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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by fuzzywaz, Dec 9, 2016.

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    fuzzywaz Fapstronaut

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    My SO is on his second attempt at reboot. His initial attempt was January of last year. He went about 45 days hardmode and then shorty after reintroducing sex with me, he relapsed. Over the following 9 months or so he would keep relapsing periodically.I was not able to be involved much in his recovery due to extenuating circumstances.
    So fast forward to about 2 months ago and he decided to give it another COMMITTED try. Basically I broke it down that it is the porn or me.
    He has been clean since around the end of oct,( as far as I know, unless he is lying to my face repeatedly). The first month was great. He was engaged with this community and we were communicating every night via fanos ect. He did move the goal post from 90 days hardmode to soft recovery ,(no P and no M),after we started having sex again at about 30 days.... Then he experienced an injury and essentially threw his back out in early nov.
    It is really bad, he has had to miss work and has had to be on prescription pain meds to manage. It's been going on for almost 4 weeks now and doesn't seem to be improving. I know he is genuinely in pain, he has had scans to reveal the issue and I have seen him almost reduced to tears when the meds wear off.
    The issue is I have no idea how this will effect his recovery. Obviously he is getting dopamine from the drugs and I am not sure how this is effecting his recovery from the PA.....
    He is becoming withdrawn, which is horrible for me, because it feels similar to the feelings of him being far away in porn addiction and says he doesn't really want to talk or think about the porn issue when he is dealing with this injury. He will talk if I ask him how it's going and he says he has not had any type of relapse. I am at the point of taking sex off the table because with his injury we are very limited in what he can do as far as performance, and again I am becoming triggered because the sex is started to remind me of the shitty sex we had when he was deep in his addiction and I felt like I was basically a masturbatory aid that he used to get off while he entertained porn fantasy in his head.
    It all just seems too familiar and I am not sure whether it is the drugs or if I should suspect he is using porn again. Also, as I stated above, I have no idea how the dopamine from the drugs is going to effect his recovery.
    If anyone can relate to this particular situation or offer any insight, it would be appreciated. Thanks
     
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