I am 24M, but have been masturbating probably since I was like I would say 14-15 until I was 22. Watched porn everyday, used to masturbate every day or like every other day. Decided to go on a NoFap journey I believe in Dec 2019, so I stopped watching porn and masturbating all together but I was still looking at those hot instagram models until like March 2020. So officially I would say the journey started in March 2020, so no porn and no masturbation till to this day. There were some wet dreams here and there and even like about a month ago. Don't know if that's useful information but I would still mention it. Definitely felt a huge improvement, so became a lot more confident, more social, working out consistently and still in shape, and stopped looking at women like some sex objects. Recently found myself a girl and had a chance to have sex with her but couldn't get a complete hard on at all. The foreplay was good and she even tried to jerk me off but I guess the ED was too strong. So I tried to test and watch a porn video after that to check if I would get turned on idk why lol. But after watching it, no reaction whatsoever. Like I would get turned on when foreplaying with her but it's not a complete hard on. So I am just wondering isn't 1.5 years of that enough for me to heal? I feel like a different person now, no perverted thoughts nothing but feels like my dick just forgot how to function lmao. So I am thinking should I try and masturbate without porn and see what would happen or what do you guys think?
Need some help/opinions after 1.5 years of NoFap journey
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nfpexperiment
Fapstronaut
Well never go back to pmo, you experienced how it sucked the life force out of you. I guess fapping without porn every now and then shouldnt be a problem but keep it to a minimum.
modernstore99
Fapstronaut
This is really common. After a reboot, especially if you haven't had sex yet, your brain doesn't really "know" it's supposed to get excited by sex. I was a virgin before I did my first reboot, and I was barely hard at all for my first sexual experiences, even though I was super excited. Instead of focusing on your penis, worrying if you're hard, and trying to penetrate her, just kiss her, feel every part of your body, and enjoy the moment. A rule I had from a user years ago was "Do what feels good, stop if it doesn't feel good." Don't try to force yourself into liking something, especially during sex; it will condition your mind to associate sex with frustration and confusion, which we don't want. Just enjoy the company and body of whoever you're with. Over time, as you become more comfortable with your partner and enjoy non-penetrative sex, you'll find yourself to start getting erections during sex. When this happens, just stick it in an, again, do what feels good. Don't worry about cumming, just do what feels good. Over time you'll get harder, the sex will feel better, you'll get harder, and so on. It took me about 2 months of sex twice a week to go from finding sex kinda weird and awkward with barely any erections to having painfully strong erections and extreme sensitivity. Just keep it up, don't worry aboubt your dick, and have a good time. Your body will follow along in time
JoeinUSA
Fapstronaut
The feel of the MO handgrip will just make your ED worse - that is a major factor, too. I think the fact that you went through a so-called "no P' yet still went to instagram was a lie you were telling yourself - it was a P substitute. Possibly you may have many P substitutes in your life still that you're justifying, which is the real problem of ED at your age. A P tests is also destructive, proving the point. Wet dreams are never a problem; they are actually signs of recovery, purging out all the P that poisoned your mind in the past. But, no, M won't help ED; it'll just make ED worse.
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