Here's the thing, for me relapsing HAS drastic consequences and continuous relapsing damage life. Since I felt like I have my addiction under control for about 90% (but that may be much too optimistic) and I want to stay clear for 90 days no matter what I decided to take drastic consequences if I should relapse: to give half of my money to charity and tell a stranger about my addiction/relapse. I should mention that my idea wasn't to constitute a punishment for myself but rather take drastic consequences that would hinder me from relapsing OR make me learn. I think if you relapse and your body feels great and afterwards you're somewhat depressed, body and mind seems NOT to learn that relapse is bad but just get used to that certain cycle. So you may ask, why does he want to discuss his decision rather than just to stick to it. It's because I had a talk with a friend of mine who's a somewhat older than me and knows a lot. He advised me against such a punishment and he had the following arguments (in my own words). you don't know if the punishment itself will help you to make better decisions in the future, it's only clear that it will worsen your financial situation, what you may learn from it can't be foreseen. you say relapses belong to the reboot-process, that one should be positive and shouldn't beat up himself after a relapse. Isn't this punishment against that idea? you're giving the relapse way too much significance. Didn't you want to focus on your life? Isn't it better to consider a relapse a small mistake and when it happens try not be shaken too much by it? 90 days is a milestone. But you want to become clear for the rest of the life. So you need to reboot sustainable. What will happen after the 90 days? Do you want to have a hanging sword (punishment) over your head for the rest of your life? My answer were like "yes, but ..." Especially the last point showed me that my planned approach makes no sense in the long-run. When you ask me, what are the withstanding arguments pro punishment, I would name to things. 1. I want to break the cycle (see bold text above) and 2. I want to learn to stick to a decision and to take consequences. But I'm not sure. So I thought it would be good to bring this discussion in the community. Maybe others asked the same question or even lived it out and learned from experience. Thank you for your comments, stories and advice in advance!