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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Emerge, Jun 25, 2014.

  1. Emerge

    Emerge Fapstronaut

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    Hello, this is my first post. Glad to see people with similar challenges and goals. I'm a 24 years old . I have been dealing with ED ever since I started having sex in college. To be completely honest, I have only had successful sex while using cialis/viagra. It's been one of the biggest challenges in my life thus far.I have been masturbating since the age of 12-13. I probably peeked in high school, however it wasn't all to porn. I believe I developed unhealthy sexual habits right from the get go. My relationship towards sex has always been in the world of fantasy/porn(mind not physical). I have been to a specialist doctor who did a gambit of tests and came to the conclusion that there was nothing physically wrong with me. He, like other doctors, gave me a prescription for Cialis to get my confidence up. I have had a lot of sex with the help of these drugs but I know it is a short term answer. I'm quite certain at this point that it is not just an issue of confidence. I'm fairly certain it has to do with my masturbation habits. To make things worse, not to gloat or brag, I am a fit/good looking guy. I am constantly turning down opportunities for sex with women because of fear. It's a bit of a nightmare but I have finally worked up the courage to reshape my habits and my life. I have tried to quit masturbation/porn before but I usually don't make it past 10-12 days.
    My Challenges and fears/questions:
    - Whenever I hit the flat line I masturbate out of fear that I am doing more damage than good.
    - It's the beginning of the summer, I'm young and I should be having sex. I fear that flat lining during this process may hinder my ability to have sex even more.
    - Also is it ok to try to have sex during the reboot?

    I have been stressing over this issue for so many years now. I don't want to rely on drugs that give me headaches to fufill this part of my life. This really is my last resort. I'm open to any feedback that you guys can offer. Thank you and best of luck to you all.
     
  2. Loren

    Loren Guest

    Jerek my dear brother,

    You are in the right place. This is the right thing to do.

    Here is my answer to all:

    Relax. Everything is going to be ok.

    I have more peace in my life (and more fulfilling sex) since I discovered the truth that
    all sex, masturbation, ejaculation, stimulation, hand jobs, foot jobs, blow jobs, fantasies are completely, 100% OPTIONAL.

    That's it. Sex is optional. Life is good the way it is. There is no "should". I should be doing this. I should be doing that. This one thing shouldn't be. That person shouldn't do what they are doing. It is basically denying reality, denying what IS.

    What is, is what it is. Love it. That is my motto.

    If you want to be accountability partners or just send messages, send a PM. Or keep in here on the forum. It is all good.

    love to you my brother,

    Loren
     
  3. Emerge

    Emerge Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the response Loren. That is some very healthy advice. I will keep you all up to date on my experience. It's only day four and it's already been quite the struggle.
     

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