New Member Here, New Strategy to Try During the Challenge and Asking for Advice

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by astrofapstronaut, Sep 8, 2014.

  1. astrofapstronaut

    astrofapstronaut New Fapstronaut

    Hi all!

    A brief history about me/fapping (I'm a little nervous beginning to confess all this stuff).
    I discovered fapping on my own when I was about 12. I never stopped and didn't consider it wrong or harmful until high school when my church youth leadership decided to discuss it with us. In high school I would feel guilty and disappointed in myself when I couldn't stop masturbating. So I gave up trying since. I'm a married man, and I have done occasional porn (started in college), I'm not sure if I've ever considered myself an addict, it was pretty cyclical and I was able to choose to stop or start. I'm not sure was possessed me to use porn vs just not using porn. My wife has no idea and it would be terrible for me to ever confess it to her.

    But now it's time to stop trying. There's no particular event in my life that has caused me to make this decision, I just woke up today and said, "It's time to do this."

    I'm really excited to be joining this community, it is certainly a much healthier community vs other online communities in which I engaged.

    I have decided to make the transition from whining with others in a particular community to improving my life, so I just want to say thank you for helping me with that.

    I am embarrassed with myself when someone else discovers I did something or thought or said something that wasn't good. I can use this to my advantage. So I have a simple solution I'm going to try. Additionally, I'm going to make sure I'm not home alone unless I'm about to go to bed or I need to sleep and shower. I'm great at sticking to a schedule, it's just that I've never utilized that every day of my life. Having earlier said that I'm a married man, I'm going to never use private browsing and, more importantly, never use pseudonyms on the Internet. Porn doesn't exist in my world outside of Internet access.

    What do y'all think? Is there any other advice you would give me? Thanks again so much for being here for me.

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