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  1. Miniastronaut

    Miniastronaut Fapstronaut

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    Hello everybody, I'm completely new at this
    I'm normally not the kind of person who shares a lot in media, or when interacting with others. That doesn't mean I don't like to talk or that I don't enjoy company, it's just that I tend to be very selective about sharing my private life with others. But I feel like it can be different here. To be honest, I'm kinda scared to do this! But here it goes:

    I'm a young christian woman of 22, and never thought I'd be in this position. I currently don't watch porn although I did some years ago. I was able to stop that, but something harder to stop started in my life when about a year ago, I saw a post on fb about masturbating as part of a feminist movement, and I did it for the first time ever in my life. Since then, I've been struggling to stop it and it's only getting harder! Specially because there's no one I feel confident enough with to talk about it without feeling like they will judge me mostly because of my faith! I feel terribly alone and frustrated! And even guilty !
    l have tried so hard to stop it! But nothing has worked for longer than maybe 20 days in a row? I recently started to think that I'd never be freed from it.

    But looking for help resources on the internet I came across a testimony from a guy who said this community was the reason why he could conquer his addiction to porn and masturbation, and left the link there. So I clicked on it and well, here I am!!

    This is my rebooting day number 0, hahaha, actually I have had maybe 8 days without relapsing, but tonight I relapsed... Again ... So I decided it was time to look for a different kind of help and be honest with somebody about this issue in my life. I do want to stop this, and I'll do whatever it takes to accomplish my goal.
    Also, I want to help others to be able to talk about this issue even when their faith plays a major role in their lives and because of it they feel they can't ask for help from others who share their faith!

    But you guys, I'd love it if this time, I can get help from others, and for the first time not to feel so alone in this - I want to call it - war!

    I don't even have a strategic plan on how to stop it at the moment, all I know is that I have had enough of this, and I'm tired of the relapse and try again all alone cycle. Also, I'm ready to do some changes in my life as I help others do the same

    Thank you for reading!
     
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  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    - You can set up your day counter here
    - You can find the forum usage guide here
    - Here is we’re you will find a glossary of terms often used in the nofap community. Glossary
    - You can also find a guide to the basics of rebooting here
    - If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  3. Hey & Welcome to NoFap Community! :)

    You are in the right place for recovery here. We are so glad to have you with us to beat this addiction together.

    You can go read some Success Stories in the "Success Stories" section to learn more about the benefits of NoFap , get useful tips and ideas to help you in the reboot.

    If you have any question about rebooting, you can ask it in the "Rebooting" section.


    And I would recommend you to make your own journal in the "Reboot logs" corresponding to your gender & age to track your everyday progress.
    You can also join challenges in the "Events & Challenges" section, to keep yourself motivated and focused.




    You may start by checking the links below:
    Learn more about Rebooting.
    Forum Usage Guide.
    List of Rebooting Ressources.
    Glossary of terms used in NoFap community.




    Best of luck to you in your journey!





    -The Winner
     
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  4. HopefulWonderer

    HopefulWonderer New Fapstronaut

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    Hi Mini

    i am also new to this. i still haven't quite figured out the site and don't know if people can see my personal details but i am happy to share my story if it helps you and others.

    im distraught that i have gotten to this stage but equally happy that there is a community of people all over the world which supports its members and im hoping to look back one day with a smile at the person who i have become :)
     
  5. HW, glad you're here. all we can see is that you are a male from Johannesburg. Praying for your success!
     
  6. Welcome, Mini! We are all struggling with this and trying to figure out how to accomplish it. There are many helpful people and posts here to assist. And there are different groups of whatever faith you belong to as well. Success stories are usually helpful. I am thinking this morning that one of my biggest problems is that THIS issue has not been a priority for me lately --my head says one thing and my heart/actions say another. I just realized this while reading your post. Thanks!
     
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  7. You are a beloved daughter of God and worthy of His love and forgiveness because He says so. Have a blessed day!
     
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  8. Miniastronaut

    Miniastronaut Fapstronaut

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    Thank you! I'll do the journaling!!!
     
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  9. Miniastronaut

    Miniastronaut Fapstronaut

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    Hi! Oh it's so nice to know you're also new at this and figuring this whole site up too!
    I know! It is refreshing to have found this community to help us and everybody else to overcome our struggles, I found it so helpful already by just the few messages I've gotten.

    I know you'll be able to accomplish your goal, and will definitely look back and be proud of yourself, your efforts and your journey! Can't wait to hear about your achievements ! Praying for you !
     
  10. Miniastronaut

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    I'm glad my post helped you with that subtle issue, and you've no idea how much your words helped me to regain confidence as I was reminded by you of God's forgiveness and unchanging love!! Thank you for that!

    I'm gonna look up for those groups cause I think right now they will be of great help for me !

    Again, thank you! I'll be praying for you too, and will love to hear more from you ! Be encouraged always !
     

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