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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Sustenance, May 15, 2019.

  1. Sustenance

    Sustenance New Fapstronaut

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    Well hey, I'm new. I'm not so sure how far with this I'm going to go. I gave up Masturbation for the month of March, and then undertook a 40 day challenge for April thru today (May 15th) where all the challenges I undertook singularly during the past year would all be dealt with in one big whammy. By far, this past 40 days was the hardest. Ultimately the entire year culminated with these challenges all rolled into one:

    1) No Porn
    2) No Masturbation (Sex with my husband is okay)
    3) No Weed
    4) Doing at least one chore a day
    5) No shaving of Body Hair
    6) No Spending Money on myself eating out for food (spending money on my kid for food is okay.)
    7) Finish my Hypnotherapy assignments
    8) No Social Media

    I didn't complete number 7, and I broke number 8 once to make a crowdfunding campaign for my friend who lost his father. Also, some days I failed at number 4.

    What I can say about this experience is that: People need vices. I think I overdid it on the purity, and my emotions were much more upfront than they had been in the past. Once, when my son made me angry, I had nothing to do but rage-email for two hours, and I didn't feel any better afterwards. That being said, this has led to some cathartic conversations and soul searching for everyone in the house.

    Technically, with my challenges complete as of today, I know I could go back to masturbating if I wanted, because I set myself a goal and completed it. But I heard of this community and wanted to connect before I went back to my old ways, and wanted to hear from some of you guys about why you stopped and if you ever thought about ways to returning that were healthier than the utilization of porn? Honestly when I tell people I've gone this long without masturbating, they're just like "oh, that's nice." and I don't really get as much a reaction as I think I should. It's like, they have no idea how much time I used to spend doing this.

    Anyhow, nice to meet you all.
     
  2. HigherPower72

    HigherPower72 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I wish you the best on your journey. PMO for me has been a systemic poison, affecting my mind, my heart, and my soul. I am now able to see that it has robbed me of many years of emotional intimacies with others, along with sabotaging my own emotional balance. Be strong and stay committed to ridding yourself of the PMO cycle. It is well worth it. Best of luck!
     
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  3. Sustenance

    Sustenance New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks buddy. Today is the first day where I could technically go back to Penn or masturbation, but I don't feel the need. Or rather, I feel like it would be taking a step back somehow.
     
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  4. HigherPower72

    HigherPower72 Fapstronaut

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    That's great! Avoid the false pleasures. I've found it to be much more fulfilling to view this as not just a personal challenge, but a chance to untether my full potential, in all aspects of life.
     

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