Well this is 'fun'... I've read about nofap and porn addiction issues on a completely unrelated site. So I was aware of the phenomena for a few years. I have a problem, or I wouldn't be here posting. I am recently divorced, married over 20 years. Sex was extremely rare, one reason marriage finally failed, as in a few times a year. She was also very tight, so I always had to go slow with intercourse. Intercourse was close to the old death grip and there was plenty of masturbation to make up for the lack of sex over the years. I recently met someone and we started sleeping together and I have complete DE. I expected it the first time since I had seen the same thing happen before the first time I with a woman, I can go forever that first time and won't orgasm and I told her that. The only time I ever came the first time with a woman is when she had very well developed kiegels. What I didn't expect is it to stay that way. I can get it up with my new partner, and she's getting off but me not doing the same is rearing it's ugly head. I'm worried it's gonna be an issue. She wants me to orgasm and has said so a few times. I don't want her thinking it's her because I don't think it's that. I would expect to not be able to perform at all if I wasn't attracted. So here I am trying to figure out how to resolve my issue. I understand the basics of both NoFap and no porn. I haven't been feeling a need for porn lately and have been able orgasm via masturbation while fantasizing about women I know or remembering past experiences. So I don't think I have a hard core porn hang up and the porn I gravitate towards is vanilla, so it's not like I'm expecting my partner to suddenly to some kinky fetish type stuff. I really think it's a death grip issue. I'm just starting my research and current game plan is no masturbation. I will keep having sex with my partner because I enjoy that, even if I don't cum, and her getting off means more to me than me getting off. I'll listen to any feedback. My plan may be flawed. I will say my partner and I have talked about my issue and she's supportive about trying to resolve it.