New to NF

Hi all,

pretty glad I found this support group! Here’s a bit about me;

I love sex. I love anything remotely related to sex. As a result, I’ve been in a long term relationship with my hand for a good many years. The dilemma is that my fiancé/love of my life, whilst being very attractive, doesn’t fulfil my sexual needs and that’s a shite conversation to have with anyone. Every other aspect of our relationship is spot on but not the bedroom! Now I know we can work together on that but I think I’ve masturbated myself into a state of “little/no sexual stamina” - my thoughts are if I abstain, this will improve as my senses will not be so heightened - is this rational thinking?

I have been sexually actively for 10 years (deffo part of, if not, the reason I’m so addicted to anything to do with sex). I’m certain I get more of a hard on when I masturbate than when I fuck, anyone (it’s been going on a while, not a cheater!).

I have wanted to give up masturbation for a long while but I always fall at the first hurdle. I just seem to be horny all the time..

I’d love to share/hear/be guided by some of you more experienced NFs as to how to abstain in order to improve my sexual self-confidence and ultimately, my fiancé and I’s, sex-life.

Thanks all,

G