New to NoFap, 24 yr old male

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  1. Xylu##343

    Xylu##343 Fapstronaut


    I am a 24 year old male who just graduated from university.
    I am here to find and success somehow to get rid of my porn and masturbation addiction. I first started masturbation at the age of 13 years old to music videos on MTV. So I been using porn of one form to another for over 11 years now. God that is a long time. From MTV music videos, I move from more and more extreme fetishes to the extent that what I use to masturbate to truly disgusts me. I have been masturbating daily. I first start wanting to quit porn only a couple of weeks ago, when I masturbated to porn in the presence of my younger brother. When he call me out on it on a long drive together I admitted to myself and him that I am addicted to porn. This is hard pill for me to swallow as I am admitting to myself that something has control over me. Over the last two weeks I have attempt to quit porn but I have failed multiple times. Often I am only able to stop for a short period of time maybe a couple of days before going back to the habit. My aim is to stop using porn and masturbation. As I failed again last night, I today is day zero.

    Thanks for reading this.

    Lets help each other get over our addiction to porn.
  2. Dopamine3

    Dopamine3 Fapstronaut

    Hey man, I am 29 and been struggling for about 15 years. Yes that is a long time but still beatable. It is also my day 0 as well, but I do have a lot of experience with trial and error, and I had a stupid weak moment this morning and went on a site after being clean for a month. Try not fall into a deep pit of shame when you realize that pornography and masturbation have a very heavy influence on you. Of course, it's a hard pill to swallow, but, speaking of pills, pornography is quite literally an addictive drug. You are experiencing something that many people who suffer from drug addiction go through. This is by no means an easy task to overcome, but I'm assuming these last couple weeks you have been trying to quit by yourself like i have for the last decade and a half. Your weak moments are probably going to be when you have free time and when you are fatigued. When you have free time, expend your energy and do something physically active. If you are tempted right when you wake up or in the middle of the night, use every bit of discipline to divert your thoughts elsewhere. The worst part about this is waking up at 3 AM from a sexual dream and the first thing you want to do masturbate, but you can overcome it. The temptations never last that long.
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  3. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

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    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
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  4. rooski42

    rooski42 Fapstronaut

    as an older brother myself, i have to say that there is an innate drive to be an example to my little bro. remember failing and struggling are part of it. it means you are doing the right thing: which is continuing to try and change. finishing a 30 or 90 day reboot isn't going to wipe out a decade’s worth of behavior. but it will make you stronger. and dealing with it will become easier. if you stopped PMO for a few days at a time when you are used to doing it everyday, that’s a big change. be kind to yourself. be a good example to your little brother. pick yourself up, dust off and keep going. i’m rooting for you.
    Last edited: Nov 15, 2019
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  5. Xylu##343

    Xylu##343 Fapstronaut

    Thanks rooski42 and Dopamine3 for your comments.

    Just reading though your comments helped me feel better about myself.
    To not feel terrible about failing but to learn and attempt again and again.
    Just attempting this again has taught me about my urges.
    That at the start it is just a feeling, but then it is about how bored and lonely I am, so would it
    be great to watch some porn and feel good. Even when it is only for a moment.
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