Hello there fellow travellers, I've done nofap back and forth for some time now because I’ve failed to see the benefits of it. At most I’ve reached about 30 days and I haven’t really experienced any ground-breaking changes, except for being extremely horny. I can’t say that PMO have been to much of a problem for me earlier, but I got curios because of all the success stories. Normally I did PMO once everyday before going to bed. Still feeling horny and energised the next day, so it wasn’t really draining me in a sense that other describe. But I’ve experienced some problems during sex recent years with my dick going limp. Which haven’t been a problem before, this was one of the reasons I started with nofap. But also because I wanted to increase my self-control, get a more realistic picture of girls and sex (since porn kind of fucks this up), become a better version of myself and possibly get better success with the ladies in general. So now to the problem at hand. I have had mixed success with women during my days, I feel like I was more successful during my younger years. Even though I feel like I’m a better version of myself today. But for some reason I keep fucking things up and I don’t understand why. I’ve been using tinder a lot and I have no problem getting matches. The problem comes later when we are supposed to set up a date. About 80% of the time they say yes to a date, but when the time comes at least 90% of them flake. Those that doesn’t flake usually gets very passive after our first date. I’ve tried asking many of the girls what the problem is since I really want to know what I’m doing wrong. When I ask them If they really want to hangout anymore, they usually say something along the line with: ’’I just have so much in school and work right now, I need to take care of myself first’’ etc. I know that its impossible for so many girls to have this exact same problem, it must be because of a lack of interest. But when I ask about it they just give me these elusive answers every time. It makes me insane because it happens almost every got damn time, even though I feel as if I get a great connection with some of the girls. On top of this nofap makes me extremely horny and my patience is growing thinner, so Is my confidence due to all the failure I’m experiencing. I feel unable to find a relationship. When it comes to flirting outside of tinder I usually go out with my friends clubbing during the weekends. The problem here is I usually lack the courage to walk up to the girls I find really attractive. And most of the times it feels like I only get the attention from girls at the club that I’m not interested in. If the attractive girls only gave me a hint of them being interested, I wouldn’t have any problem of approaching. Even when I am successful with a women I like it usually doesn’t last very long because they ’’don’t know what they want’’, which is about the same excuse as the tinder girls. Sorry for the long post and my bad English, it isn’t my native language. If some poor soul have the time and will to read this, cheers to you.