New here and want some tips

Hey,

One thing that stands out to me is how easy it is to get complacent. I find it's good to come straight here if any urges crop up, even if it's just to read other peoples success stories.

Routine is good. I was on annual leave this week and had nothing planned so I felt like I've wasted a lot of time and it can be hard to maintain an interest in nofap of you're bored or have nothing to do.

Keep a journal. It's nice to look back and observe your progress.

Good luck with your journey determination is key and keeping an overall objective in mind regarding the reason you are doing this.

 

Best thing as you gotta get into hobbies and activities that have absolutely nothing to do with sex, be fishing, hunting bike riding, reading blogging, exercising or whatever it may be you gotta preoccupy your mind with something other then you know what on the damned old internet. And the thing of masturbation is a choice, no one here is against personal satisfaction done in the right way without porn or anything illegal like escorts, some choose to have no porn as there goal, some no porn and masturbation, and yes some choose to not orgasm with the other 2 in tow at all, it's whatever your personal goal is. Mine I choose no porn and masturbation, but I see no harm in prostate orgasms bc you do not look at porn or another stimulation, none is needed, your by yourself and you don;t even touch your dick, so yea do what is best for you, but for everyone here porn is the big NO NO.

 

well then it might be time to outside of work to associate yourself with more positive ppl, try to explain to your friends that what they show you hurts you and it;s your choice and if they continue then maybe their not really friends at all. Friends always have each others back no matter what and they should be the same, As for work I can distance myself from others as I am by myself in a truck for most of the anyways. If you cannot then maybe try to change things up a littls bit where not as easy to socialize with.

 

Hey man I'm glad you've found this place. You will find lots of solid advice here and also on r/pornfree on reddit in the concrete advice section for newbies
I'd suggest you
Meditate 5 Minutes Daily and slowly increase
Sleep Early every day
Do not entertain sexual thoughts,don't fantasize,don't edge
Find something that involves exercise that you like : Running,Basketball ,Biking
Structure your day. It is very important to be structured.Not every minute but to have a general idea of how you will spend your day
Identify your triggers and try to create lots of friction between you and porn.
Change your environment as well. If you have some spot where you masturbate remove that chair or change the layout of the room as sitting down is an indirect cue for your brain to PMO
I'd suggest Atomic Habits by James Clear as it is a Lifesaver

 

well good job and a start, everyone has to start somewhere and 3 days is an achievement, this time go for 2 weeks, then a month, don't try to do the whole 90 days at once kevs. Pus alot ppl don't masturbate at all, but I think after 90 days of no pmo and starting to get we wired I personally don;t see the harm in masturbation by yourself with no porn or images, this is normal function of the body and me personally think it could help you to get back to the way you were before porn. Lucky you about the escorts, lol, I live in US where it is illegal but in one city, Wish you luck.

 

Get used to pain and suffering, don't shy away from it. Quitting addictions is hard and miserable, but try to find small things that make it just a bit easier.

Setting a goal is probably your first step. The majority of the suffering comes from wanting two conflicting things at the same time: the temporary pleasure of watching porn and the long-term pleasure from not watching porn. As you get better at fighting urges, this suffering will diminish over time.

 

Try to strategize your day. Schedule your most important priorities and new skill building activities in so that not only you have good structure to keep you from deviating, but when you do deviate, you can identify which times of the day you are most vulnerable in and what you can do to correct them.