Need help - Porn addiction and femdom/findom addiction

[fleurfindomaddict]

I am a 29 year old French woman and I have been addicted to porn for 2 years. I can't get out of this addiction to porn.

I have a collection of about ten sex toys and I touch them at least once every two days, if not every day. For information, I am also a libertine. I like to swap partners.

I have a husband, but I have much less sex with him than before. I don't feel as much pleasure with my husband as I do with my sex toys so often.

Otherwise, apart from that, I have my dog breeding business (Australian shepherd) and I am moneymiss for moneyslave.

I'm also starting to get more and more addicted to the money I get from my moneyslaves. So I am becoming extremely venal. I am using this money to buy more and more expensive and luxurious toys to continue to stimulate my arousal via porn and with my husband.

Anyone have any advice?

 

[Deleted Account]

You can first try to talk with your husband about the relationship (like, a deep conversation), can get rid of those toys or keep them away and stop with that thing of "moneyslave".

 

[fleurfindomaddict]

Yes you are right, i need to lock or throw away my sextoy. It can be a good first move, but it will be difficult to throw them away. I'm going to talk to my husband, yes, that's the best thing to do, even if it's embarrassing to tell him. I haven't said anything to him in all this time.

 

[White Sheep]

I think you have very clear in your mind what you're doing. So stop ruining your marriage. How? Commit to your husband saying you'll stop buying or using toys, that you won't swap partners and you will quit your job of entrepreneurship as a money slaver. And as it's always said. Replace the bad habits with good ones. Find a job that doesn't leave you so much time and energy to do all the sexual stuff you're doing. Seems to me that your whole life is around sex and nothing else. Do a rebooting, stop P, m, o and toys for three days, one week or whatever time makes you feel that you're making changes. Hoping it helps.

 

[Roady]

Anyone have any advice?

Hi,
I was heavily into femdom myself and I got a good understanding how the findom mechanism works.
I grow over it but that was not easy.
I know that both the domme and the sub has the same inner issues, reason they attract each other and maintain their bondage.

Check out my journal, I wrote some articles about femdom, findom and more.
I think it can inspire you.

 

[fleurfindomaddict]

Thanks for sharing your knowledge Roady. It's interesting.
Cool, thank you very much Roady.

 

[fleurfindomaddict]

I think you have very clear in your mind what you're doing. So stop ruining your marriage. How? Commit to your husband saying you'll stop buying or using toys, that you won't swap partners and you will quit your job of entrepreneurship as a money slaver. And as it's always said. Replace the bad habits with good ones. Find a job that doesn't leave you so much time and energy to do all the sexual stuff you're doing. Seems to me that your whole life is around sex and nothing else. Do a rebooting, stop P, m, o and toys for three days, one week or whatever time makes you feel that you're making changes. Hoping it helps.

Yes it's, my life is (almost only) around sex and pleasure. I think about sex almost day and night. Great advice White Sheep, I will follow them, thanks

 

[OLLIE_100]

I am a 29 year old French woman and I have been addicted to porn for 2 years. I can't get out of this addiction to porn.

I have a collection of about ten sex toys and I touch them at least once every two days, if not every day. For information, I am also a libertine. I like to swap partners.

I have a husband, but I have much less sex with him than before. I don't feel as much pleasure with my husband as I do with my sex toys so often.

Otherwise, apart from that, I have my dog breeding business (Australian shepherd) and I am moneymiss for moneyslave.

I'm also starting to get more and more addicted to the money I get from my moneyslaves. So I am becoming extremely venal. I am using this money to buy more and more expensive and luxurious toys to continue to stimulate my arousal via porn and with my husband.

Anyone have any advice?

You should focus on the good things you have in your life like your husband and your dog breeding business these things are meaningful in your life and not lustful, I would also throw any sex toys away without second thoughts as you don’t need them,

 

[WilliamTheChristian]

You should ask your husband if he has a porn/sexting/sexual addiction. If he does and if he wants to work on it, then you two can work on improving your addictions together.

You could tell him about your addiction even if he doesn't have a similar sexual addiction. But some family and friends are not sympathetic or understanding of sexual addictions, especially my family. My family is mostly perverted and condone prostitution. If I told family about my addiction then they would undemine, ignore, or worsen it. I've told some family and they don't really care unfortunately. I've read of another addict here whose parents didn't care. It's very sad. So be careful when disclosing if your spouse is not suffering too, because it can backfire.

Also, you should immediately stop the moneymiss/moneyslave thing. After quitting porn, I would never pay a dime to look at another man's wife. I am unmarried and not currently interested in marriage but I would not feel safe at all if my wife was getting paid by "moneyslaves." That sounds like the start of an adultery or divorce account. I would never marry a woman who would want to share inappropriate photos with another man. Infidelity is so difficult to prove and some women can be very good at hiding adultery, even with support from family and other men. I've read so many adultery/divorce accounts. Thus I would just assume adultery if I ever came across my wife sharing inappropriate photos or inappropriately communicating with other men, even if she didn't commit adultery. I would immediately divorce: with these types of women, it's usually always divorce or be divorced anyways. If I don't divorce, then she likely will to marry a "moneyslave."

Just the idea of my wife using the term "moneyslave" on other people would disturb me. I would never want to marry a woman who would call someone a "moneyslave" or who would participate in a sexual system that uses the term "moneyslave." It's like me selling abortion material to women via a website where I am called "moneymister" and those women are labeled "moneyslaves." It's disrespectful. I would be exploiting their weakness for money and then giving them a derogatory and devaluing label for possessing such weakness. That's just horrible and cruel.

You should replace that bad hobby with some other way of earning income. There are many other ways to earn income like babysitting, dog walking, housekeeping, and etc. Maybe you can focus more on maximizing or expanding your dog breeding business, but honestly the dog breeding business sounds like a potential trigger. Is it about dogs having sex? That would probably very easily trigger a porn/sexual addiction. I would probably leave that hobby. I don't even think that I'd be able to dog-walk after such a hobby. Just the sight of a dog might remind me of dog breeding and trigger me. But you are not me maybe, so perhaps you can handle that.