Need help at 80-something days

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ShotDunyun, Mar 22, 2016.

  1. ShotDunyun

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    I don't feel any good. Last two weeks have been a struggle, my physical energy is gone and the last couple of days I've been looking at a lot of P subs and almost relapsed yesterday night. I went to Wal-Mart a couple of hours ago and my social anxiety is under control, female attraction seems to be a lil' bit high, but I'm too tired. I decided to go out because I was getting horny looking at P subs, and yesterday I had to use Ice Packs on Lil' Shotty. What I'm trying to say is I'm a little bit down because I've got no energy whatsoever, I don't see the point of continuing. I have to say that yesterday I felt like a champ because I somehow defeated the urges, but right now that is not enough. So any advice oror encouragement will be appreciatedThanksks in advance
     
  2. Awakening123

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    You can't just sit on computer and think staying 90 days without pmo will change your life forever. You have to stay active and use the energy you have to fulfill goals in your life. You may be going through a flat-line but it doesn't you will feel like this forever.
     
  3. ShotDunyun

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    I'm sorry, I never said I sit in front of my computer everyday, I've been working out since November but last two weeks I've just felt exhausted.
     
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  4. zadvanceppa

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    Well I have slipped alittle today. Didn't lapse though; not in my opinion, anyway, but Real close, so I just installed k9 protection.
     
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  5. ShotDunyun

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    I sometimes think about installing k9 as well, so far I've been relying on willpower and I'd like to keep it that way, I'll wait a couple of days and see how it goes
     
  6. I dont want to bring any negativity to the community. I want to encourage healing and will power for everyone and id liek to find some support here for that as well.
    But 80 days seems like a major accomplishment. What is your ultimate goal? Are you trying to give up porn,M,O sex for life?
     
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  7. ShotDunyun

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    That's a really good question man. I want to erase Porn and masturbation from my life. I enjoy sex, but now I'm liking the idea of semen retention more and more, so I guess my ultimate goal would be Orgasm without ejaculation. By the way, I've been able to keep this streak after MANY tries, it's not easy for me, so thank you for your support!
    I see you're a new member, welcome to the forums! Anything you need we're here to help
     
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  8. Thanks a lot shot. Orgasm without ejaculation? I didn't know that was possible.
    good luck with whatever ur goal is. I hope you achieve it and feel great.
    I am trying to quit an extremely addiction that has damaged my sexual system , left me in chronic pain and unable to date or have sex because of it. I'm hoping to heal my body as much as it will. and then start dating again. I also want my mind exposed to better things. it's been two years of non stop online sex stuff. I haven't even been watching TV or following social media or sports. no Hobbies nothing my mind and body is ruined. I've thrown my life away. so I just want to see if I can go 30 days and see what my body is like.
     
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  9. Don Gately

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    I'm no authority, but I think Psubs are pretty bad, too. They promote unrealistic expectations, imaginary "relationships"/fantasizing, they're always available, and they lead to P. I think Psubs have many of the same issues as P, just to a less intense extent.
     
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  10. Buzz Lightyear

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    Feelings come and go, but reason stays forever. You just need to think this thing is objectively, morally, wrong [insert your reasons here] and soldier on. The thing is though that after a bit the tide comes back in, and all is well with the world.
     
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  11. AlmostRuined

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    The addiction is more about the fantasy then the porn. By wanting Psubs it says you want the fantasy of sex. Kill the fantasy and regain your energy!
     
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  12. ShotDunyun

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    That sucks man. Everything will improve, when you reach the first 30 days you'll feel like a rockstar

    I agree man. I was checking the NSFW section on 9gag yesterday, and at some point I thougt "why not just watch the real thing?. Very damaging indeed.

    Thanks man. I need to wait a little bit more, the reward will worth it

    I'll do it. No more subs, I just want my energy back to start doing my activities full throttle again. Thanks for the support
     
  13. Killian_Zayn

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    Man 80 days is a great accomplishment. I understand you might not have energy but do you think you might be going through a flatline stage? The best way I learned how to have an orgasm without releasing was to learn how to edge and strengthen your kegel muscle. The only problem is I hear edging puts you back at day one. After 80 days are you still wanting to look at porn or just masturbate? I think after you figure out your goal you should make the next step from there. Congrats tho on successfully not looking at porn or masturbating.
     
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  14. ShotDunyun

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    Thanks man!
    I've heard what you just wrote about edging, so maybe I have to think about that a little bit longer before actually do it.

    I guess I want to PMO all the way. Today I've stayed away from Psubs but I've been getting porn flashes, not so strong but they are still there. I feel more energetic today, I'll go out to work out and report how it went
     
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  15. davidhartford

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    Hi, I am new on here but I am at day 9 without porn or masturbating. I feel a bit upset that my last time wasn't really planned. I feel it would be nice to have a long and final wank as a way of saying goodbye. It would mean losing my brilliant 9 day start, but something tells me if I really have an enjoyable final wank the process would be a lot easier. Do you think I am right or is this the addiction trying anything to win?
     
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  16. Thechosenone

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    Get good sleep, hydration, nutrition, don't have too many carbs as that can make you sleepy or tired. (still have a decent amount way 140g)
     
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  17. ShotDunyun

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    It's the addiction, brother. Our brain can be a real scumbag sometimes. Sometimes when I can't sleep I think "I bet a wank would help" or if I'm feeling some kind of pain I go "Maybe I should jerk off and it'll go away". Stay strong man, show your penis who's boss.

    Dude, it think that is the problem! I've reduced the carbs to almost Zero. Now that I'm eating oatmeal again I feel the energy flowing, muy workout was excellent! Thanks a lot brother
     
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  18. Thechosenone

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    carbs are needed for good sleep, problem is when you have too much too little :) try kinobody workout, he's on YouTube has nutrition plans too aswell brah

     
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  19. ShotDunyun

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    I'll absolutely do!
     
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