New guy here

Welcome to nofap @Burrito_RIPper

 

Great insight and thanks for sharing. Kudos for reaching 28 days. That's massive. Well Done! I am struggling to stop for a day.

You have an amazing story, just like everyone here, and it's nice to see so many people today finding the courage to open up.

Everyone has a unique and valid story that we can all learn from, so I'd just like to urge everyone to do that and say your peace. Just do it! The community will be so much more vibrant and learned for it!.

If you find language is a barrier, then just copy and paste to Google Translate. It's good enough! I wish more people did, because for me at least, Nofap has been a seriously rewarding experience.

But in answer to your personal questions Burrito Ripper: "at which point did I really begin this reboot process?" and "did acting out to your girlfriend's voice and memories of her doing her thing" really count?

It's an unclear question so it's hard to answer without misrepresenting you. Are you clear about what REBOOT is? You need to be more specific maybe?

The fact is, our problems are age-old. And our acting out, is not just programmed by that old age, but it's also programmed and triggered by a stream of events that are shaped by our thoughts, speech, environment, the people we hang with, our emotions etc.

It's complex, but at the same time, we can learn our patterns of acting out by learning to be more aware and mindful of our reality and what we do and how we act and react to everyday life events, because our answers lie within them.

It's really helpful writing down in bullet form all the events which lead up to our acting out. The starting point should be that morning, or the day before, or week before and even possibly months before. The more detail we give to our acting out lineage, the more information we can retrieve from ourselves.

And when we do that, we can visually start to see where we went wrong. It takes a bit of effort and courage to do this, but that hardship is par for the course of all progress.

So if you can be bothered to sit down, think hard and trackback to your history of thinking, and acting and the events and emotions which lead you to where you act out, then you can find out where you need to make amends and change the course of your future.

Think of it like doing a Masters in the History of Burrito Ripper. To do a Masters you need at least 2 years, so why would you expect an especially short time to learn about and master yourself?

What ever you choose to act out too, is ACTING OUT! Where it started is up for you to determine. How it ends is also (pardon the pun), in your hands.

 

Welcome to NoFap!!!