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New here (hello NoFap, bye bye femdom porn)

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Deleted Account, Dec 28, 2017.

  1. Hello to all of you!

    I've known about NoFap for about a year or more. Although I've tried it many times, I've never made it last more than a week or two. I have an addiction to femdom and pov humiliation porn (the bad stuff) and it is really destroying my life. After jerking off I always feel like a failure and I am starting to feel pleasure for it. This is ridicolous because I have a pretty succesful carreer and a beautiful (I should say gorgeus, actually) girlfriend who loves me and enjoys all the kinky fetish I like.

    I am suscribing to NoFap to make a big change in my life. I know it won't be easy to quit, but I feel that this community will be the perfect place to accomplish this goal. I already feel excited to be writing this and becoming a member of NoFap!

    Thank you for your support.

    Hnmore
     
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  2. Best of luck, @hnmore .

    I'm brand new here too, if you need any support feel free to shoot me a message. Love the Great Wave off Kanagawa, by the way, good choice!
     
  3. Thank you @Good Sir !

    I think choosing the great wave of kanagawa has been a subconscious choice. It will be a hard wave to ride, and I want to become as big as that wave.

    I'm glad to see you started today too.

    We'll make it bro!
     
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  4. Max_Free

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    Welcome to both of you who made great choices to join us! I agree The Great Wave is a nice choice and I believe you will become bigger than that wave so you can ride it and be the one in control. Best wishes to both of you and your journeys!
     
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  5. Thank you Max_Free!
    It's about time to make a change!
     
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  6. anewhope

    anewhope Fapstronaut

    Hi @hnmore

    Congratulations for making the decision to change. I hope my own story encourages you. I had been a user of Femdom porn for 40 years and I am also in a relationship. I managed to quit this summer with the help of NoFap and have been clean for more than 180 days now. It is the best thing I have ever done and has been a huge boost to my self esteem, my physical well-being, my relationship with my wife and my sex life.

    My two pieces of advice:

    Give up both Porn and Masturbation for good and focus all your sexual energy on your girlfriend.
    Make sure you have other activities in your life to fill the time you used to spend on PMO

    If you have time, you could read my journal. Though I don't talk about Femdom in it, any reference to my using or being tempted by porn is actually talking about Femdom porn.

    If you have any specific questions please feel to use the inbox/conversations function to PM me.

    The very best of luck. If you truly want to, you can beat this, as I did, and reclaim control over your life.

    ANH
     
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  7. Hi @hnmore
    Thanks for being here. Welcome!
    Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
    So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
    You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
    And don't forget to create a journal.
    Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.
    Good luck!
     
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  8. Appleglory

    Appleglory Fapstronaut

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    I got triggered a little from that femdom title but welcome (just shows how messed up my brain is)
     
  9. Appleglory

    Appleglory Fapstronaut

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    Nice profile pic.
     
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  10. Thank you @anewhope !

    Your story definitely encourages me to keep on going! I'll read your journal and I think I'll start writing one for me too!

    Best regards
     
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  11. Hehe, I guess our brains are already messed up with all that crap, but we can reboost bro!
     
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  12. Thank you bro!
     
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  13. Hey @hnmore ,

    Very glad you are here.

    When I arrived here, I was very confused by the program. So many terms, ideas, different opinions. I was in some ways as overwhelmed with NoFap as I was with pmo.

    I found two things that helped me.

    First, was reading up on the program and figuring out where to start and how to work my program. The best page is the one with the list of all the resources available.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    That page explained the program. I read every article and watched all the videos on that page.

    Next, was the community. By getting involved, reading people's posts, remembering to "like" the posts, reading the post not only in the forum, but on people's profiles, I found a great group of people.

    This is a diverse community. We have religious people and secular ones. There are men and women. People with months of no pmo and those just starting out. As well, there are many different approaches to remove porn from our lives forever.

    Keep reading posts and profiles. You will find someone who is telling your own story. Keep posting your own story, someone needs to read it.

    Looking forward to reading many more posts from you,

    L
     
  14. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147264/
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    @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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    @I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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    @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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    @MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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    @Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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    @BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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    @Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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    @kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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    @tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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    @Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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    @Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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    @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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    @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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    @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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    @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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    @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    - L
     
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  15. dan3dan3

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    @hnmore

    your post resonated with me...

    i have been into femdom porn for years and it seems to gradually get more and more extreme until now when it is really starting to effect my 'real' life.

    i'm also similar in that i constantly seem to be in the state of trying to quit and rarely exceeding beyond a week or two!

    On another note: your profile photo is Japan related. Are you interested in japan? I used to live there...:)

    If you are interested in an accountability partner please let me know - i'm looking for someone i can message regularly.

    Thanks and good luck!
     
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  16. Hi @dan3dan3 !

    Glad to know that you're starting this journey too. It gets so hard to do it by your own means! I became a member of NoFap yesterday and I already feel the support of this community. It really encourages me to know that I'm not alone in this. I started my membership because now I wanna make it real. It will be great to talk to you as an accountability partner. I'll write to you now.

    Best regards
     
  17. RunningFree

    RunningFree Fapstronaut

    Welcome @hnmore. Glad you decided to join the community. It really is a positive environment, a good support system as you work your recovery. As @Roady said, you are not in this alone. To go a little further on that, this is something that cannot be done alone or in isolation. Breaking the addiction begins with breaking the secrecy, the lies, the hiding, the half-truths. This community helps with that, you can be open and honest, and you will receive advice and more importantly support. Good luck on your recovery.
     
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  18. Thank you @RunningFree

    Yes, I'm happy to be here and I've already felt this positive environment! This is day 4 and I'm feeling great. I'm begining to read all the stuff about NoFap now.

    Thank you again!
     
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