New here could do with some reassurance

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by mzxc495, Apr 29, 2020.

  1. mzxc495

    mzxc495 Fapstronaut

    Hey all. Been following the NoFap for a couple months now. Just relapsed and feeling pretty low.

    I'll try not to bore you but basically.
    - Started on porn young (14 ish) and by 20 was on pretty hardcore fetish stuff usually twice a day (didn't realize it was a problem)
    - Lost virginity late (22) suffered from DE during it. (thought it was due to nerves as I'm a pretty anxious person at the best of times haha.
    - Finally got into a great relationship with a girl 3 months ago (im 25 now). We've had sex twice and both times i failed to orgasm during sex. I think I have mild ED but its mostly the DE that is causing me concern. I am attracted to her and sex is fun and exciting but its almost like I have trained my brain only to orgasm in certain circumstance (eg. my hand, fetish porn)
    - So found out about Nofap and it turns out I am like a lot of you and didn't realise the damage porn was doing.
    - Tried Nofap made it 7 days straight away then relapsed, then 3, 5, 3, 6 and now 3 again. :(

    Due to the coronavirus situation I wont be seeing my gf for a while and my goal is to do at least 2 weeks nofap to see if it helps my DE.

    Just wanted some reassurance that I'm on the right course. I find it hard not to relapse after a few days. The urges build up and I end up looking on facebook at a porn model page (stupid i know). To be fair since i started nofap I've been happier overall and have stronger erections/ orgasms from P during relapses.

    So steps going forward for me

    1 Join this site rather than lurk.
    2 Install porn blockers (I realize the strength must come from within but it helps)
    3 DO NOT LOOK at any pictures or social media profiles.

    What do you guys think? I hope its not too bad as i don't think I have the death grip i was always pretty light on my penis when fapping. And like i said during sex it feels good just not enough to trigger that internal O switch if you know what i mean.

    Anyway thanks for taking your time to read this despite the crap grammar. Good luck and god bless you all.
  2. Welcome to the community :), 2 weeks is definitely a good goal, if it doesn't improve do a 30 day reboot and so on until you see improvements. Best of luck on your journey, god bless
  3. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
    : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/
    Set up your day counter /
    Rebooting Resources/
    Accountability groups (new!)/
    About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:
    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.

    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.

    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate sectionfor you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

    Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

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