Need help and advice!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by DarkBater, Nov 7, 2017.

  1. DarkBater

    DarkBater Fapstronaut

    7
    2
    3
    I'm 19 and male idk why my account says female. But basically I masterbated a lot, like everyday maybe 3 times a day. Mostly at night before bed. I recent just got back with my ex after 4 months. And In that period of time we weren't together I would masterbate sooo much. Now Im starting to have sex with her again, but I can't keep my erection. I get hard while she gives me head but once I'm about to put the condom on it dies or I put the condom on and while I'm having sex it dies. Idk if it's because I keep thinking I'm not going to get hard or maintain erect, or I got used to masturbating a lot , or I'm nervous and over thinking. I just stopped masturbating and looking at porn for I think a week or 2. Will I ever get my hard erections back? Can I maintain hardness. I'm not a confident person, I'm very insecure. Could that be the reason, it's embarrassing having my erection die so many times. Any advice?
     
  2. A leaf

    A leaf Fapstronaut

    87
    5,346
    113
    Hey man.. Im no expert on the subject but i think once you go quit PORN and MASTURBATION everything will be natural again. Don't be anxious or worried, you are a young man still and getting an erection will come back soon stronger than ever... even at times where you definitely do not need it. Your libido is high, but your watching porn & masturbation must be higher, this is why the flaccid.

    Focus on not watching any at all.

    Do your best, stay away from porn, it is like the black plague of death... and everything should be fine. Hey man, focus on your fine girl. What you see on screen is fake. It steals the life from you as you can see.
    Treat what is real as real, and whatever is fake, discard it quickly, and i bet you its all good!
     
  3. DarkBater

    DarkBater Fapstronaut

    7
    2
    3
    2 weeks without porn or masturbation, I don't even think about it anymore since I'm getting the real thing. Its just that idk if it's all in my head but like I said before I put a condom on or while i do it I keep thinking about maintaining hard and wonder if I'm still hard. Or when we want to change positions it just goes away. I'll be hard and if stop for like 30 seconds do do anything or change position it just dies. It sucks man, thanks for the advice. I'm hoping I can just get my dick to function good without having to worry about it dying on me.
     
  4. BrazilianPhysician

    BrazilianPhysician Fapstronaut

    22
    12
    3
    You have PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction). First of all you need to relax... Once you quit PMO and leave your brain rewire and get the normal levels of dopamine you will see the benefits of NOFAP. You will see that your libido will go down in the beggining but this phase its called flatline... Everybody experiences this. Its completely normal, so dont panic. You need to abbadon everything that can lead you to see beautiful girls like facebook, instagram and tv shows. (This is called reset) You need to build new healthy habits like read, work hard on your projects and do exercise. Fill your mind with positive thoughts because once you do that you will not leave space for pornography. Take cold showers. Put in the paper your emotions and write positive things. Change your mindset... Good luck my friend!
     
  5. fuck the condom man its probably whats throwing you off start in missionary position just stick it in soon as you get hard ( plenty of foreplay fisttho lick her out etc so shes wet amnd open for you ) once your going dont pull out totally for the at least first 2 - 5 mins in order to keep erection going doing this and after you abstain from pmo and fuck her a few more times your erection will come back naturally and your performance anxiety will be gone
     
    DarkBater likes this.
  6. DarkBater

    DarkBater Fapstronaut

    7
    2
    3
    Great advice man, it sucks she isn't on the pill anymore. Actually didn't pull out and came if her, I had to buy the plan b. I've gone 2 weeks without masturbating and I just jerked off like 5 mins ago, I came watching her rub herself on FaceTime. I'm pretty sure that's better than masturbating to porn right? But I kinda feel shitty for ending my streak.
     
    Deleted Account likes this.
  7. Don't beat yourself up that you jerked off at least it was to her my friend (but don't make a habit of it ) maybe she could go back on the pill for a while until your going strong again ? Also ask her what she likes I find That pleasing and her making her moan etc makes me hornyier and can spark an errection quick sometimes but everyone is different maybe she can do a lil something for you that excites you ? I'm happy I could help tho man it makes me feel more determined to sort myself and completely NoFap knowing my advice helped you bro
     

Share This Page