Need to watch a minute or two of porn before sex with girlfriend..

I think you should address the issue to your girlfriend... If she loves you she will understand. Then i would commence reboot for at least 30 days and try to completely abstain from sex.. fo us on intimacy with your girl and kiss her. Once you are finding yourself erect from simply kissing than have sex. That's my non expert opinion and really it's your choice. But I think once you can get past your porn addiction things should begin relaying back to normal. Good luck sir, the force is with you.

 

Yep, I've been there too. I've often needed porn or masturbation to get ready for sex in the past. Usually it's pretty unreliable and fades quickly which isn't much fun for your partner.

I leveled with my wife about desensitizing myself with fapping and that I'd recently given it up. We went to bed on day 2 with (without any porn 'warm-up' for me). I felt pretty nervous and we talked about it and decided just to stroke and play with no expectations and no pressure to have sex. I was guessing that I'd give her an orgasm without penetration and not have an orgasm myself. Turned out that stimulating her without worrying about my performance made me easily hard enough for penetration and we both had orgasms

So find a way to talk to her about it to start with. That will take the mental pressure off you which is enough to give you ED by itself. Give up porn and self-fapping completely at least for a while and focus on the intimacy and play rather than performance. You'll probably be surprised how soon you'll be able to get very aroused just by her once you let go of your fears. It's a great feeling.

Also, talking honestly will make you closer and feeling closer is a huge turn on for most women.

 

If you're nervous about telling her everything you could start small by talking about giving up masturbation to improve ED. If she asks about why you need to masturbate you can discuss any mental blocks you have about initiating sex (MO is often a refuge from those). Have you told her about the pills?

My wife knows I'm giving up fapping and that I have a lot of porn but she'd probably be shocked if I told her how many hours I've spent on PMO when she's not around.

 

i feel so ashamed, I relasped last night and it was horrible

 

Hi m 33 year old married men having 2 kids and m addicted to alcohol smoking and pmo now from recent 8 to 9 months m not getting hard erection and if managed to get erection then ejaculate prematurely...and from last month m not getting erection...and during watching porn I have no problem I'm having erection...
Really worried..I have no idea what m dealing with...e.d brain fog or p.e..i already quit drinking and smoking...need help. M new member here

 

@Vk23 hi , I am so sad to hear your story , alcohol smoking and PMO are reasons of sexual problems .keep focus on your goal , you are a man of a family , you want your kids to be proud of you , u do not want to cheat your wife by watching those PORN actresses , porn actresses are no longer an option for you .
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