New streak going, met a stripper, Need advice.

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by unsavorybehavior212, Oct 30, 2019.

What would you guys do?

  1. Take a blue pill and try to bang her even in flatline

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  2. Stay the course then try to bang her once recovered

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  3. Forget this girl. A stripper isn’t good for recovery

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  1. unsavorybehavior212

    unsavorybehavior212 New Fapstronaut

    I’m 32 and have been dealing with PIED for some time now. I’ve had two steaks of 49 and 30 days previously. And unfortunately both times I’ve relapsed as soon as I regained my libido and started getting consistent morning wood.

    I recently met a girl out a random event. We started chatting, ending up exploring the event together and at some I noticed she had an amazing off the charts.

    We exchange numbers go our separate ways and eventually start txting. I tell myself that I need to be ready to perform if the time comes and immediately start a new NoFap streak. A few days later she adds me on Snapchat and after a few days of random snaps I start getting sexier and sexier images from her, eventually getting full nude shower videos that were completely unsolicited.

    So I do a little social media digging and find out that in addition to her corporate job, she’s also a stripper on the side (she hasn’t told me about it or mentioned it)

    So now I’m mid-streak (14 days in). Full flatline (no morning wood). With this chick that apparently wants to bang but I know in my current state I couldn’t even manage a decent erection.

    So often I feel like I’ve turned to PMO when I haven’t had any prospects, which is just a self fulfilling cycle. So I can’t even describe how frustrating it is to have met an apparent fuck buddy and not be ready.

    Seems like my best option is to stay strong and hope that my window to bang her hasn’t closed once I’m out of flatline.

    Thanks for any feedback.
  2. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    “This seat taken?”

    I sit down. Cross my legs and then let me see:

    you met a girl , while in recovery, who is obviously your type and you are planning the nocturnal mode.

    got it.

    You don’t sound like you are in flatline. You want to bang as it sounds:

    Exhibit A: “ass off the charts.”

    So really the question is :

    let’s suppose you can bang, now what?

    what will do with your progress?
    Does the knowledge of you banging a stripper make you nervous ?
    Perhaps it does ? Will that not affect you?

    I would basically tell you... sex is not simply animal horniness... you need some kind of connection.

    not trying to tout my stats here ...although I have had many strippers for free without pied. The key is to manage your expectations and to manage your stress and anxiety which if unchecked will Jack you up.

    But what I’m supposed to suggest is that you dissect your moral/conscience state. That will play into your sexuality in some way. Either in shame or regret afterwards or emptiness because it is just sex.

    if you are receptive to “its just sex” then I understand this is strictly penis exercise. Although I’d argue the experience won’t peak like you want. You might be better off teasing her to not have sex. You don’t have to follow the same path all the previous guys before you have. I mean more of a tantric thing. No semen. Maybe explain that is your goal? I am starting that and it’s insanely a different way of acting out your sexual impulses.

    I am not ready to advocate moral high ground either...just asking you to do a self evaluation to see that you can succeed.
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  3. Nuallann

    Nuallann Fapstronaut

    Might sound a bit Puritanical here, but avoid strippers, and women who work in sex services. Last thing you want is to catch some STD that's incurable, and even ones that are curable can have lasting impacts on your health in other ways. A girl I went to school with became a stripper, had sex on the side for extra money, caught an incurable STD, and killed herself out of depression. Not trying to sound like an alarmist, but if you're in the U.S., sex work here is very unregulated due to being illegal, risky af.
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  4. Reborn16

    Reborn16 Fapstronaut

    @Nuallann has a fair point and something to consider. I might also add, a lot of girls who go out clubbing or do the phone app 'dating' thing are also a risk. I guess what I mean is, some strippers are sexually conservative, and some librarians party too much. Due caution as best you can.

    Personally if I was in your situation, I would invite her out for another fun night on the town. But let her know on that night, that you'd like to take things slow (this may shock her, make you seem different to every other guy basically).

    Now she may only want sex, and lose interest. Or you may not want to mislead her into a relationship either. So there's a few variables here - communication is key though.

    Finally, you could just go for it. And take as much time with foreplay as you can. This can be extremely useful in slowly getting things happening downstairs. Tell her you want to last and not rush the night. It can help. At the end of the day, having sex will really help you to rewire those reward paths to the right place.
  5. Cool I Can Use Spaces

    Cool I Can Use Spaces Fapstronaut

    And here’s something else to consider:

    One thing that comes to mind are guys who end up losing thousands of dollars after getting hooked up with women like this.

    At the beginning she seems great and interested in the man but in reality she’s trying to get as much money out of the guy before she drops him.

    He’s left with a lighter wallet and is given an STD or two.
  6. Nuallann

    Nuallann Fapstronaut

    Well to be fair we all pay for it one way or another ;)

    But yeah, I agree, they're just in it for the money, and getting addicted to buying sex because it's emotionally easier than building relationships is another form of addiction you don't want to get started with.
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