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Need to completely quit video games

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Vedas_fr, May 12, 2018.

  1. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    Oh yeah for someone who has more trouble quitting you might wanna go to r/stopgaming. If I ever really crave video games or I think I'll relapse on that I'll go to r/stopgaming but that doesn't seem to be an addiction I need to address directly as much as my PMO addiction. its easy for me to totally abstain from gaming. but that group is there. There's also a CGAA (computer gaming addicts anonymous) website with virtual meetings and chat meetings.
     
  2. haze2

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    video games kills a quarter part and fap kills a half. remains a quart of me. idk.. im striving. itsbeen tough
     
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  3. Here2learn17

    Here2learn17 Fapstronaut

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    I’ve definitly jumped into video games (specifically online multiplayer games) with the same sort of motivation of escaping as I did with m and pmo. Good to hear I’m not the only one to come to this realization. Might cut out online multiplayer all together or attempt to do only one evening per week not sure yet.
     
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  4. zicozoma7

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    They're symptoms of the same disease.... Life Stress (financial, emotional, studying, shitty job/career stress) , boredom, escaping reality.... add to them (PMO and gaming) youtube/netflix/tv shows binging.... they're all symptoms of the same disease. Some are worse than others but they all drain your energy, waste your life, you feel depressed, guilty for not accomplishing anything in life and end result?? no progress in life, only you feeling worse
     
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  5. If you give in too much and become addicted to it, I can agree. Nearly everything can become a serious problem, overdone in extremes. Also working, religious behaviour, eating and keeping your money together. I mean, there were good reasons why the accesss to alcohol, cigarettes, gambling and adult material have been controlled and limited in the past, to keep it away from children. You cannot expect weak and already addicted children developing into strong, independant adults.
     
  6. zicozoma7

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    Ok folks, here's my latest input in the thread. I took my $70 gaming mouse, mousepad and I have them to my friend who was visiting from out of state....basically I got rid of them. And I got both my league of legends/dota 2 accounts permanently banned...
    Extreme?? maybe but I'm an addict and why i'm here in nofap?? because addicts unfortunately lost self control.

    Started meditation (installed an app called 'headspace' had amazing reviews, seems legit).

    My ultimate goal?? workout regularly and study regularly while working full time (wow I can tell why I fell in all these addictions just typing this last sentence).

    Next step?? I just added 2-3 hours daily back into my life. I know that me getting back focused to studying is my hardest task and the reason why I escape it so I'll take it easy on that. I will focus now on starting working out for now (after work) + daily meditation.

    Extra goal to myself (and anyone interested to do the same)?? finding a partner in gym and studying. I know this will be a game changer for me. Take care folks! and stay strong!!!
     
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  7. zicozoma7

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    Oh that's what I'm talking about here (and most of us over here actually). I'm talking about 'too much' gaming, youtube, TV shows, PMO, repeat.....
    Here's what's common in them:
    1- we do them because we are escaping reality (we does;t necessarily means you, just using it hypothetically)
    2- we waste time, a lot of time in them and we feel guilty after them
    3- almost all of them are done at home, by ourselves, when bored, stressed out etc etc.
    4- why they're addictive?? they provide fake self satisfaction (PMO, gaming) with good dopamine rush into your brains and they're easily available
    5- they all provide almost 0 benefit!
     
  8. They provide obviously an aspect of lust, joy or entertainment. I would not consider it completly bad or something to avoid. I enjoy Netflix, Spotify, good youtbe videos and the ressources of the Internet like enabling communities like this here. I also enjoy sex with the right person at the right time very much, a good game to play or a drink.
    In fact all creatures strive for pleasure, that´s a healthy natural urge.

    It´s not so good anymore for the certain individual, if it leads for example an insect straight into the clever trap of a flesheating plant, because it smelled "like pleasure and big fun".
     
  9. zicozoma7

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    do it bro, they're all related! trust me in this... and may eventually lead to relapse. the main enemy here is not porn/fapping/ orgasm, it's the way you spend your time when you're bored/stressed/seeking some pleasure. Do it by any means in life other than being in front of a screen!
     
  10. FishHook

    FishHook Fapstronaut

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    You can add junk food, sugar, alcohol, weed. They raise your dopamine for a little bit of time and kill you consistently. The same as gaming, social networks, tv. The best way is to switch our sources of pleasure. Instead of gaming - good workout, fap - date with a girl or sex, social networks - fishing, hunting, skydiving or something else that can raise your adrenaline and dopamine.
     
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  11. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    Hi everyone. Thanks for all the good posts. Today the Pokemon music was in my head. I used to listen to video game music even while not gaming. I think it kind of weakned me a little to use the addiction eventually because it puts me "back there". The games I seek are usually nostalgic to my childhood like Pokemon and Mario. I can see why because I want to re-capture the feelings of when I was 10-15 and those games were so novel and exciting. I could be totally absorbed in them. Now as a 28 year old person, I have a lot of other stuff on my mind. So the only way to get totally lost in a game is to already be numbed out some other way with having just PMO'ed or getting stoned (I haven't smoked or drank in 4-5 yrs) or just binging on junk food while I play (havent binged on trigger food since 2015)

    So gaming and my current life aren't as compatible. Its uncomfortable and I guess going on forum so much is just a micro-step up from gaming but at least I am facing "real" things in a way. And I know I am gonna be working my way up to higher levels of participation in the physical world. I am just trusting the process, and giving it time. I was PMO'ing and gaming and computer'ing since like age 12 so I never developed many social skills. I had some success rehabilitating myself socially, using face to face 12 step meetings, up until now. I will probably get back into that if I can find a good meeting near me, or can at least tolerate one. Also doing face-time on skype with a counselor has been good since it is eye contact and being with someone in real-time. I'd like to have more skype friends because usually online you can find people with more specified things in common where as in physical world the people might have no clue what nofap is or any of my other interests. So that makes it different-er.
     
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  12. p3rs0nal

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    I know this problem way to good. I'm of video games about 2 month now. Better not at all then way to much
     
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  13. Vedas_fr

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    Yes, i followed the same road on several occasions : leave video games for small video games, then internet binge and movies, then a little less, then only forums and info sites, then reduce, and in a month or 2 you are sevred from the computer drugs
     
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  14. kayesem

    kayesem Fapstronaut

    Great thread.

    I can relate to the problems mentioned for sure. I find it amusing that I could not care less about the games mentioned though. We all have / had our own preferences.

    I started out age 12 modding GTA 1 on PC. Ended up at the worst of it on a custom built rig running GTA V with mods at 4k with decent settings. I usually have no licence and during such times always turned to gaming to pass the time and stay out of trouble without spending too much money. Also as self-medication for a messed up life, the opposite of facing my problems and putting in the hard work to grow wiser and stronger.

    What broke my addiction was having nVidia forcibly auto-update the driver for my dual cards and brick them. I watched in horror as it happened. I tried everything to fix, but it was too deep, and ended up crashing my entire OS. I was dual booting and whatever the virus was, it eventually got to my backup OS after a couple weeks and then could not even boot into anything. It was terrible, as you could imagine, but also oddly refreshing. I found out that it happened to many others aswell. Such is life. I depend on computers for work and my work suffered greatly as a result. I felt pretty guilty and blamed myself for getting so distracted with gaming when all I really wanted was to be writing music and doing artwork in spare time. Huge lack of discipline. I never got into the online multi-player stuff much. Just drift mods and add-on cars and thrashing about.

    I had a break for 7 months, then dusted off the old PS3 with it's appalling graphics and no mods. Got tired of that and made a more firm decision that I was better off without it. If you want to game, play the game actual real LIFE for heaven's sake.

    It has now been about 14 months completely free from gaming. I did check out slither.io for some weeks, but quickly became disgusted about how much time i was spending on such a stupid thing. It was a total waste of energy and I always felt seedy as afterwards.

    The difficult to stop is easily equal to PMO, if not more on some levels, forgive the pun. It is definitely dopamine hi-jacking, novelty seeking and under the category of 'artificial stimulation' that we all need to be wary of. Starts out fine, balanced, no problems, but devolves quickly when used as a numbing solution to the array of real life problems we all face at some time or another.

    Real life is better.

    It's basically the greatest game. The levels are harder, everything is so realistic. The graphics resolution is astounding. The consequences of decisions have such an impact. The rewards of hard work are worthwhile. If you die it can seem like it takes forever to reset.

    If you have ever tried 'god mode', you know it quickly ruins the game. Challenges and limits are how we grow in the world. Embrace them and learn to cultivate inner strength. Real health and actual abilities. Qualities that we knew we really needed all along.

    I am so thankful to have made an exit before getting hit with the current generation on VR.

    Life really is the ultimate VR. Get into it ☺
     
  15. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    Well today, I'm not gonna play ROMs, search ROMs, look for game updates, go on TCGONE, look at the latest pokemon TCG release (this is a tough one...), search to see if gen 8 pokemon have been revealed (another tough one...), look up other game releases, try to find a way to get Citra 3DS running, research more 2ds emulators (hours and hours doing this...), um... oh that reminds me I dreamed of Pokemon Mystery Dungeon game thing. Oh yeah also not gonna listen to video game sound tracks... There are also other related things. Not gonna watch lonelyisland or Ras Trent or Spongebob clips... That's tough! I might be too strict.
     
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  16. MilesAway

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    Having been an avid gamer for over 30 years (zx spectrum 48k baby!) I have also quit gaming, but maybe for slightly different reasons than have been mentioned so far here, my realisation is that my gaming was causing me to disconnect emotionally (and also I supppse, physically) with my family (I am a husband and father), I would get in form work, get the kids to bed as quick as I could, then game until the early hours, with my wife watching Netflix elsewhere, this would be night after night after night, usually until the early hours, leaving me tired, stressed and in need of something to chill me out....yep, more gaming. The cycle being almost identical to PMO, and I found that my PMO cycles (I would be able to stop for long periods but then get sucked back in) where in time with my gaming cycles. What I came to think was that, I wasn't PMOing because I was lonely and in need of comfort, I had everything in life I needed but I was making myself lonely and in need of comfort through my disconnecting with those that were close to me.

    I apologise, I tend to ramble on and not make much sense, but to summise, after a lifetime of gaming, I have come to realise that it has been a major (not the only) factor in my lapses into acting out and PMO.
     
  17. Vedas_fr

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    It makes perfect sense. Gaming is an obsession, never enough, easy low level satisfaction. You definitively should stop and focus on family
     
  18. hollyman

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    Im a gamers too, and my fav genre was RTS and RPG,

    Anyways i quit gaming from now, it was 2 days ago when i choose to not play game anymore even its the simple game in my phone...and about a year away from pc game

    What made me wana quit is the fact that im 26 years old and im still live in fake world,,, i mean how can i met my future wife, how can i bought a house, a car etc that exist in the real world,,,,if im just doin my gaming and live in the fake world,,


    Come on man, take a look at youre hardcore gaming friend (older than you), do you wana become him? Master at the game but 0 at real life
     
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  20. TheNewPat

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    I love quitting addictions. From drugs, alcohol, pmo, netflix/tv and video games.

    The only way i successfully did these things(only just started trying PMO but its going cruisey) is by addressing the underlying issue and also constructively filling the new free time i had acquired.

    Have you tried getting addicted to good things in life? Things that dont make you feel shit if you binge on them? Some things i do in my life now are:

    - Reading ( mainly self improvement and non fiction genres. Non fiction can be the same as tv/movies and suck you into hours and hours of fantasy and escapism)

    Exercise: walking/riding to the shop instead of driving. Gym. Youtube workouts. Exercise classes. Swimming. Hiking. Rock climbing.

    Study/work: these things provideme with real life tangible evidence that im improving and succeeding.

    Healthy eating: i rarely eat takeout and love to cook new recipes. It takes a lot of time to shop and cook for new things. Also the physical and mental benefits of a nutritious diet are amazing.

    Okay.. im.blabbing. . Sorry.
    Ill hush now.
     
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