I posted in another forum a little while ago. Quick summary- I found out my husbands porn addiction had gotten really bad. We've looked up old journals and realized we first started talking about it and having sexual problems because of it so long ago- 2005. I guess I didn't take it seriously enough, or else I gave up, because it continued to get worse, went into voyeurism (filming a friend of ours naked without her knowledge many times, over years), then into frequenting sex clubs weekly, taking part in Gang Bangs, for the last two years. It's a long story of how it escalated, but it still goes back to the porn. We're trying to rebuild our relationship and he is trying hard to quit. He's been doing well for the last few weeks. But we both wonder- how long will he have to abstain? From masturbation in general? From using porn? Will he ever be able to use such things in a "normal" way like most men, without it escalating and impacting other aspects of his life? Will the we always have to be vigilant about "triggers"? Is there a moment when the same pathways aren't so easily set off, or don't go as far? I could use some input from men going through or having gone through this. I could show him your responses on this. We're both asking ourselves a lot of questions and feeling a bit lost in it all. He doesn't feel ready to talk to others about it- he is ashamed, even though I tell him there are lots of men who have been through this. But he asks me what you guys say. Thanks for any advice you can offer!