Need guidance. Relapsed after 50 day streak for 22 days. How long for recovery?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by orbitalresonance112, Jun 25, 2020.

  1. orbitalresonance112

    orbitalresonance112 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys,

    Long-time lurker, but first post here. This community has been very helpful and Thank you everyone!

    I was going strong on a 50-day streak. However, I gave in after 50 odd days and ended up going on a 22 day binge. Just before the binge, I was able to get spontaneous erections and one thing led to another and before I knew it, I became curious and went back to my old ways. I have a history of porn use and had been PMOing since age 15 (I'm now 32), with some really heavy PMOing in the last 2-3 years. I had a PIED experience with a girl and started Nofap. However, in the 50 day streak, I regained my morning wood and was able to get erections from sexting. I had come out of flatline and was feeling good about the erections.

    Fast forward to today, I have restarted NoFap and I'm 4 days in. I feel like the flatline is again setting in. I don't feel any libido nor am I getting any erections. I still get very weak morning wood though. My question is, how long might I take to get back spontaneous erections (like just before the binge) and eventually recovery. I am working out everyday and sleeping 8 hours as well. Will this 22 day setback affect me badly? Will all the recovery that happened over my 50 day streak go down the drain? Does anybody have any similar experiences?

    Thank you so much!
     
  2. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    First of all welcome and glad to see you've already given it a fair try. I have to say though I think the "how long" question, which of course a lot of people ask is the wrong one.

    Let me ask you this: How long did you binge for before the 50 day streak? If if was longer than 22 days, and you noticed improvement toward the end of that streak then it's not unreasonable you'll see it again. But I think you need to figure out how to prevent the relapse this time around, or else you'll be back in the same situation again. Being curious is of course not a reason, curiosity is a natural human quality but you want to figure out what made you act out.

    What you did mention is primarily physical stuff, working out and sleep. Are you doing anything as far as feeding your mind? Lets do the math. If you spent 3 hours a day binging over the 22 days, that's 66 hours. Put 66 hours or 3 hours a day into self improvement in the next 22 days then, or more. If you workout an hour a day that's still 2 hours a day for other things.

    You're asking about the results, I'm suggesting you worry about how to get there - or how much work rather than how long.
     
  3. orbitalresonance112

    orbitalresonance112 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the reply! :) It makes a lot of sense. Before the 50-day streak, I had a couple of 6-day, 7-day streaks, but mostly binged for years. I really think the math puts things into perspective :) I am also a musician and I play and practice my guitar which gives me some nice dopamine. I think I just have to forget about a streak and focus my mind on something else. Its quite disheartening because I was seeing some really good results and I blew it :/ But I guess its a learning process.
     
  4. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    In a way it's kind of like gambling, to look at it in terms of numbers. We can imagine a gambling addict has been good for a while, save up their money and was living decently but just one night at the casino can blow all that savings away. So we can look at not just how to save money, so to speak, but make money through different things that help us be healthier. Some things are hard but there's good payoff down the line, PMO is easy but the payoff is literally only a few seconds - and we actually feel horrible as well as have the biological and mental consequences so it's good to keep that in mind.

    Edit: But even if you lose all that money gambling the person probably did learn a lot along the way, the same is true with rebooting.
     

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