Hi, I just found this site, and it stirs a lot of emotions. I am 54 years old, married for 35 years, and have been masturbating to porn since I was 13 years old. I am happily married, my wife is beautiful, and she has no idea. I am into "edging", and can do it for hours at a time. Hours and hours of my life are scooped up with this. I own my own business, and my office is where I can get away from my wife to indulge. My PC is loaded with videos, I actually have a 4TB external drive just for that purpose, and I routinely delete the porn and then buy subscriptions and re-download it all over again. I use my phone all through the day and night to view porn, to read erotic stories, and I masturbate whenever I can. Some days not at all, some days only once, some days 6 or 8 times. When my wife is traveling without me, I even take time off from work and lock myself in the house and PMO for hours, often bruising my genitals. Sometimes it hurts to walk for a couple of days afterwards. I have developed interests that I don't want to admit to right now (nothing illegal, just more embarrassing to me than what I am writing here) but maybe we can get those things out another time. My wife and I have a sexual relationship, but I get so much more enjoyment from PMO than I do from intercourse that sometimes we go months without, and I know it hurts her. I can get an erection with her, but I cannot orgasm with her. When she's climaxed, I'm done. Then I find a way to MO without her in secret. I honestly cannot remember the last time I reached orgasm with her. I did get a famous prescription so that I could function with her, and I find myself using it to extend my edging sessions as well. I take other meds that we blame my inability to climax on, but I know the truth. I AM MISERABLE. But, I found this site, did some reading here, and I can sort of see a light at the end of the tunnel. I must admit, it's a small, dim light, but it's there. I actually feel what seems to be a surge of adrenaline just typing this message. The thought that there are others out there who are in the same boat, and who have climbed out of the boat, is exciting to me. I'm not ready today to commit to a challenge. I just need to wrap my head around it. I have "quit" so many times over the years, but it's never lasted more than 2 or 3 days. I've never even made it through a vacation or road trip with my family; somehow I find ways to masturbate to orgasm. I am to the point though that I cannot orgasm without masturbating to porn or erotica, and sometimes then it requires very rough technique. Getting an erection without porn is only possible with my wife and a dose of meds, albeit the orgasm just is not going to happen that way. We've tried her stimulating me, but it doesn't work. When video and pictures start to fail me, I reach for the erotica, and when that fails me I return to the visual stimulation. I really want out of this life. I want to have a healthy sexual relationship with my wife again. I want her to be the center of my world and not to be centered around my own sexual gratification at the expense of hers. Can you people help me out?