Need help/advice.

I'm completely new here.

I'll say a bit about myself that might help you help me, or at least create understanding of my situation.

I'm Australian, I'm a 15 year old who does relatively well at school, I'm not shy or a loser or anything but I spend a significant amount of time online. I watch a considerable amount of porn (and have done since age 11), and I am finding (especially lately) that I am drawn to bad types of porn*1. I don't watch heaps, but I'd say about 3 hours a week (1-3 times a day), which is still too much for someone my age.

Anyhow I've recently also entered a stage of my life where I have become sexually active with not just my hand. After going to third and fourth base with 2 different girls I have been unpleasantly surprised at how anti-climatic (no pun intended) my experiences have been. One of the girls also suggested that I watched a lot of porn (due to long time before orgasm), which was what really triggered me to try and act on the situation.

I don't think that stopping masturbation or sex altogether is the right method for me*2, however I need help and advice on how to reduce how much I fap, and also stopping watching porn completely as it violates what I believe in*3. I also seem to suffer for post-coital tristesse. Any advice greatly appreciated! Please read footnotes.


Footnotes:

*1. By this I mean stuff like hardcore, raping etc.

*2. I believe masturbation and sex are vital to health. I get a lot of you here might disagree, but I would urge you do take a look at to references I will provide below.

*3. I think that porn is highly sexist and makes for bad people who are terrible towards women, especially in sex.
References:

Maslow's hierarchy of needs; Abraham Maslow
Destruction as a cause of coming into being;Sabina Speilrein

 

Hmm ok, I guess that is to allow me to kina re-look over it.