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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by piedhelp, Aug 2, 2020.

  1. piedhelp

    piedhelp Fapstronaut

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    Hi, stopped watching porn Maj 2018. Still no random erections or erections when seeing girl naked. Can get hard about 70 % when fantasizing and sometimes when touching the penis. Tried to watch porn a while ago to see if it works. Though, nothing, no erection at all. Libido still low.

    Tried hard mode for up to 150 days lately but got an orgasm from BJ. Though fast, so probably PE too. The erections strength was about 60 %. It wasn't easy to get that erection. That was a week ago. Now I'm doing hard mode again.

    My question is, for more than 2 years it has been like this. I'm wondering if I should incorporate orgasms, like one O each week?
     
  2. BigBadWolf_27

    BigBadWolf_27 Fapstronaut

    "When you started fapping and how long does it took?" it's the fundamental question here.
     
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  3. piedhelp

    piedhelp Fapstronaut

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    Started watching porn by age 12. I'm 30 now. Watched almost every day until the 2 last years. Haven't watched porn since I quit. Though O several times, mostly with girl
     
  4. BigBadWolf_27

    BigBadWolf_27 Fapstronaut

    It may be porn induced erectile dysfunction but from what you are saying it's hard to say. Definitely stop "testing" if your dick is still working. I'm talking especially about porn. Hard mode may be solution in that case, that 18 years of constant porn using may done some harm to you, so maybe that 150 days didn't repair you at 100%. So yeah, in my opinion you should stick up with hard mode, monitoring your erection quality. Abstinence it's the best cure, I think.
     
  5. AlexDavid42

    AlexDavid42 New Fapstronaut
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    Have orgasms only for reproduction. Take chasteberry if you can't resist the Lust.
     
  6. piedhelp

    piedhelp Fapstronaut

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    Ok, thanks. I will continue with hard mode. I've been to several different physicians and psychologist. Everything is normal. They all say it is psychological. But more than 2 years. It is wierd
     
  7. piedhelp

    piedhelp Fapstronaut

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    My libido is low to non existing. I has been ever since I quit porn, i.e. 2 years ago. But something my girl wants to get intimate and it happens that I orgasm. I have not masturbated or watched porn since 2018.

    I have noticed one thing. When she is not around me, i.e. living with me, my libido increases, it is like my mind wants me to masturbate. It usually gets like this after 4-5 days. But when she is living with me, my libido decreases both at home and outside. Don't get me wrong. I'm attracted to her but my libido is not there. It is like my mind is waiting for me to be alone, to masturbate. Like I did 2018. Very strange.
     
  8. kuijkuij

    kuijkuij Fapstronaut

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    18 years watching porn do make some damage to you. Usually no erections takes over a year to recover as you have hurt yourself for such a long time and your body can't recover as fast as before because you are 30 now. My suggestion is you should not only just focus on abstaining PMO but also think about living a healthy life. You could also ask for doctor's suggestions if this is possible. These will help you recover. Otherwise, your recovery may take years.
     
  9. piedhelp

    piedhelp Fapstronaut

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    I have started to exercise and tried to meditate. Meditation was harder than I thought. What do you about this:
    I have noticed one thing. When my GF is not around me, i.e. living with me, my libido increases, it is like my mind wants me to masturbate. It usually gets like this after 4-5 days. But when she is living with me, my libido decreases both at home and outside. Don't get me wrong. I'm attracted to her but my libido is not there. It is like my mind is waiting for me to be alone, to masturbate. Like I did 2018.
     

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