New guy who want to have a better life...

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  1. Exadict

    Exadict Fapstronaut

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    Hello,
    English is not my first language so i'll probably make some mistakes, let me know if i do...
    I'm Exadict, i'm 19, i'm addicted to masturbation since i have 8/9 years old and to porn at 12yo.
    I want to stop it because my life is awful: i'm completely alone, i have no occupation, i love womens but i can't talk to them without having any porn scene in my head wich is really bad when you want to create an healthy relation with them.
    Unfortunately, i've never kissed a girl, i'm still virgin of course and i think it's related at my porn addiction because when i think about it i see that some girls sended me some signs in the past but like an idiot i've couldn't interpret them and i think it's because my porn addiction blinded me... what do you think about it?
    I've already try to stop it alone but i can't, i relapsed so many times, i didn't even go througt the third day however i began doing exercice, i take cold showers, i've started to read a book and i'm really motivate but i can't go throught the third day so i think i need help... that's why i'm here.
     
  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
  3. Thomas8

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    Welcome. You made a good decision. 1st thing is you need a positive attitude, you can do this. It may seem difficult at first, but you can do this.
     
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    MuscularSherlockHolmes Fapstronaut

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  5. Exadict

    Exadict Fapstronaut

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    Thank you my friends!

    I have the positive attitude very often, it's just hard to keep it in tough times but i don't give up...i can't.
     

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