy: you think he is working for you, but actually he is working against you. The problem increases when the fantasy is "virtuos" in nature, and by this I mean imagining that you are with your (future) wife reproducing, or at least having a loving and respectful intimate experience with a woman. I am sure, with the days you have accomplished, that something like that is what you are experiencing.

I think it is normal to think in the future. We are rebooting and we can't stop thinking what we will do once we have returned to "factory defaults" state. Imagining those situations are good, but only if the imagination doesn't get you excited. In order to achive that it is necessary that what you imagine is not something explicit, not a fully-detailed imagination, but rather an abstract idea, that you do in order to analyze what is the right thing to do in that situation and what is the wrong thing. Thus, not something to imagine while you are in bed, but rather sitting at your desk with a scientific mindset. With this purpose in mind, "fantasizing" is good.

Now, tips that can help you to stop excitement-seeking fantasies (imaginations). I think that if you have managed to be free from M for 137 days, and free from P for more than that, I think you will find the will to overcome those urges. So, there is no useful tips for this case as for the case of blueball (for example). I think that an understanding of what excitement-seeking fantasies are is the better way to overcome them. They are easy pornography. No matter how virtuos they are, you are using the women you imagine as sexual objects in your mind. No matter if you are staring at the pc, or being aware of the images cast in your mind, you are watching intercourse and you are getting excited by it. It is somehow pornography.

I hope this helps.

SpartanViking

 

Don’t entertain those thoughts and shift your focus and attention to something else