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Selfcontrol1

Selfcontrol1

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So... I really want to stop being who I am now. You all probably know how I feel. So why repeat it. So. Straight to the point. What now? What is next? What I have to do. ? I hate my self for not being able to stop masturbating. Actually I manage stop watching pornografie videos. But sometimes I watch sexy pictures and crap like that . Is same thing. But I can't help it. Please someone who know more than me. What should I do?

My journal :
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/journal.177903/
 
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It's YOUR MIND.Its under YOUR CONTROL.If a stupid part inside you tells to look up hot chicks, say NO.Every time you say NO it will make you more resistent to these kind of urges.
 
Mao Zedong said:
It's YOUR MIND.Its under YOUR CONTROL.If a stupid part inside you tells to look up hot chicks, say NO.Every time you say NO it will make you more resistent to these kind of urges.
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Thank you man. You are the first person that actually have tell me something about my problem. Because no one knows.. I'm to ashamed about this.
 
When I. Manage to get few days under my belt. About maybe even 2-4 days I'm so happy! my conscience is so comfortable . But I got that horrible real fear of .. I know this is going to end . Because those dirty ideas start coming back. And they build stronger.
 
Selfcontrol1 said:
When I. Manage to get few days under my belt. About maybe even 2-4 days I'm so happy! my conscience is so comfortable . But I got that horrible real fear of .. I know this is going to end . Because those dirty ideas start coming back. And they build stronger.
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Do you have a objective?How many days do you wanna do?
 
Mao Zedong said:
Do you have a objective?How many days do you wanna do?
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Actually... I want to stop permanently.. I which I could never again masturbate.. I do understand that having a gol should help. But . Sometimes I can't even do one day. And sometimes I have done a week. I haven't been able to do a week any more. It sucks my friend.!
 
I might sound like a failure all the way.. And I am. On this thing. But I have accomplished other very hard things. I quit drugs and alcohol. And I have been clean of those addictions for over four years.. Never espected this to be the hardest addiction to quit ever.
 
Selfcontrol1 said:
So... I really want to stop being who I am now. You all probably know how I feel. So why repeat it. So. Straight to the point. What now? What is next? What I have to do. ? I hate my self for not being able to stop masturbating. Actually I manage stop watching pornografie videos. But sometimes I watch sexy pictures and crap like that . Is same thing. But I can't help it. Please someone who know more than me. What should I do?
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Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
 
Thank you so much for taking the time to replay and sharing all those. What sounds like great tips . I'm going today to crate a blog on the section 30 years old.. I'm planing to start tomorrow Monday in this challenging journey Man I want this to work so bad.
 
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