NEED YOUR OPINIONS!

I’m in the flatline, no porn, no sex, no masturbation and no arousal for the passed eight days. Then last night I begin to feel again, I have a slight erection and I can feel my libido trying it’s best to jump start itself. Lying beside my wife I’m aroused but afraid to make a move for fear that I’ll go limp. Then this morning my penis is reacting to touch and subtle touch at that and nothing in a sexual way. I’m wondering if my mojo is returning but is it smart to hop back on the orgasm wagon so soon? I was a heavy, heavy porn user for 19 years and have suffered from crippling bouts of PIED and I’m wondering if I haven’t given my brain enough time to relax. My wife is very understanding, she made a joke last night about me not being able to stay hard but she followed it up with, “it’s okay as long as you’re not watching anything.” I’m just afraid of jumping into sex with her too soon and going limp which then leads to depression and then a longer flatline. Anyone out there ever wrestle with this issue?