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Spacecowboi87 · Mar 29, 2020

Hi everyone, (please excuse my english. Im a german and therefore this is my second language).
Im new here and i dont know what to say. I thought i can have a porn free life with simple discipline and no to Minimum help from outside. I was wrong. I can say this After 3 Mayor relapses.
Here is my Story in short:
Started with 13-14 with normal porn. In like a few years i changed to fetishes and sex chats with all Kind of women and hard core fetish (bdsm and so on) topics. I stoped everytime i had a new girl friend but while the relationships i started using porn again. This was often due to PIED. Im 32 now, lonely, developed issues with women, PIED and think one, if not the biggest root of evil in my life is Internet erotic.
My Plan:
After loosing my Last girlfriend 1,25 years ago due to PIED and my taste for more fetish style sex that she didnt like at all i started to rethink. I had no sexual interest in her despite her beeing one of the best things happening in my life. i feel into a deep thinking Phase. By the end of 2019 i was ready for nofap. My biggest help in seeing how i was wrong about relationships were Videos of an Austrian psychologist, the fight the new Drug Website and the great work of noa Church on YouTube. So i started on the 3rd of January to go Cold turkey. I use a calendar to keep track( super important)
1st try: i Made it 17 days than relapsed.
2nd try: 22 days. Relapse.
3rd try: 19 days. Used a lot of Sport to cope, went out with friends, occupied myself with work. Felt awesome- then corona hit. 3 days of doing nothing and there was the relaps again. The Last 2 weeks was on and off. I hate it.
This is my 4th round beginning today. I learned a lot, about my self already. But im just at the start i know that. Failing around the 3 weeks Mark is a shame, but i will try harder now. This is why i came to this Forum. I need Support by writing and sharing some of my experience. I will try to write every day. I do this, because i think i cant really do it on my own. Only shared with one reallife friend so far. Today Summer time started. In 23 days the First Quarantene (germany) should be over. So thats my next Goal...

| Nico | · Mar 30, 2020

Spacecowboi87 said: ↑

Hi everyone, (please excuse my english. Im a german and therefore this is my second language).
Im new here and i dont know what to say. I thought i can have a porn free life with simple discipline and no to Minimum help from outside. I was wrong. I can say this After 3 Mayor relapses.
Here is my Story in short:
Started with 13-14 with normal porn. In like a few years i changed to fetishes and sex chats with all Kind of women and hard core fetish (bdsm and so on) topics. I stoped everytime i had a new girl friend but while the relationships i started using porn again. This was often due to PIED. Im 32 now, lonely, developed issues with women, PIED and think one, if not the biggest root of evil in my life is Internet erotic.
My Plan:
After loosing my Last girlfriend 1,25 years ago due to PIED and my taste for more fetish style sex that she didnt like at all i started to rethink. I had no sexual interest in her despite her beeing one of the best things happening in my life. i feel into a deep thinking Phase. By the end of 2019 i was ready for nofap. My biggest help in seeing how i was wrong about relationships were Videos of an Austrian psychologist, the fight the new Drug Website and the great work of noa Church on YouTube. So i started on the 3rd of January to go Cold turkey. I use a calendar to keep track( super important)
1st try: i Made it 17 days than relapsed.
2nd try: 22 days. Relapse.
3rd try: 19 days. Used a lot of Sport to cope, went out with friends, occupied myself with work. Felt awesome- then corona hit. 3 days of doing nothing and there was the relaps again. The Last 2 weeks was on and off. I hate it.
This is my 4th round beginning today. I learned a lot, about my self already. But im just at the start i know that. Failing around the 3 weeks Mark is a shame, but i will try harder now. This is why i came to this Forum. I need Support by writing and sharing some of my experience. I will try to write every day. I do this, because i think i cant really do it on my own. Only shared with one reallife friend so far. Today Summer time started. In 23 days the First Quarantene (germany) should be over. So thats my next Goal...
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Welcome @Spacecowboi87 i would definitely recommend coming here often and writing your journal everyday, i also still have lots of fetishes but after 40 days on nofap i can truly say iam healing rapidly and the fetishes dont bother me that much.

Best of luck on you journey, take care

Spacecowboi87 · Mar 30, 2020

Hi Nico thank you so much for your response.
Ive Made a Journal in the 30+Group, because i wasnt Sure where to start. I will write there every day.
Wow 40 days??? Amazing. I usually relapse After Half of that.
Keep up the great spirit.
Take care

Deleted Account · Mar 31, 2020

Hey welcome to the NoFap forum : )

It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap

Here is just some advice:

First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

The Free Bird · Mar 31, 2020

Hi and welcome to the community

I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.

This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

֍ You got this my friend ֍

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