Need some help

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Musta, Aug 6, 2016.

  1. Musta

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    Here I am, opening the nofap forum, resetting the counters that showed full green bars and achieved goals after abandoning the forum for a while, it's so sad that I could have been there but I chose to follow this horrible urge... I didn't really choose, I chose not to chose, I chose to let the autopilot does his job while I watch helplessly, which is just coward.
    Staying away from this forum made me lose the mindset of a fapstronaut. Even when the urges weren't around I couldn't come up with a reason why I should be doing this, and that's why urges got me so easy many times..
    Now I need some help from this forum to get my act together and to give me a head start, a push start for a car with an empty battery... The new academic year is about a month away. If I get there clean then college will keep me busy and I should be safe. So now I need to fully focus for one week to cut the fap cycle, then carefully continue for a month.
    Excuse me I'm just thinking out loud, but I would appreciate any help from you guys. Really anything could help me out in this time...
     
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  2. Awakening123

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    Good luck man! I went almost 90 days and then binged for 2 months and stayed away from this forum which was a huge mistake. Let's get back on track together!
     
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  3. gogibasket

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    Good luck @awakening you always comments and support others here
     
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  4. iHappy

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    @Musta and @Awakening123 looks like you both did the same mistake. I know it doesn't feel good but you have learned something on your journey. Actually, I believe you have learned a lot. One does not simply stay clan for 90 days like @Awakening123 did without learning anything.
    You know what to do now, good luck on your journeys :)
     
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  5. joarev85

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    A tip has helped me: hit the panic button even when it is not panic. Hit it also on the good days. Why? Because it is motivational posts and words that keeps you going. Good luck!
     
  6. Awakening123

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    Thanks man. How is your journey going?
     
  7. gogibasket

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    I just relapsed on day 34.:((I'm using spin browser but woke up in the middle of night and boring, download other browser and go to porn sites, then relapsed..
     
  8. Awakening123

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    34 days is very good. Is there any way you can block all the porn and not access it? You can try go internet free for few months if it's possible. Don't lose hope; you can do better than this.
     
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  9. iHappy

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    Well it happens. What triggered you exactly ? What feeling did you have prior to relapse? Did you have a bad day? Stress, fear, anxiety...?

    Get up and keep going :) 34 days is a good streak. Than means you put some effort into this.
    Good luck!
     
  10. gogibasket

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    Don't know what to do @awakening I was so anxious and depressed and irritability all days. Today after relapsing I feel great. No anxiety, depression, anger, irritability. I set openDns for computer and Android and after I set password (I'll write it on paper and it will be long password, then I'll throw the paper).
     
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  11. gogibasket

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    It doesn't triggers me nothing I was just boring in the middle of the night and I tried to download other browsers without Google play. After downloading I try another browser and go to Red tube. Then relapsed. I now use openDns and it can block categories. I blocked porn and I'll lock it with password. Im sad because of wasted 34 days. My first big attempt was 54!Course I'll try again, and try to be wise this time!
     
  12. iHappy

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    @gogibasket So it was boredom. It is a very strong feeling and a lot of people are doing their best to escape it. That is what you did. You couldn't stand being bored.
    Of course, after watching porn boredom was gone and you felt fine, ready to fall a sleep.
     
  13. gogibasket

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    My strongwill is still powerful. I'll continue and try again. This is hard battle with yourself. I read every day this site and posts and I must build some kind of strategy.
     
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  14. iHappy

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    @gogibasket Never give up!
    You relapsed the same way 95% people do, because you were trying to hide from your emotions. You have to find some other way to deal with them.

    Here is the quote from my guide:

    Good luck man :)
     
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  15. gogibasket

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    Thank you @iHappy good luck too you too! :)
     
  16. Cool Joey

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    I too did the mistake of leaving the forum.Those days were like hell.I just couldn't control my urges any longer.I felt no reason why I shouldn't fap.But now I have realized that fapping is just another way of getting pleasure without the pain.But when we put in the work,put in the Pain,that is what makes it great.The pain is what makes it great.Hope this helps.Good luck:)
     
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  17. Musta

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    Thanks for the support man.. and just like @iHappy said, I believe that we have learned a lot from that mistake too.
    lesson learned, no more excuses.
     
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  18. Musta

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    great tip man thanks, I was actually lacking motivation at that period... I wish I did what you said.


    Yeah, the exact same mistake here. I think that this forum is a must even if it's once every couple of days to keep one motivated and to keep the mindset of a successful rebooter
    You remind me of the saying of Tom Hanks "Hard is what makes it great" :)
    thanks for the support man, good luck to you too.
     
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