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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by St3v0, Oct 9, 2019.

  1. St3v0

    St3v0 Fapstronaut

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    Hi

    I am a 34 year old South African guy who has been trying to quit porn for the last... I can't even remember how long.

    My journey started very early when I would collect cutouts of girls when I was only around 10 years old. Soon after that my best friend introduced me to porn (it was all fun and games at that age) but I can still remember that day as if it was yesterday. I have a very addictive personality and thus wanted more.

    The curiosity drove me and along with raging hormones and I was never able to get out of porn's grip.

    I thank God that he kept me pure in the sense that I was still a virgin when I got married. I thought that as soon as I got married and was able to be with a real women I wouldn't need porn any more. Boy was I wrong.

    I have been married 8 years now and have two beautiful boys. I decided this 4 days ago that I cannot go on like this. My wife has no idea and I am extremely secretive about my addiction.

    Anxiety and guilt is killing me from the inside and is affecting my memory, concentration and both my relationship with my wife and with God.

    Its been more than 20 years and I say enough is enough, I am standing my ground and with the support and encouragement that I see on NoFap I feel that I can do this!!

    It is now 3 days for me ( normally 7 days is my longest)

    Thanks for the support
     
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

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    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

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    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  3. Good for you! You can change and have a better life. We’re glad you’re here. We know exactly what you’re going through. Hopefully we can help each other overcome this curse and start living life to its fullest.
     
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  4. Welcome. You’ve come to the right place. Someday soon you may want to come clean to your wife.
     
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  5. I second this. You will know when the time is right. Addiction thrives on secrecy.
     
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  6. rafael33

    rafael33 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PM or NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    The community will support you.

    In fact you always was able to get rid of addiction. You made the habit and you can break the habit. You can’t imagine how strong you are.

    He? Why not she? You have the nice imagination of the old man high up in the sky who is constantly watching you. Forget it. The only God I believe in is the one residing in my heart. The Creator loves me, he (or she) doesn’t judge me.

    A wonderful opportunity to start a new phase. Tell your wife about your addiction, many wives are very supportive.
    It needs some courage to change the own life. That’s exactly you are longing for. And your wife and your kids also want to be happy in the future.
     
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