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Need Some Advices

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by AlternativeFalcon01, Jul 27, 2020.

  1. AlternativeFalcon01

    AlternativeFalcon01 Fapstronaut

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    People, I'm a bit discouraged. I'm writing here because I really need sime advices. At first time when I started nofap I did a 415 day streak, what was amazing to me because my thoughts were recovered. I just felt it, I found new motivations, and I'vw seen more realistically my visions. After that I relapsed under the warm shower when I thought that I am finally clean from my addiction. Then I had a much shorter streak, about a 30 day long streak and relapsed again. That become shorter and shorter, and now I am here relapsing after every second day. The main problem is that I don't really feel motivated to start the streak, and I'm not sure what's the main reason of my fall. It's like my mind knows but my heart don't see clearly how big of an issue is this. I need some help, and some advices from you people. Love you all my comrades
     
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  2. You know, I lost my over 721 days streak around 47 days ago, so I can somwhat relate. In my case, I looked at something I considered porn in the past, and then I got carried away and looked at a couple of pictures more. I broke one of my rules, so with a heavy heart I had to reset my counter. Man, I was proud of my result, and it surely kept me from breaking any rule, but maybe if I kept the number and kept lying to myself I would have fallen even deeper. Who knows?

    We're both veterans, so to speak. In my case, I can see where I made my mistake. It was a process of slowly falling into a temptation. Maybe it's the same in your case? I also thought that I was dedicated enough, but I seemingly wasn't.

    It's hard to give any advice to a veteran like you, but since you asked, I'll try my best (based on my feelings and previous shameful experiences):
    -Remember the reason for your struggles to become free. What's been driving you to stay clean?
    -Remember how wonderful you felt while being free. Don't you want to return to that state? You know, it won't take as much time as before if you start from TODAY.
    -Return to the NoFap forum as much as possible, watch motivatonal videos, take cold showers when urges come, so everything that kept you away from losing.
    -Take your fall as a fresh start. You might think that you don't know what went wrong, but I think that you're simply in a phase of denial.
    -Most importantly:
    You're a man and you're bound to fall. However, you're also a man who knows the taste of freedom unlike most people living in the delusion of living free. You've already done something that most people aren't capable of doing or even understanding. If people knew what you've been through, they'd want to read comics about you, not some Batman. Get up, look into the mirror, and say hi to a man who knows the taste of victory and who knows the taste of defeat after a victory, and... deal with it like a boss! Start your streak again with your old rules and apply changes to them.
    Just become awesome again.

    Giving up is boring.
     
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  3. AlternativeFalcon01

    AlternativeFalcon01 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you my friend. You gave me some really useful advices and most importantly you've reminded me why did I started the whole thing. Now I feel in myself that I can do it. God bless you
     
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  4. Asdor22

    Asdor22 Fapstronaut

    This time, your streak will be even longer I believe :)
     
  5. AlternativeFalcon01

    AlternativeFalcon01 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for your encouragement, it means to me a lot. I believe it too :)
     
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