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NEW 90 Day Challenge - Start on Sunday 22nd May 2016

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Al_Walker, May 21, 2016.

  1. Al_Walker

    Al_Walker Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys,

    Looking to see if some people are up for starting a new challenge on Sunday 22nd May 2016.

    I'm going for 90 days as I feel I'm finally ready to let go once and for all. Please feel free to add your own targets in too.

    As for some background about me...

    I'm Al, I'm 22, and I've been watching porn regularly for nearly 10 years now. I've signed up to NoFap to finally show some accountability of the problem that has been burdening me for almost half my life, and overcome it once and for all.


    I was introduced to it at boarding school, and like many young lads was using porn long before I experienced any real sexual experience with a girl. I knew porn was a problem quite early on - I had my first girlfriend aged 16, and was never able to have successful sex with her. I couldn't ever get it up, and when I could, I wouldn't be able to last longer than two or three pumps. This carried on with further relationships - I met more girls over the following years and failed sexually with all of them. When I was 18, I discovered Your Brain on Porn, a fantastic blog that showed me there were other guys out there who were experiencing similar problems. Initially, I was skeptical that my failure in the bedroom was down to my habit of masturbating to porn. I'd use it once a day, everyday, and thought nothing of it. So, to test this theory, I gave it all up for 30 days. After this period, I was finally able to enjoy good sex with a partner. My erections were 100x stronger, I was more in control of my stamina, and I felt a deep hunger in me to seek real sex - it was as if I had a new lease of life!


    So what went wrong? Complacency. I felt like I'd like I solved my problem, but had totally underestimated how easily I'd slip back into the habit - I sought out porn in certain scenarios without even realising it. This included:


    - Being bored

    - Being upset

    - Being home alone

    - Late in the night

    - After a night out drinking


    When any of the above scenarios were in action, I'd almost go into an unconscious state of mind and get off to porn, and then once it was over it was as if I'd 'woken up' from this trance and think 'what the fuck did I just do?' Then the guilt would start, I'd beat myself up, and promise never to do it again. Then the cycle would repeat itself, and has done for years - I'm sure it sounds familiar to those of you reading this.


    What I've discovered is that it takes an active mind to overcome the constant triggers we experience day to day. We need to be constantly, constantly aware of the goal we have set out to achieve, so that your mind can't drift away and lose concentration. NoFap is a fantastic way of doing this - a permanent reminder of your history, your values, and the promises you've made to yourself (and to the rest of the NoFap community) right here.


    So here are my pledges, to both myself and everyone here at NoFap:

    1) I will not masturbate again. Girls only from here on out.

    2) I will never seek, browse or view porn again.

    3) I will keep a regular blog on here and keep you all posted on my progress. This could be anywhere from big updates, to smaller logs for when I'm suffering from a trigger and want to pen down how I'm going to tackle it.


    Please get in touch, share your stories, and together we will let go of this great burden that has taken up too much of our young lives.
     
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  2. fookeh

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    I am 1000% in. Challenge accepted.

    1) I will not masturbate again. Girls only from here on out.
    2) I will never seek, browse or view porn again.

    I'm new; my first post is here.
     
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  3. Yo fellas. Funny I was on here looking for the NoFap June challenge to sign up for. But these sounds even better.

    I read your intro and even though there are a few years between us I totally relate to much of what you said. P has always been around my life since I was I guess about 12 or 13 albeit in such an innocent form. Especially if you compare the ridiculous volume and intensity of stuff around today. So as the P industry changed and became so accessible so did my viewing habits. I genuinely thought little of it. I knew it was bad I guess but never did I imagine it could cause ED and all the terrible stuff that comes with it. The guilt, the dread, the hopelessness immediately after. The hope of going on a streak of no P, the relapse and the cycle all over again.

    Look my big motivation to stay clean is my upcoming marriage where P better be a distant memory or I will be gutted.

    So I am in, 100%.
     
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  4. cid26

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    Hi I read your post and I could identify myself with your words 100%. I am 22 years old as well and I watched p for 10-12 years now. In the last 2 years I realised that P is like a drug for me and I am addicted to it. With the support of a community like this I think we all can beat the addiction.

    I am in your challenge 100%
     
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  5. kobkob

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    I'm in. Great write-up. I am done with this shit. I have almost a week now! Another 90 days sounds like a good start.
     
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  6. jim11

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    I'm in. Been in the cycle of trying and failing for so long, and it feels so shitty.

    Those goals sound good to me, gotta do it this time!
    1) I will not masturbate again. Girls only from here on out.
    2) I will never seek, browse or view porn again.
     
  7. Al_Walker

    Al_Walker Fapstronaut

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    Fantastic to hear mate. Looking forward to hearing on your progress.
     
  8. Al_Walker

    Al_Walker Fapstronaut

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    Hi bro, this is great to hear. A lot of our generation have been hit with the same thing, and we're lucky to have realised so early on that it's caused us so much damage. I can't stand the thought that I've given up pretty much all of my teenage years to this cancer - I will not let the same happen to my twenties. Before we know it, it'll all be gone in a flash. I look forward to hearing your stories.
     
  9. Al_Walker

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    Hi buddy, great to hear you in too. Like the others on this post, alot of us fall into the same age category and have been affected similarly by the effects of porn. It's a horrible place to be in, but like I said to the guy above you, it's up to us to not spent our twenties like we spent our teens. I missed out on so many opportunities with girls in my teens because of porn, I am so determined not to let it happen again. Great to have you on board, let's do this together.
     
  10. Al_Walker

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    Fantastic start mate. Keep us all informed with your progress - we're in this together and I want all of us to be celebrating in 90 days time.
     
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  11. Al_Walker

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    Hi Jim, brilliant to have you on board. I can totally relate to your struggles - my teen years have been thwarted with shame, guilt...you name it. I'm not prepared to let that happen to my twenties - it'll be gone before you know it. Fuck that, imagine looking back in 20 years time and thinking 'shit, I wasted the prime years of my life wanking off in my bedroom when I could have been out there chasing dreams, meeting new girls, enjoying all the wonderful things life has to offer'. I'm not prepared to let that happen Jim, and neither should you.

    Great to have you here, keep us updated on your progress.
     
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  12. Al_Walker

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    Well guys, it's great to have so many of you on board. To summarise what I've seen, it's clear that our generation has been hit hard by the porn epidemic. You're not alone. Heck, I live in the UK and I'm sure some of you guys must be from the US. We're all in the same boat, our teenage years taken away from us, sacrificed to this brainwashing shit. I'd do anything I could to go back in time, and stop myself from ever browsing porn. And I'd undo the other hundred, thousand times I did it again.

    And that's exactly it. I don't want to be repeating these same words in another 8 years time. I'm stopping myself now, we are stopping it now. It's time to let go of our younger years - it's time to step up, show maturity, and take control of your life. Don't let yourselves be ruled by the chemicals in your head, created by years of bad habits and mistakes. Rule yourself. Chase your dreams, aim high and put everything you have into conquering this poison.

    As for my Day 1, it was absolutely fine. Contributing to this blog and seeing you guys jump on the ship really empowers me to do this not just for me, but for you guys and the hundreds of guys who will eventually see this post once we reach those 90 days. And we will reach them.

    On a side note, it's also worth mentioning I've installed K9 Web Protection on my Mac, and I have also used 'Restrictions' on my Iphone to filter Safari. I've noted the passwords for these, and hidden them in my basement, out of range. This may not be needed for you guys, but I do whatever I can to distance myself from it. I will reach these 90 days, there isn't anything that is going to stop me. We're going to do this together.
     
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  13. Someguy777

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    I'm in. I had "The Talk" with my wife yesterday, and it's important to me to get my head screwed back on straight. The time I've had away from porn gave me a chance to reflect on just how skewed my thinking had become.

    My goals:

    For 90 days,
    • I will not masturbate
    • I will not look at/read/watch porn
    • I will report my progress here regularly
    • I will try to connect with other people like me for support.
    I've already got a week "clean", but I feel like yesterday was a new beginning for me. What better way to observe it??
     
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  14. I'm in. I'm ready for this!

    I'm Jordan

    I'm 15 years old and I started watching porn as young as 7 years old (lesbian videos on YouTube) By the time I was 8 my addiction grew and I discovered masturbation. I was addicted at a very young age and it affected my social skills greatly and I was super shy and too myself. By the time I got to middle school my addiction was even worse. I couldn't control myself and PMO'D whenever I could like a wild animal. I had no idea how bad my addiction was until I discovered NoFap which I am truly thankful for. It is nice to be apart of something and know you aren't alone. I recently PMO'D last night because I was up late and had really strong urges. I'm not going to discipline myself to bad since I've made it so far to 54 days. Instead of going all the way down to 0 I'm going to 50. Basically me-50 PMO-4. For the remainder of my streak I will not willfully watch porn or masturbate.
     
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  15. AnxiousBraval

    AnxiousBraval Fapstronaut

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    First post on here. I am late, but I am going to do the challenge anyway starting today.

    1. I will no longer Masturbate.
    2. I will block all porn access on my laptop and home computer.
    3. I will not let my urges control me.

    I have been masturbating daily since I was 22. I am 29 now and this is my first conscious effort to give it up. I will be posting here if I fail but I am going to try my hardest not to. I am going to try and hold myself accountable.
     
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  16. Lots of activity on here, this is a great - a support network to slot into for the next 90 days and beyond. Its bedtime for me and I am knackered and could easily have not bothered logging in. But I'm trying to change my ways and loyalty to the nofap forums, this 90 day challenge thread and my own journal are something I need to do even if it is inconvenient sometimes. Sure as hell isn't as inconvenient as ED.
     
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  17. rutherfurd

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    so just signed up to this web site and saw the 90 day challenge count me in better late than never.

    I will not watch porn for 90 days
    I will not masturbate for 90 days
    I will report how Im going on this page

    I've watched porn nearly every day for the last 10 years. and when ever I've been with women I've struggled with ED. In the last year I've been finding out more about the effects of porn on the brain and now it time to stop. This is my first attempt at this so any advice would be good.
     
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  18. Al_Walker

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    That's brilliant to hear mate - we're all in this together, I can't emphasise how much stronger your willpower becomes when you're working towards a goal as a unit, especially with your wife, a woman who undoubtedly sees you as her world. Keep us updated, great to have you here.
     
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  19. Al_Walker

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    Hi Jordan, that's a really interesting story. Perhaps the one thing I could do to really fire you up is tell you a very sorry truth - I would do anything to turn back time to your age and break the chain. At 15, you still have your college years ahead of you (even if you didn't go, 17-22 is just a great time for meeting new girls) and boy that is so much fun to enjoy. I only have one year left of college, and wasted the first three on porn. I turned down beautiful girls to have sex with my laptop, and found myself out of shape, without a girlfriend and just generally miserable for being stuck in this vicious cycle. I wish I could go back and chat to those girls again - hell, even the girls I did go for ended up with me and my limp dick - there isn't anything worse as a young man to explain to a naked girl on your bed why you can't get it up.

    Great to have you with us Jordan, keep us updated with your progress. Congrats on your 54 days, but never lose sight of where you've come from, you're only half way there. Best of luck.
     
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  20. Al_Walker

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    No such thing as late here mate, you're in with us now for the long run, and come August you'll be celebrating with me and the other guys here.

    Firstly, congratulations on making the step to give it up. I can't stress enough how much it will change your life - I had a successful spell a year ago and enjoyed the best energy, the best sex and just an incredible sense of happiness with my life. I made a mistake falling back into it, but there's nobody to blame other than myself. I wasted 8 years of my life on porn, I'm not going to waste another 8 - life is just too short for that, you could meet your wife in that period!

    Secondly, I strongly encourage you to bookmark this thread and check the progress of everyone else on this boat. Each time you get a craving, think of us - we're your crew, and we're in this together. Believe me, I will absolutely make it to those 90 days, the other guys will too, and there's no reason why you can't make it with us. You don't need to use this as a thread when you fail, because you won't fail. Like you said - take control of you, don't let the chemicals in your brain dictate your life. After all, that's all they are, chemicals. An illusion of something you don't truly want. Envision the man you want to be, make a plan of what you need to be that man, and follow than plan like your life depends on it - success will always follow.

    Great to have you with us.
     

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